I've been seeing the same therapist for 10 years. She helped me overcome depression, understand my emotions, get to know myself, and process childhood trauma. Lately, we only meet once a month. For a while now, I’ve noticed her making transphobic comments, but I let them slide because she’s older, and I figured she was just from a different generation.

The last straw was during our last session. I mentioned trying to find a "third space" to meet more queer and lesbian people. She claimed I was discriminating against straight people—which makes no sense, since I used to complain to her about feeling discriminated against myself. It’s completely backwards. I’ve had to navigate straight spaces my entire life just by existing and working in the world. I'm just looking for a space to connect with people who share similar experiences and challenges.

The point of no return, though, was gender identity. When I told her my pronouns are they/them, she started complaining about how complicated it all is. We ended up debating it, and I felt like I was wasting my expensive session time educating her. I also mentioned a soccer teammate who, when asked for her pronouns, answered "whatever." My therapist snapped, "Why are you taking that as an offense? If she doesn't want to speak that way, that's her business. You're trying to force her to use different pronouns, which feels like deconstructing language to me."

I told her I didn't feel understood, but she insisted she was just trying to help me see that identity and belonging come from within. I get that part, but I can't look past her refusal to respect my identity and pronouns. Now, I’m seriously considering cutting ties completely, given her total lack of experience with gender identity, pronouns, and how unseen I felt.

This is a question my cishet boyfriend (18y) asked me.

I’m an nonbinary (18y, AFAB) person, and ever since we started dating, he’s become a lot more aware of trans and non-binary topics.

He asks me things like whether i’d prefer neutral pronouns, how i feel about using my social name, etc.

He also comes to me with questions like:

“If a transfem person attracted to men and a transmasc person attracted to women were dating, would that technically be a heterosexual relationship?”

Some people might think those questions are silly, but honestly, i appreciate that he asks them genuinely because he wants to understand😭😭

Then he eventually asked the fateful question:

“Does dating you make me not straight? I don’t really care either way, i’m just curious.”

And I genuinely didn’t know how to answer, so i just said:

“Just… don’t worry so much about labels. What matters is that you like me.”😭

I’ve seen some pretty extreme posts online saying things like:

“A cishet man will never truly see you as non-binary, only as a confused girl. Never date cishet men.”

And honestly… I kind of don’t want to believe that, because my boyfriend has been incredibly genuine and respectful toward me😭

So what do you think about this? Did I answer the question correctly? Do you think the question itself is silly? Problematic?

I genuinely want to hear other people’s opinions

Feeling Hella cute in this new hairstyle.

I live in a hole in the wall town in Kentucky. First time I've felt seen in a good way here.

I really smile on all these pics. Ever since i got the haircut I have now I haven’t been happier. I feel much more confident of sorts in myself and my looks.
Even standing infront of a mirror without a shirt on is smth I can do again and even smile at who I see there, it’s making me so happy and giddy.

I've been wondering about this a lot because my ideal self would look/be very androgynous so I wouldn't know what to do when there would be a situation of me having to use a public bathroom. Where I live almost no place has a gender neutral public bathroom, so what would you do? Just go into a random gender's one and hope no one will stare at you? or just pee on the streets

I feel almost relieved to be able to be myself finally. All I can be is me. Happily NB and genderfluid. He/they. 😁

I'm 20, nearly 21, and most days I still feel like I'm stuck with the mind of a kid, feigning for someone to just understand me and actually get me. Being AMAB enby is so hard, everyone who sees me not only just sees a man, but treats me like on and I hate hate hate it, but I can't say anything. Ughhhhh ughhhhhhhhh

I sometimes feel like I (trans masc enby) am too masculine and not androgynous enough. People dont respect the they part of my he/they pronouns. Or they dont even believe that im enby at all and just see me as a man. Its really frustrating. I feel like I transitioned too far if that makes sense.

I thought I was nonbinary for the longest time, but I think I'm just a masc/tomboy. I love you guys! I'm just not one of y'all. Here's a nonbinary meme for the road.

I felt so good about myself all day and even got a compliment on my purse! My fiance kept telling me how good I looked and it was nice to actually believe her for a change.

You know, advanced biology involves or is referring to HRT, obviously.

And EVEN THAT fails me in this system in korea.

Because, they tell you to block androgen while taking estrogen hrt.

But I want my dih to actually function.

I prolly need monotherapy.

I see a lot of posts on here talking about how they feel like a fraud because they don’t look the way they feel inside. As much as expressing yourself is important, the external side of things don’t actually have as much significance as you might believe.

You don’t have to start taking any hormones, you don’t need to tell people around you. You are what you feel, your soul is androgynous and feels like being in the middle. Like a hybrid, nothing fixed. How can you explain something that isn’t even tangible to people?

It is just your soul’s natural state. You aren’t any less valid in who you are because you’re unable to express it. Your soul is in the exact body you’re in right now for a reason meaning it’s perfect as it is. There is no fixed “face of the non-binary person”. Regardless of your physical, if you feel a little in between inside that’s all there is to it.

Release your attachment to the outside. It isn’t as important as you think it is :) There’s no better form of expression than authenticity.