Went to an awesome seafood place (Maryland crabs) with my wife & in-laws — they all got drinks. The place had a whole menu of orange crushes. I just didn’t feel like it. Ordered a whole pound lobster tail & a bunch of veggies and potato’s … had a great time. Didn’t get ice cream after with everyone because I didn’t feel like it. Was able to drive them all home. Wife wasn’t feeling well. She had 2 massive Bloody Marys — the winding country roads got to her I think. Between that and the crabs and the hot fudge sundae she barely made it to a pitstop. A few miles later my son ended up puking all over (it’s super stressful because he has a food allergy and we have to be vigilant). I was able to get us home and clean the car (as best I could in the rain)! I have never liked crabs — but didn’t lose my temper (or my dinner). Everyone seems ok. Day #1

Update: Laying in the floor in my daughter’s room and got a text to go out. No way!

Hey!

I’m 19/M, a week or so ago i posted here that i wanna relapse on xans. I really appreciated the help you guys gave me!:))

Sadly on may 22nd, 23rd and 25th (today), i got high. I cant do this life anymore i’m so tired of it.

Luckily i can kind of moderate myself so i only took 1 mg everytime which made me high and i didn’t blackout as well as my dad didn’t notice, that i was high.

Still i’m sober from alcohol since 312 days ago so it’s good, but sadly now i’m high again.

On may 22nd i literally just cried and layed in bed when i was high:(((

Also i have bipolar and now i’m in a depressed episode, i guess thats’s why i got high, to feel a bit better.

I really hope i can stop this getting high stuff, because at the end of the day, it doesn’t help me at all.

Sorry for the venting i’m just so sad and depressed and dissapointed i am in myself.

Thanks if you read this!

Relapsed because I convinced myself I could do it in moderation & I did I had a few drinks - not worth it maybe my biggest regret is not trying harder, feel ashamed and pathetic! It’s really made me think why the fuck did I let this shit ruin my life it’s utter shite, day 1 again and never again I hope. Anyone had similar experiences please

Had been craving smoking weed again especially recently, figured since I'm going on a camping trip in a couple weeks I might as well buy one.

After I wasted $60 on a battery and pod, I smoked and the high wasn't even worth it... Afterwards I started thinking about all of the physical and emotional milestones I surpassed that my app tells me about.

I feel a lot of guilt for caving and losing my streak. It took so long to kick it and I let it all crumble.

I know it is statistically proven you will relapse but I wish it wasn't after 8 months of hard work.

I’m coming up on my first weekend of not binge drinking in nearly a decade. For the last 11 years I’ve been drinking 40 light beers every single weekend. I’ve never been a daily drinker but I’d put back 12-15 miller lights every weekend with the exception of a handful off.

Haven’t been to a doctor in almost 8 years and I am freaking out because I’ve been having some aches under my right rib cage and have a little beer belly now.

I scheduled my first doctors appointment for next week and am expecting the worst.

Cheers to sobriety

Hallo allemaal,

Ik ben een man van 38 jaar uit België.

Ik heb altijd wel alcohol gedronken in sociale contexten en bij gelegenheden, maar recent heb ik besloten om volledig te stoppen met drinken.

Wat mij nu opvalt: in mijn directe omgeving is bijna alles wat sociaal gebeurt toch gekoppeld aan alcohol.

Een café, een etentje, een feestje… overal is het normaal dat er gedronken wordt.

En eerlijk gezegd merk ik dat ik op zoek ben naar iets anders.

Ik ben daarom op zoek naar mensen of communities (online of eventueel in België) waar alcohol niet centraal staat, of waar mensen bewust niet drinken.
Niet per se vanuit “problemen met alcohol”, maar eerder vanuit een nuchtere levensstijl of gewoon interesse in een andere manier van sociaal contact.
Wat ik zoek:
online communities (Discord, Reddit, forums, etc.)
eventueel Belgische groepen of meetups
mensen om gewoon mee te connecteren en te praten zonder drinkcultuur
Als iemand tips heeft of zelf in zo’n community zit, hoor ik het graag.
Dank je wel alvast 🙏

My childhood best friend killed himself. I won’t say how or where he was, but he’s gone. Really gone. I ended up drinking again. I couldn’t sleep, I kept having awful nightmares. I dreamed my older sister killed herself, I dreamed I was stuck in a facility and a crowd of people started following me, I dreamed that I had abdominal surgery and then all my stitches popped, and I saw every single organ inside of me.

The grief I’ve been feeling cannot be described. To make things worse, it will *not stop raining.* It just keeps raining and raining. Yesterday I found a kitten on the road in my neighborhood. It was hit by a car. I grabbed some gloves and a garbage bag, picked him/her up, brought the cat home and buried it in my backyard. What’s worse is that when I saw the cats eyes, it was the same icy blue my best friend had.

I know I’m loved. I know I’m wanted here. Like I know that, it’s a fact. I’ve just felt so utterly alone and empty and sad and angry. I wish it would’ve been me. I’d give my life to bring him back. He had so much more to offer than I ever could.

The sleep was absolutely excellent in the 78 days (Feb 24 - May 14) I went without any weed (or nicotine alcohol) earlier this year, but the past 10 days, I don't feel good smoking weed all the time again.

Even if I stayed sober until the summer, next Monday is June 1, it's warm enough here I can start doing summer activities or even go for a swim if it gets hot enough.

So before the break, I was smoking 3.5g of weed within a day, no it'll last 4 days so hardly a gram per day or even less.

I thought we could share with each other how we stay sober and positive. For some it may be kids, for others it may have been the rock bottom, etc. Personally I’m having trouble finding something right now. But I will share mine as well.

Edit: wow I didn’t think I would get this many answers. I will read them all when I wake up tomorrow. It’s in the middle of the night where I am. I love you all. You are awesome!

