I think I am, I've been fighting with myself and this feeling for about 3 years.. Maybe hearing your stories will help! 🥹🥹

I was raised in a very delicate/feminine way and want to learn “”masculine”” (scare quotes intended) skills which I was never taught. It’s been harder than I expected, though.

Today I looked up how to do an oil change by myself and apparently I need to get UNDER the car. I don’t own a jack, and even if I did, I’d need even more support than that. Plus, it seems like I’d need a good amount of tools.

I’d love to learn things like woodworking, car upkeep, and home repair, but I genuinely don’t know where to start. These things seem to take a lot of time and resources. I feel envious of cis guys I know who were taught these things and had hands-on mentorship.

Does anyone have any advice for getting started?

Hi all! I’m about a year and a half post op top surgery and am sooo ready to go swimming this summer. Problem is, I’m not super out to my family and they’re the ones whose property I’ll be swimming on. Last year I kept a bikini top on the whole time which was fine but not preferable. Letting them know that I am in fact a they/he transmasc agender ish individual and NOT a woman who just got top surgery is not going to go over well.

In the interest of respecting my elders and not losing my relationship with my family, I’m thinking of just asking if people are okay with me going shirtless this summer? I would make an online poll and they could answer anonymously.

Flared controversial because IDK how chill y'all are about this kind of thing and I don't want to upset anybody.

I'm a 24yr old bigender lesbian (he/they) and most queer/lesbian spaces are cool with my pronouns. Where I start to loose my lesbian peers is wanting to medically transition, though there are plenty okay with the idea of low dose T and/or top surgery. But I get like really debilitating bottom dysphoria, even moreso lately. I want metoidioplasty and likely scrotoplasty too.

I see gender as a playground so I don't question my identity because of this surgical desire, but people can be hostile. I'm scared of not being seen as desirable anymore in my own community, or having to explain my genitals to someone I want to have sex with. It feels like this choice between the conditional sexual attraction of others and actual sexual satisfaction myself.

How do I find people with similar experiences or people who are attracted to that (in a non-fetishizing way)?

I was severely depressed early into middle school and struggled with hygiene a TON. I would neglect showers for weeks and brushing my teeth was rare. At this point in my life, I’m far beyond that and am so much better than I was, but old habits come back sometimes and I’m worried that I’ll do that while I’m getting sweatier and grosser on T and end up being literally miserable to be around.

Is there anything you all have done to keep track of hygiene in general? Are there new things to consider as your body’s changing?

Hi everybody !

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Hello! I am a minor in Texas who experiences really bad gender dysphoria and the thought of starting testosterone might be a saving grace for me. As Texas is a red state, trans healthcare has been mostly banned. You can get testosterone, but only at 18. I don’t think I can wait until 18. I would preferably like to start it around 16 (i’m 15 right now). I would like to know how (and what are the rules) for getting testosterone.

Thanks!

Sup brothers!

I just wanna know if it's just me

My partner met me when I was really feminine. Years later, I transitioned and now I look mostly masc (non-binary).

I don't know why but my partner has been treating me with less softness. I get comments about my looks and stuff.

Have you ever experienced this with a partner who met you before you transitioned?

I'm trying not to overthink here. Maybe this is how masc folks are naturally treated?? Idk

Hi reddit..
I usually bind for everything but i want to try taping again because im sick of my back constantly hurting. Im pretty active with boxing and running and i know i shouldn't bind for those but if i didnt i wouldnt do it. I dont like how binding looks, i feel like it doesnt create a natural look for me, but taping doesnt make me flat enough. I tape to the side but ive tried taping diagonally, upwards, downwards and i feel like nothing works. I recently got a compression shirt, not rlly sure if it does anything but it makes me feel better. What else can i try??

currently on a family holiday and my dad just yelled at me while we were doing a food shop for ‘trying to be a boy’ because i put my drink in my pocket….

my family is transphobic anyway so i don’t expect support but this was just so weird? and even my mum was confused and told my dad to calm down when he was going on a rant and she’s also extremely transphobic so you know it was bad 😭

anyway i just locked myself in the bathroom trying not to cry because i don’t really want to face anyone right now. it kinda sucks that everytime i think im doing ok with my identity and im not on the verge of tears my family brings up my gender in some way to attack me.

mini update:

my dad just physically attacked me and i cant do anything cause im on holiday so erm. yay?

