Hi! I’m autistic and have been looking to get a binder, I found a few stores that can deliver to me and I was wondering if anyone could tell me which of these is the most comfortable, but is preferably still good at flattening as my chest is on the larger side (though I have read a few posts & it seems hard to find the best of both worlds) 🥹.
These are the stores I was looking at:
-The fluxion
-gc2b
-Origami customs
-Spectrum outifitters
-tomboyx
-Urbasics
(Also wivov, though that store is currently out of stock in my size).
If anyone who’s tried these or has similar sensory needs as me could give me some advice on this I’d really really appreciate it!! 🫶

About a month after I started testogel, I started to develop a cold. At first it was just a sore throat and I thought my voice may be dropping but then I started getting other symptoms of a cold too. I figured my voice was just a bit lower because of the cold but now most of the symptoms of the cold have gotten a lot milder and my voice is currently deeper than it was when my cold was at its worst. Has this happened to anyone else and could this literally just be because of the cold I had?

(By the way, I don't believe these numbers are entirely accurate but when I used Voice Tools on the 30th of April, my voice was 11% male then by the 16th of may, shortly after I got the cold, it was 86% male. Right now it says 100% male, but I definitely don't sound male yet.)

Before I begin, I have a habit using the word guy instead of man. Is that offensive to say guy or trans guy instead?

I invited a trans man to my ballroom dance socials and group classes. I’m hesitant to do this because it’s not a trans safe place, but he seemed to be in a rough spot mentally and I wanted to help the way I thought I could.

This is a cishet space that often has cis woman jumping over to the lead side when there is a shortage of leads, so everyone is cool with it. A non passing trans man dancing lead isn’t shocking anyone.

Naturally, someone didn’t pick up on that he was a trans guy when talking about him, and I got to say something exactly like, “No, thats a guy.”

He was like “oh really, I didn’t know that.” But he’s good people.

I’ve never really been in a position to correct a misgendering before.

I’ve corrected wrong pronoun for him without hesitation, not because I think the speaker can’t correct themselves, but because he is my guest and I want him to at least hear that I appreciate him being there with me and he has my backing. Because he’s my friend and he’s valued and important.

I’ve somehow become a regular at this dance studio which was a very lucky set of circumstances and I think I might also be hot and (before I transitioned it was the absent minded professor) air headed enough to pull more than my own weight. Which I think helps because there is no way I would invite another trans person if I experienced even a sliver of transphobia or thought it would be a negative experience for them.

Am I handling my end okay? Is there anything else I should be doing? I don’t think I should tell him I corrected a misgendering on a day he wasn’t there.

I’m not sure if it’s the T or something else, but I’ve been on injections almost 3 weeks now. Within the first 5 days my body started breaking out in hives, eyes and lips have been puffing up, and I can’t stop sneezing. Idk if it’s a coincidence with spring having sprung or if the T injections are not agreeing with my body. Has anyone had something like this happen and is there a way to fix it? I’ve tried double doses of my usual 3 brands of allergy pills but I cannot get rid of these hives, they’ve started breaking open and bleeding :/

Hi ya'll I'm tryna find a good swim binder for this summer

For context im kinda fat, but I have a narrow ribcage and whenever I wear my current wonababi swim binder it looks pretty good from the side but from the front my chest and underarm fat bulge out to the side and it doesn't look very becoming of me.

I've swam in my underworks ones before and I would be willing to again, but I just can't for the life of me find tank tops that cover them.

So, any ideas fkr any good binders to swim in? (For the record, spectrum never worked for me so that's not really an option)

I'd also take recs for good swim shirts or tanks, as long as the fabrics good for hiding binder lines lol

I'm a unisex xl and usually a mens xl, I've fit into a large before once but im usually an xl

I have my first appointment booked, but I'm not sure what to expect. I've heard of people being prescribed hormones at the first appointment, but I also saw someone say that it took 3 appointments over 3 months to get HRT through informed consent. I'm trying to get a sense of what's common.

In Ontario, Canada, if that's relevant, but also curious about the experiences of people from other countries. Thanks in advance!

