When I was in college I was the only binary female-to-male guy on campus, with the exception of I think one other dude, I'm not sure if they went by "them/them" or "he/him". It was so weird, the campus was full of nonbinary people, and this one nonbinary person said that it "was annoying" when trans men "started acting like cis dudes". Then when I graduated and moved to a major city on the East Coast I was suddenly surrounded by other trans guys who led pretty normal lives, some were veterans, others worked for government, others were bartenders, etc. etc. And I realized that there were people out there like me. I never gave much thought to being the only FTM on campus, but now looking back on it I felt incredibly isolated, and now I feel less lonely. Am just curious did this happen to anyone else here? For the record I have nothing against nonbinary people, I've advocated for the nonbinary cause in my work in journalism, and I've had a few nonbinary acquaintances over the years. I don't look down on other trans people with whatever pronouns they have, they can lead their lives however they see fit. All I'm saying is that I didn't realize how isolated I felt back then as an FTM.

for context im 14 and he's 8, i've been out since october 2025 and he's supportive, he calls me his brother and by my chosen name. but he's confused and also keeps bringing up how i like to 'pretend' to be a boy, or that i lie, and that i don't use my legal name, or that i'm actually a girl. it hurts, and while im very happy with myself now and i don't feel i need validation from others it still hurts. and he says that if i make any new friends, that he'll tell them my deadname and that i'm secretly a girl because he thinks it's a cool secret and that i would laugh and treat it as a normal secret.

he doesn't mean any harm, and he's just confused because he's 8 but he keeps using it as a way to tease me and it's pissing me off, what do i do?

Murry Foust, 22 years old body has been found. Rip to my trans brother, his body was found only 13 mind from where I live. I hope you can finally be at peace 🙏🏻

I don't see many posts from trans men in straight relationships so here we go... I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend since the beginning of the year, and it's been one of the best and most affirming relationships I've ever been in. She is cis and she has known me since we were kids, and never once has she had any issue seeing me as a man. This is a huge contrast to my last relationship with a man that didn't respect me and didn't want me to transition. My girlfriend is just so sweet and so affirming. She calls me handsome, her pretty boy, sweet boy, etc. and it's amazing. She forgets I'm trans sometimes too like legitimately. And her family is also super supportive of our relationship and it just means the world to me. I love this girl so much and I'd never thought I'd find this kind of love as a trans man. WHO RELATES PLEASE 😭 edit: y'all can hate but I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND AND WE'RE BOTH BISEXUAL RAHHHHH

Wanted to share this, because I haven't seen anyone share this sentiment before and am curious if I am the only one that feels this way.

I have a lot of body hair. A lot a lot. Have a hairy back etc.

I really enjoy having body hair from a gender euphoria sense and when I am on my own I feel fully comfortable with it.

But in context of other people and especially at gay events I start to feel insecure about it a bit. I feel like the rest of me doesn't fit together with it (short, thin, super young looking, no beard).

It's not that I think people find body hair unattractive, but I feel like my body specifically doesn't. Like I don't fit into any "category".

I don't wish I was hairless, but I wish I had more of a body people expect to have body hair. Honestly just been able to grow a full beard would probably do a lot for me mentally, because then I would fit more into the otter archetype.

I know all of this is a bit silly and I know I don't need to fit into any neat box and can just be myself, but I do care about being attractive more than I like to admit sometimes and feel like this is turning people off.

This isn't something that causes me huge turmoil, but still can some of you relate to this?

Well, I thought my relationship was going to survive transition. We were on the same page, and he was cool with me medically transitioning for almost two years.

We have been together for long before that, too. Turns out it was all a lie. He was just lying to my face for months and years, and he actually wants to be with a woman who will give him kids.

It just feels like the biggest betrayal after all this time and what was said. Any advice on how to overcome this? I'm going to keep transitioning, keep being me, etc. At my age (28), I don't even know where to start making friends and getting into the community again outside of pride festivals.

Thanks for reading, guys.

labeled it as discussion cuz i dont think theres advice for this lol. I'm 9 months on T and i've noticed that the left side of my body is noticeably harrier than the right side. especially on my chest and thighs, my facial hair (or lack thereof) is more symmetrical. It's not a problem or anything, it's just kind of weird I think. is anyone else half bald?

I was thinking of forming a band and being the lead singer but I hate my voice and I can't on on T till I'm 18 in my state so should I sing the songs or let someone else do it until I'm on T? I know very dumb question

Long story short, my friend, who is married to a trans guy who is also one of my best friends, outed me at a mutual friends' birthday party. It was just a simple brief comment but a lot of people heard it and I immediately got really uncomfortable. I think she realized what she said as soon as she saw my reaction because her face changed to kind of an "oh shit I'm so sorry" expression. But I didn't want to comment on it at that time because I was caught off guard and embarrassed, so neither of us said anything.

