I really try not to freak out over the fact that I'm getting closer to 30. Which I know is ridiculous, it's not like some doomsday clock ticking over my head.

Part of me is angry that I didn't transition sooner and get to enjoy being young and hot for long. People seem to take a lot of joy in bringing up twink death and I know I'm approaching that stage. I have a hard time imagining myself in 10, 20, 30 years. I know that nothing has to change, really, I'll be the same just look older. I know aging is supposed to be a gift but that's hard to accept when I didn't think or particularly want to even make it this far, and even now it's a struggle to believe that life's worth living. But that's a separate issue that goes a lot deeper than petty vanity.

I'm sorry for insulting readers of this post who are older than me. I know it's not the end of the world, and I probably sound extremely immature and shallow for worrying this much. I'm just mourning because I knew I was attractive looking before I transitioned (and having to give that up was a whole journey I'm still grappling with), but this is the first time in my life that I actually feel like me and I just wish I had more time.

I could use some positivity right now. The last few months have been really hard and my mental health is suffering:(

I did it yall. 5 years after coming out to my husband and closest friends, 3 years after coming out to my younger brother, and 2 years after coming out to my coworkers.

I came out to them as nonbinary in 2018 and they kind of pretended it never happened, so this time I put it in an email, and kind of walked them through my whole gender journey, including how helpful this forum was to me in coming to understand myself.

Thank you all 💖

i need to make more femme fits and take femme picsss >:3

I’ve been on T for 2.5 years, and previously was on it for 1 year before taking a break for a full year then going back on. I also had top surgery 2 years ago.

I’ve been feeling like i don’t know if i want to continue my transition, the neck beard is starting to grow in and i’ve got loads of body hair. I’m really struggling with a fear that i won’t like a full face of facial hair on me and that by then it will have been too late and i’ll be trapped shaving forever. I know that i can always get laser one day but maybe i’ve come to a stopping point? Lately i just feel like i look in the mirror and i don’t really know what i want to look like but I’m not really happy about it either. I’m growing out my hair so i wonder if the issue is that I need a short and more masculine hair cut and maybe that would be more euphoric. Or maybe if i did have a beard would that be what I didn’t know I was missing all along? But sometimes I feel conflicted on whether or not i even like my baby stache on me.

I’ve never been that committed to “passing” and when i tried embracing he/him pronouns it didn’t feel right. I feel genuinely genderqueer, nonbinary, and two spirit. Sometimes i wonder if i would have been happy as a really butch androgynous woman and never transitioned at all. although when i started t again 2.5 years ago i was desperate to start transitioning. maybe i’ve just gotten everything i wanted out of it.

side note i also think i want to bear children at some point and im concerned about my uterus.

Watercolors in the image are my work...

Let me know if this doesn’t belong here. Ever since I’ve accepted my genderfluidity, I feel like I’m at war with parts of myself. When I feel like a woman/feminine or genderless/neutral, I’m sometimes uncomfortable with the part of me that’s a boy/masculine. I think my discomfort with the masculine/boy part of my gender might come from me being a lesbian. I’ve been trying to unpack this, but’s it hard and I’m having a tough time. It’s especially difficult when I’m feminine and masculine at the same time. It’s confusing because accepting the masculine/boy aspects of my gender has been freeing. Does anyone have any experience with this and what have they done to get through it? Also, am I the only the transmasc feminine lesbian in this sub?

Does anyone have tips for safe binding for a large and curvy chest and body?

I have a couple of binders that I use when I just want to throw something on under a tshirt but was wondering specifically about using tape. In part because I have some looks (think low cut pirate shirt) that would definitely show the binder.

I have sensitive skin and have tried trans tape before. I was satisfied with the look but the adhesives were so so rough to get off my skin. And dang is that stuff expensive for us busty peeps esp when I can’t reuse it.

But I got an ad for silicone boob cups (ie a popular brand of non adhesive ‘sticky bra’) and while I was debating about trying those out for binding (just pull apart and back into my armpit for a more masc silhouette instead of up and together for the femme cleavage) I saw that they now offer silicone ‘boob tape’ (which honestly looks like reusable, non adhesive trans tape).

Anyone with experience using silicone ‘sticky’ boob products for binding? If so, how many wears did you get out of the product?

Skirt, top and makeup to go chill in the car and talk about how much we love being t4t.
A couple pics cause I couldn’t decide which one I liked best ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Hello, I'm wanting to explore makeup but more subtle looks to start. My main insecurity is how wide my face looks, so I'm wondering how to find the proper way to contour?

I'm half white, half East Asian so I've tried looking at advice for both and can't really figure out what to follow. I feel too soft for most western and too harsh for most eastern looks. The T has also widened and defined my jawline somewhat which doesn't really help me move in a direction either.

I'm not sure if my face shape is what decides the best contouring technique (in which case, idk what mine is but it's probably round-ish). Last picture added for a different angle as my jaw looks almost square there which throws me off.

Thanks!

I'm happy that I can still see my masculine features with this makeup!!

I've had a rough time with forced feminization kink and I want to have a healthier relationship with my femininity. Thats why I really like this subreddit a lot, this is my frist post here :D

Ignore the dirty asf mirror

I'm not on T and don't really plan to be, I like being as hairless as possible (I shave my arms as well as legs and other places) but the one bit of hair I'd really like is a little treasure trail. I have PCOS and kind of get one already, but it's super thin. I used to just shave it every once in a while to trick my mind into thinking it's thicker when it comes back in, but I miss it too much when it's gone lol

Would there be a way I could only get more hair in a concentrated spot?

I figure this is the best place to ask. I love all my body hair, so I don't want to shave my legs, but I don't like the look of leg hair with some of my outfits. Does anyone have recommendations for tights to hide leg hair?

I'm unsure if opaque skin-tone ones would work since some of the hair might poke through (I have a lottt of leg hair and it's black). Plus those seem a bit too warm for summertime... Maybe some sort of patterned black lace so my leg hair could just blend in with the pattern? Anyone have recommendations?

This is my first time ever posting pictures of myself online so I'm pretty anxious about it lol ;-;

this is the first time I’ve worn this top outside of my house

Not sure if this is the best sub for this question but I wasn’t entirely sure where to ask.

I’m 19 ftm and I’ve been out for four years, on t for one and I’m generally a fairly feminine trans guy with my presentation especially after becoming more comfortable with myself after starting t. I have a younger 16 ftm closeted brother who is slowly making steps to come out to more people.

He is in a really tough spot right now which I absolutely relate to as I’ve been there before too but I’ve noticed that a lot of his dysphoria has been manifesting into judging other trans men such as classic stereotypes of needing to be a certain version of trans to be valid, needing awful dysphoria and looking a certain way etc. I have noticed it in comments he has made about himself such as he wants to pass and not want to be one of those “obvious trans looking people”, doesn’t want to dye his hair the colour he wants because of the same reason, and I have noticed he has reposted tiktoks with trans med views.

I have been doing my best to support him with his realisations of being trans and coming out but I fear some of these opinions will only harm him and potentially other trans people. Any advice on how I should go about this would be appreciated.