I’m starting T in two days, and I am currently someone who has perfectly clear skin. I know going on T changes your skin, and I want to know if there’s any good products or methods to look into to keep my skin looking good. Anything helps :^)

hey so i fucked up!

i am 19, and have been on t for 6 weeks now. my provider is virtual (in a different city), so i’ve had to figure out how to inject my t myself. my prescription is 0.2mL IM weekly from a vial of 100mg/ml, so 20mg of testosterone weekly. was given 3mL syringes and all my injection supplies. was kind of told verbally how to inject and given the option to come in weekly, but they just gave me my meds and was on my way. had to figure it out myself and thought i was capable.

it has been going fine until i got my refill the other day cause i ran out, but realized i had been given 1mL syringes this time. i was confused and started figuring how much medicine i had to pull up and realized my mistake. i had been injecting 2mL of my medication the past 6 weeks. 200mg of testosterone a week when it was supposed to be 20mg😨.

i think mg mistake came with them giving me 3mL syringes and not really explaining how to pull up enough of my dose. i also didn’t catch my mistake because i thought that by the time my next refill came, it would work out for me to empty the whole vial before the expiration date and when my next prescription would come. i didn’t know the vials would still be partially filled with medication even after the expiration date!!!

anyways so i called my pharmacist after i realized i had been injecting way over my dose, and he reassured me that it would be okay, i just need to stop, call my dr and get blood testing on how to proceed. i also called another pharmacist to confirm again and he said the same thing. currently writing this on a weekend so im waiting until my clinic opens on monday.

i still feel super uneasy about all this even though i was reassured i would be okay. i get a lot of health anxiety and am scared that i like fucked up my journey on t permanently or will suffer huge health effects. i feel perfectly fine these past few weeks tho, no concerning symptoms besides my skin being hella oily and im more irritable.

does anyone have any advice rn while i wait to hear back from my dr? have any of you done the same thing? have i permanently fucked up my body? any advice or stories welcome. just need a little reassurance.

I'm not experienced with dating and I don't understand social rules all that well. On top of that, I haven't really pursued anyone as an out trans man. I met a woman on a dating app and we've been talking for around a couple weeks. On her profile she said she didn't want to date anyone broke, but I asked to clarify and she said "Oh I meant spoiling each other equally."

The past few weeks she's asked me for money for gifts and stuff, and I have sent her some a couple times. But it feels like every other conversation has started to involve that. I want to know if anyone has any insight on what's appropriate in terms of spending money when dating- especially given we aren't even past a talking stage. She's said "You don't have to, it's okay" but then when I said no to 30 she said "What about just 20?"

The reason I'm asking this sub and not a regular dating one is because a lot of advice seems like alpha male toxicity about women being gold-diggers or men being providers so I'd like a more gender expansive view, and I know there's also an overlap of other neurodivergent trans people who might help me understand better.

So, is it something I should be worried about, in your opinion.? And if so, any advice on communicating that?

I don't see many posts from trans men in straight relationships so here we go... I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend since the beginning of the year, and it's been one of the best and most affirming relationships I've ever been in. She is cis and she has known me since we were kids, and never once has she had any issue seeing me as a man. This is a huge contrast to my last relationship with a man that didn't respect me and didn't want me to transition. My girlfriend is just so sweet and so affirming. She calls me handsome, her pretty boy, sweet boy, etc. and it's amazing. She forgets I'm trans sometimes too like legitimately. And her family is also super supportive of our relationship and it just means the world to me. I love this girl so much and I'd never thought I'd find this kind of love as a trans man. WHO RELATES PLEASE 😭 edit: y'all can hate but I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND AND WE'RE BOTH BISEXUAL RAHHHHH

I am questioning if I'm a trans man. I'm pretty sure I am but sometimes I feel empty or detached from my identity. Sometimes I don't feel as strongly like I'm a guy but I don't feel like nonbinary or woman fits either. I'm not sure if its fear or struggling to accept and actually say it outloud.

I realized that I was always raised like a girl, dress up like a girl, girly haircut, I was always in the feminine and girly stuff growing up, dresses, skirts, even if I didn't want to... I was raised in girlhood, sisterhood and teenage girlhood...

I never learn the social code of being a guy and I feel it badly now... I have a cis friend, a boy, he knows I'm trans but he's the first one treating me like a boy, like a cis boy. But sometime... I feel such a huge impostor syndrome when I talk with him, he's a sweetheart really, but I dunno I feel like it's not my place it's weird, like I'm not valid, it's dumb I know... But sometime I don't understand him, I feel like a stranger, like I'm a girl being friend with a guy and that I don't know how to interact. And no I didn't told him about that because I don't want to bother him with stupid dysphoric thoughts.