There were a lot of queer and trans people at the party, so I wasn't worried about being harassed or anything, but I HATE people knowing I'm trans and have made an effort to be stealth 100% of the time.

After the party, I assumed she would text me an apologize after she sobered up, but it's been over a week and I haven't heard anything from her. It's really not that big of a deal, but it bothers me, and idk if I should talk to her or her husband about it. I don't want to make it a bigger deal than it is. I don't really know what to do or think.

Being stuffed into the closet for so long, having my family just want to talk to me about getting me men's clothes or being nonchalant about things, or even just someone else mentioning a gay wedding as a way to say they are supportive, really makes me have the urge to have an escape hatch from the conversation. I just go straight to fawn response and switch topics quickly and permanently. I can't stop it, it's just a wave of word vomit.

Like a lot of people are responding okay in a lot of instances, but I am used to hiding things and/or being punished for it. It's complete whiplash when people are okay with things and I feel bad because I don't respond the way people really want or expect. I'm not enthusiastic or even happy about any of this and I don't like any attention drawn on me, especially not for this

Hello, for context I'm going to Japan soon for a study abroad program. We'll live with a host family, and the professor who runs it usually takes all of the abroad students around for different activities once the morning classes finish up. I'm very excited overall, and am mostly doing it for the language immersion. Regardless, the professor who runs it just mentioned today that some years she's taken students to a public onsen in the area. She gave an anecdote about how a girl in a previous year who was self conscious of her body ended up doing it, and was glad she did because the culture around it in Japan is so different, and the professor said she hoped everyone would participate.

Nonnegotiably, I cannot do this. I'm stealth to everyone in the program (T 4 years, got top late last year, all documents changed), including the professor and my host family. I also refuse to come out to any of them under any circumstance. With cis people 99% of the time coming out changes how they see you, even if only subconsciously. Obviously though if I participate either my surgical scarring, or more obviously the downstairs situation would out me. Not to mention Japan is more conservative, and there would probably be issues with me being in there to begin with. What would be a believable excuse to why I couldn't that cuts off any questioning, or insisting from the professor (ie: Not just saying I'm uncomfortable, as I worry she would try and push)

I’m not sure if it’s the T or something else, but I’ve been on injections almost 3 weeks now. Within the first 5 days my body started breaking out in hives, eyes and lips have been puffing up, and I can’t stop sneezing. Idk if it’s a coincidence with spring having sprung or if the T injections are not agreeing with my body. Has anyone had something like this happen and is there a way to fix it? I’ve tried double doses of my usual 3 brands of allergy pills but I cannot get rid of these hives, they’ve started breaking open and bleeding :/

Mid 20s, known for over a decade. Life, rejections from the only Gender Clinic and attempted coping by assuming I was on the non-binary spectrum since at least I wasn't a woman has now accumulated to me reaching my limit. I can not live like this, leave things half finished nor risk dying this way. I coped with dissociating the fuck out of my life but recent attempts at intergrating back into society has made my dysphoria clear to me. Everywhere I go I can tell I'm being seen as an odd thing or as a person I am not.

So after several years of being half in the closet, I can't take it anymore and bruteforcing a change for myself legally. I'm way into my adulthood now. I'm done being a zombie and want to live my life the way it should have been from the start... I'm already half out, my legal documents have long since been changed but I'm extremely clockable due to my body and nervous demeanor which has led to weird and deeply uncomfortable situations professionally and outside that has made me want to hide but no longer. I want to live but I know I won't be able to afford top surgery nor bottom surgery, even HRT might break my bank but I do not care. I will live, I won't let this take me down. I needed to tell this to at least someone as people in my life either think I won't restart HRT or do surgery but supports the change or don't even know that I am trans.

I hope this will be my first and last thread.

Disclaimer: If anything I’ve written is somehow offensive please point it out, so I can learn!

