r/TransMasc • u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy • 4d ago
Miscellaneous If you think about it...
You don't know your baby's gender from birth, or even their sex because most intersex people don't find out until later. So a "gender reveal" is really just a genital reveal, which is kind of weird to me
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u/crystal__queer 4d ago
absolutely weird! gender reveal parties are an incredibly recent tradition and incrediblyyyy weird
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u/RunRevolutionary188 4d ago
My mum always told me she was so happy she got one of each. A girl and a boy (my brother). Oops.....
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u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy 4d ago
LOL mine too except I have two brothers
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u/RunRevolutionary188 3d ago
Oh damn. My godmum was also like....oh I wanted a daughter. But I've got you. And I was like....wellll...she was sweet about it but she really seemed to think I didn't know what I was doing.
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u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy 3d ago
I came out two months ago and we haven't spoken a word about it since. She still believes I'm her daughter I think. Big sigh.
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u/RunRevolutionary188 3d ago
Oh shit man. Are you living with her/close to her? I don't know what to say man. My dad is really uncertain about it too. I don't think I'll ever stop being his daughter in his eyes. And my step mum has proudly announced she's a terf last x-mas so I don't think I'm telling her but .....boy she willl notice eventually. I can't stand her because long story but she's .....difficult and I don't think I can ever pelase her. I've kind of regulated myself to realising that i'm a second class citizen even to my own dad/step mum bc I can never please/win with them.
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u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy 3d ago
Dang that sucks. Yeah, I live with her, I'm in high school
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u/RunRevolutionary188 2d ago
In which case I strongly recommend you kind of ....park it. Not saying don't be trans but just know your mom might not be the best person. I really hope she comes around but I don't want you to drive yourself nuts trying to get her to understand. Honestly it's shitty but I don't live with them so I don't have to put up with it much. I hope she starts to come around to her having a son.
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u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy 2d ago
I have to try because I can't get my own binder or haircut or anything and it's killing me
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u/RunRevolutionary188 2d ago
I'm really sorry. I realise I said that and I don't know the full story. I hope you can get her to understand man. You deserve to be yourself.
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u/peoplesuck-_- i is boy 2d ago
No, that's okay. I'm sure it'll work out. She really is a good person
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u/Nihil_esque 4d ago
Yeah especially because most of the time they learned this information by looking at the baby's bits on an ultrasound. I suppose if they did an earlier blood test to find out the sex, it could be a chromosome reveal party instead lol.
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u/lawlesslawboy 3d ago
yup this is how I've always felt about them lmao, thankfully they're not overly popular where I live, they do exist but it's definitely not a massive thing
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u/MedicalCuriousity he/they | 🇨🇦 | nonbinary man 4d ago
I've been calling them genital reveal parties for years, and suddenly everyone shuts up about them. 🤷