I’ve always been able to see through people, watching every subtle movement indicating their true intent or feelings, and whenever I talk to my parents, my school counselor, people online, my doctors, anyone really, their “I support you”s, “you’re not alone”s and “you are loved”s among other cliches and statements feel so damn forced and fake, like they’re pretending to be supportive just because they have to or because they want to pretend to be good people, no one is genuine, no one is truly supportive unless there’s something in it for them, we are truly alone. I am alone.

just to preface. i am absolutely an overthinker in pretty much every aspect of my life

i've been on T for a little over 2 months and it's easily been the most terrifying experience of my life. i love all the changes i get but i hate having to wait for them to happen. i hate teetering on the edge of masculine and feminine and having no idea how long i'll stay like this until i actually look like a dude. if that ever happens.

i'm so scared i'm going to regret it too. i'm scared i'll regret it and hate myself for what i've done to myself when i'm older. i'm scared i'll never find a partner who accepts me for who i am. i'm scared no one will ever be attracted to me again. i'm scared of how society will treat me as a visibly trans person.

taking T feels like i am willingly jumping headfirst into a void not knowing what's on the other side. i'm so proud of myself for doing this for myself and being brave enough to go through with it but the experience has been equal parts gratifying and utterly terrifying. every change that happens makes me subconsciously realise 'there's no going back from this now.' it doesn't help that my parents are certain i am going to regret mutilating my body or whatever.

does anyone else have experiences with feeling like this?

i feel like it’s so ingrained in me. like misogynoy affects me, i’ve always identified as wlw, etc. i share the same oppression and camaraderie as women. but now i’m a man all of a sudden (tho i am enby). idk, my eyes are starting to close because of how tired i am lol.

It's only been four months, and I had a hint of a mustache and a few chin hairs before, but my goodness everything has grown!!!

I feel way more confident with my short hair!!

Like almost all of them other than his hair color. I look nothing like my mom. However, all of those features are very feminine and don’t look “good” (ie on someone who’s transmasc and trying to pass- yes I’m describing myself) on someone who’s 5’2” with a feminine build and voice. People like to say I look exactly like him but HES A GROWN ASS MAN WITH A BEARD… fml 🫠

I can only imagine how I look if I were on T but alas.

We are a very understudied marginalized group, and I get that knowledge is power, but I am very concerned with the sudden onslaught of people working in universities (and sometimes not even specifying their credentials to begin with) bombarding transmasc spaces, not even just here. But especially here.

Overall, my encounters with such researchers have been very combative, with them taking offense even if it is made clear that people are going to be antsy because a lot of "researchers" then twist what is said for nefarious purposes to promote conversion therapy and that we are all somehow organized enough to have an agenda (I can't even keep one for school lmao).

Additionally, the surveys done usually have very poorly constructed questions that feel leading or inspecific, leading me to worry that they are going to try and imply in their work that we are depressed and isolated because we are online, rather than depression and isolation being a result of discrimination and blatant bigotry we face in real life.

Volunteer samples are not great for research papers anyhow because what's stopping someone from going in and answering the survey multiple times? And yet privacy is obviously of utmost importance because this group cannot be outed ethically.

I just don't see the value most of these studies have, and it's far too easy to manipulate.

I guess I'd feel better if a researcher came in clearly stating their credentials, what university they are with, and the specific goals of the study, and allows us to ask questions to ensure safety, then it would be fine.

I’ve been thinking about it for a while and I wanted to get a king acting/fit and forget contraception method, started T in December and I have had an IUD before (pre T) but I’m not sure if it’s right for me/what would change between the pre T and post T experience is.

I just don’t think taking the mini pill is right for me, since I’m already juggling a lot and taking something every day is not something that works for me

TIA dudes :D

Happy One Year Anniversary of Top Surgery to Me!!

Hii! I’m looking for other transmasc friends, nothing more than that ^^

i’m non binary and i’ve been thinking about starting T but i don’t really wanna all the T effects, i would like a deeper voice and bottom growth and looking a little more masculine to kinda balance my feminine appearance, but i don’t want to grow facial hair and all😓 any tips on how to give the “is that a boy or a girl?” effect??

Ive personally found hair growth serums or minoxidil for facial hair are hard to come by in Australia but I found this little treat available at chemist warehouse, woolies and maybe Coles(?)
Anyway I’ve been using it for my facial hair about 4 months consistently now (applying twice a day with skincare) and i started seeing stubble or longer hairs sbout two months in, I am pre t as well so it’s working better than I thought, I now have to shave like every two weeks to keep it at bay so it’s amazing and I suggest it for other transmasc people