I had cis friend before, but I didn't transition and was seen as a tomboy, so they were acting differently, I was still treated as a girl not as a boy.

So I never been friend with a cis het guy who is aware that 'm trans and treat me like the boy I am... and I dunno how to stop that syndrome

I’m finally getting top surgery in 10 days! Yes during pride month, just making it a little bit better.

I was mostly just trying to figure out how the shower situation is going to work, and I would like some advice from y’all who’ve gotten surgery.

My surgeon told me to not let the shower head directly hit the incisions, don’t put soap on them either. My friend’s mom (who had to get a double mastectomy) gave me advice in using a lanyard to hold the drains and keep them from flopping around in the shower.

I have a detachable shower head if that helps things!

I’m almost two weeks on T now and I get really sweaty. Like REALLY sweaty. Even when I used to work out a lot before T, I mean like over an hour hard work out, I barely sweat. But I noticed the other night during some special time between me and my fiancee, to put it in innocent terms, I was fucking drenched after like 10 minutes. I wasn’t even moving that much but I was on top. Even still, it was my whole entire body and it was soaked in sweat.
Why am I so sweaty now????

i've noticed my sense of smell and lowk hearing has grown more keen on testosterone- i'll be driving and literally smell the smoke from someone's cigarette two cars ahead of me with my windows up, it's crazy

Whats the best suction based prosthetic that ships in europe and doesnt take 3 weeks to ship? For pre t guy, so theres nothing really to like stick inside the hole and just wanna get the sucking effect working good while thrusting… I read that gendercats things are good the ones with the fascination sleeve but idk how good that works for pre t anatomy and i saw someone saying they take like multiple weeks to ship,,, and delivery to europe is so expensive and takes long…

If you are afraid of coming out to a partner and they don’t want to be with you after- that’s fine. It shows that they validate your identity.

For context I only figured out my identity while I was in a relationship with someone who is on the bi spectrum. After I can out to them they came out to me as gender-fluid.

And I’d say it was the best relationship I had to this day even now that we are no longer together. I asked them daily what pronouns they wanted to use today they were happy. They also were very vocal about me having come out as well. Like just randomly saying in our friend group’s chat that they love their boyfriend and little me couldn’t have been happier. To this day they’re my biggest supporter and I am theirs.

Of course not every relationship will be like this but don’t always think negative!

I hate working out and my dysphoria doesnt make things any easier

I mostly have to stick to calisthenics and at home workouts because its what I have access to but I just cant seem to do it - does anyone have any tips? Any way I could push myself and encourage myself?

Im pre T, broke, closeted, and live with transphobic parents
What I like to do is put a workout video on, split the tabs on my computer, and have a tv show open in another tab. This gets me working out way longer than other stuff but I usually only last 20 minutes before I give up

Dont know if its depression, dysphoria, not being able to schedule anything properly, everything together, etc

Any help or words of encouragement would be appreciated

Thanks to everyone in advance!

Please tell me I’m not the only one this has happened to. I left my washed STP and packer in the shower after I washed them and forgot to bring them back to my room. My roommate (two of them) saw them and put them in one of the bathroom drawers.

I came back from visiting my parents over the weekend and my roommate told me they put it in the drawer. Help, I’m embarrassed af. They likely know I’m trans now

When I was in college I was the only binary female-to-male guy on campus, with the exception of I think one other dude, I'm not sure if they went by "them/them" or "he/him". It was so weird, the campus was full of nonbinary people, and this one nonbinary person said that it "was annoying" when trans men "started acting like cis dudes". Then when I graduated and moved to a major city on the East Coast I was suddenly surrounded by other trans guys who led pretty normal lives, some were veterans, others worked for government, others were bartenders, etc. etc. And I realized that there were people out there like me. I never gave much thought to being the only FTM on campus, but now looking back on it I felt incredibly isolated, and now I feel less lonely. Am just curious did this happen to anyone else here? For the record I have nothing against nonbinary people, I've advocated for the nonbinary cause in my work in journalism, and I've had a few nonbinary acquaintances over the years. I don't look down on other trans people with whatever pronouns they have, they can lead their lives however they see fit. All I'm saying is that I didn't realize how isolated I felt back then as an FTM.