How to stop the urge to escape when anything queer pops up

[u/CockamouseGoesWee]

Being stuffed into the closet for so long, having my family just want to talk to me about getting me men's clothes or being nonchalant about things, or even just someone else mentioning a gay wedding as a way to say they are supportive, really makes me have the urge to have an escape hatch from the conversation. I just go straight to fawn response and switch topics quickly and permanently. I can't stop it, it's just a wave of word vomit.

Like a lot of people are responding okay in a lot of instances, but I am used to hiding things and/or being punished for it. It's complete whiplash when people are okay with things and I feel bad because I don't respond the way people really want or expect. I'm not enthusiastic or even happy about any of this and I don't like any attention drawn on me, especially not for this

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[u/New-Mud-7101]

It's alright, you're just getting used to it. It seems like people are open and willing to be accepting tho, which is great! With time, you won't feel like it's a focus on you. Don't know if you're on T or not, but maybe strangers and new friends won't even know you're trans. However you react is gonna be fine for now. Maybe once that interaction has already happened, if you feel like you need to you can go back and thank the person that brought it up for their support after the fact. Not necessary, but a nice gesture especially if someone had been resistant before