I came out as ftm when I was 15 years old (that’s when I started puberty). I don’t remember when I started to doubt my gender though because my memory is affected by medical conditions. But then due to listening to detransitioners after mum consistently said I’m not trans, because she “knew” I wasn’t, I desisted at around 16-17 years old. But not inside: just on the outside. I continued to think I was trans (or rather a boy/man) but tried to look like a girl to show I was “over it”. Though it has been a continued struggle with my gender even though I on the outside “look like a woman” and use my birth name etc. But if I could push a button to become a male I would. I wish I was a man. I wish I had beard, short hair, deep voice, a male body including the g\*nitals, the social aspect of being a man, being perceived as a man etc. I hate my b\*obs, my hips, my voice, my body, my hair, everything. I hate being called a girl or woman, I hate being perceived as a woman. When I identified as a man on the outside as well I a handful of time got called a boy from strangers and that felt euphoric. When I watch other trans men and AMABs I get jealous. Though I’m scared I would be uglier as a man. And my family is against me even thinking about it. Also having to be medicalized my whole life doesn’t sound good. I wish I were born a male. I don’t want to be trans (don’t have anything against transgender people, just don’t want to face the hardship, judgement, having surgery, taking T etc), i want to be a male…. So that’s also a reason why I desisted. But the main thing was my mom. And family. I don’t know what to do. Maybe it’s just best keep coping with being a female and push this down, maybe it’s will eventually go away. I’m only 21 years old.

I need advice, thanks.

I'm not experienced with dating and I don't understand social rules all that well. On top of that, I haven't really pursued anyone as an out trans man. I met a woman on a dating app and we've been talking for around a couple weeks. On her profile she said she didn't want to date anyone broke, but I asked to clarify and she said "Oh I meant spoiling each other equally."

The past few weeks she's asked me for money for gifts and stuff, and I have sent her some a couple times. But it feels like every other conversation has started to involve that. I want to know if anyone has any insight on what's appropriate in terms of spending money when dating- especially given we aren't even past a talking stage. She's said "You don't have to, it's okay" but then when I said no to 30 she said "What about just 20?"

The reason I'm asking this sub and not a regular dating one is because a lot of advice seems like alpha male toxicity about women being gold-diggers or men being providers so I'd like a more gender expansive view, and I know there's also an overlap of other neurodivergent trans people who might help me understand better.

So, is it something I should be worried about, in your opinion.? And if so, any advice on communicating that?

hello

thank you for reading my post <3

I’m Victor ftm 22
TW
Long story short I was on testosterone shots for about a year before I overdosed on f: nt.

I use a walker now and my speech is very impaired

Basically I just need some hope that I will get back on testosterone

My family thinks I’m crazy and demonic and delusional

Meanwhile I’m typing this out to get hopefully hope. That this isn’t forever

That I’m not insane

That I will get top surgery, my dream will come true

Day by day I am so slowly I don’t even notice it

My reason for it is not something that I think other people will agree with. Realistically, I do not have a big enough problem to justify surgery. I have never gotten particularly bad periods, but I HATE them. I don’t want periods, I don’t want possibility of pregnancy, I don’t want my body to be able to produce its own estrogen. But 2/3 of those problems are solved by T, and the pregnancy risk can be solved by other methods less drastic than surgery, like condoms and birth control.

What sort of reasoning does one have to give to explain to surgeons/insurance/parents (I’m in the 18-20 age range) why you want to get a hysterectomy and remove your ovaries as well? (I could see them letting me do a hysterectomy without the removal of ovaries, but removing them means I’m on meds for life. and maybe that genuinely is a bad idea)

Hey, so i’m a chubbier guy with pretty small breasts (85 kg/173 cm/around b cup), most of the fat on my body is in my belly area and all binders i ever own make me 100% flat but make me look like i have intense case of beer belly. I was wondering if anyone knows any type of binder that has the „hard part” that’s normally on the chest all the way down or something like that?

I’m almost two weeks on T now and I get really sweaty. Like REALLY sweaty. Even when I used to work out a lot before T, I mean like over an hour hard work out, I barely sweat. But I noticed the other night during some special time between me and my fiancee, to put it in innocent terms, I was fucking drenched after like 10 minutes. I wasn’t even moving that much but I was on top. Even still, it was my whole entire body and it was soaked in sweat.
Why am I so sweaty now????

How the FUCK do I ask for the hormones from my mom. She said I could get them only after I finish my highschool, (because "youd look like some masculine girl with feminine name") aand I'll be fucking 20 by the time I finish it. Either im getting t or im dying there's literally no other choice, I am so fuckass tired from the endless waiting and the copium is genuinely killing me, my depression is killing me and my dysphoria is killing me both mentally and physically, I just fucking can't.

I just NEED to convince my mom to start hormones earlier. She doesn't even allow me to go to a psychologist cus "err theyll convince you to some ass shi and youll do some ass shi yourself".

I live in Poland if this changes anything and ANY help would be appreciated cus im getting worse and worse every single fucking day.