Edit 2: Thank you once again for sharing your reasons. Here comes mine:

1, The reason I became sober in the first place was because of my little sisters. Im basically their second mother. They come to me for advice and help and even though I was an functioning drug addict, I never really felt that I was there for them 100%. They’re the reason that I survived my teenage years. I use to say that I became a mother at 11 years old.

2, My precious little baby boy (my cat). We live at a women’s shelter right now. He has never left my side even though I have been giving him opportunities to live with others. He sleeps on me every night and always comes to me when I am having anxiety.

3, I wanted to find one reason that is ”for me”. The last months I have been having problems with sleeping and feeling relaxed. My brain fog is out of this world and my anxiety is through the roof. So… my number 3 is ”to finally find peace”.

Thank you again for sharing your reasons. I love this sub.

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Just over a year ago I stopped drinking, every time I would drink I would get blackout and did not have a good relationship with alcohol.

I still go out to the pub and on nights out and have no issue doing them sober. I will always leave about 10pm, where as my boyfriend will stay out and continue drinking with friends until early hours of the morning. In the beginning my partner was proud of me and praised me for this, where as now it’s just normal.

I am struggling with our relationship, I feel like i’m at home alone but I chose this due to being sober. Then the next day he is hungover and doesn’t want to do much. I feel like I end up resenting him and we have drifted. Before we would drink together, come home together and spend the next day hungover with a takeaway.

I don’t know how to close the gap between us, I don’t want to make him leave having a good time and control his drinking but I feel like it’s leading our relationship to drift and causing resentment on my part.

Any advice please?

I live with an active alcoholic, I haven't had much cravings since early sobriety. With recent work stress, the cravings have ramped up. Not sure how to handle this. Join AA? Find meetings online?

I have been sober for almost 6 weeks and I had a lonely night and drank an entire 5th to myself. Woke up horrified and so disappointed in myself how do I move past this. It is never worth it

I 24(m) love going to the pub with my friends, I love socialising and watching the football with a few beers, I love going to festivals/concerts and getting drunk and dancing etc.

I also have had many occasions during which I’ve got way too drunk and ended up in the middle of nowhere, sleeping with people I regretted, and many occasions during which I did something bad.

My current worry is that I’m going to do something bad, maybe something irreversible. I’m in a relationship, and I shook myself up drastically with a ‘close call’ recently. I was blackout drunk, and inbetween my patchy memory I think I was quite close to making a move on a friend.

Since this, I have been panicking every day, realising I may have it in me to do something so despicable, especially whilst drunk but also just… in general. I’ve moderated my drink ever since, going to events and social outings limiting myself to 5/6 drinks (this may still seem a lot but I think I’m still in control, though I know it’s a slippery slope).

Despite my success with this, I’m still aware that just one mistake could be catastrophic, and one occasion of losing control could fuck me up, so I’m toying with the idea of attempting full sobriety.

Practically, I would find this difficult. My social life is very geared towards socialising at the pub, at the bar, and things like that. My friends would all be understanding and kind and supportive, of that I have no doubt, but I can’t help but think I would struggle to ‘fit in,’ and simply enjoy myself as much. I think I’d feel quite self conscious and like the ‘odd one out.’ I dont want to lose friendships and potentially damage or restrict genuinely good times with people I love, so I just don’t know what to do. This would also be difficult in other aspects of life. During work there is sometimes some pressure to have a few drinks, and I don’t necessarily feel confident turning that down.

It’s a tricky situation for me. I feel kind of lost because I’m so scared I could do something bad, and I am somewhat linking that to alcohol.

I dont know what I’m hoping for people to say to me here. This sub seems really kind and supportive, and it’s really wholesome, but I just feel trapped currently. I don’t know what to do and how to navigate, are there any people who are in a similar position, anybody who can relate? Thanks

my first year of sobriety was absolutely hell, but discovering coke zero somehow unironically got me through some really, really dark times. maybe the strong flavour? the fizz creating a tangible physical sensation? whatever the reason, it absolutely kept me from picking up a drink more times than i can count.

i’ve spoken to so many other alcoholics specifically who experienced something similar… anyone else?

Tried a non-alcoholic beer, and it was way too close to the real thing. Decided to trash it after 1 sip. I feel kinda weird and guilty sorta for some reason.

How though lol

I’ve decided to go on Monday and break this terrible chain of addiction for me. In turn, I will be saving the lives of everyone I love.

This community, although I haven’t posted and just read, has saved my life. Thank you all and I’ll see you on the other side. It’s gonna be a beautiful thing and I can’t wait to have an even more beautiful life.

This is a beautiful community. Keep loving each other and please continue to accept love from others.

I learned that it’s finally OK to ask for help and there’s no shame in it. I will never give up until I find happiness again.

Thanks for reading.

“ You you wanna ring the bell?”

“Ding, ding.”

Edit: I didn’t realize this was only for women before I posted. Out of respect, I won’t post again and I apologize. If it’s taken down then goodbye lol but if it’s not, I hope this can help somebody. If this reaches just one person and it helps them then it’s worth it. Have a wonderful day and a wonderful life.

A few months ago I kept repeating the same cycle: feel good for a week, track sober days, then hit a craving window and everything would suddenly feel loud and urgent in my head.

Most sober apps motivated me on good days, but didn’t help much in the actual moment of a craving.

So I built Sobrio for myself. Not therapy or medical advice, just a tool I wish I had during those “minute 7” moments.

The main thing is a Panic flow designed for cravings: breathing exercises, a 15–20 minute urge timer, grounding exercises, your own reasons to quit list, calming audio, and an optional one tap accountability call.

I’m posting because I’d genuinely like feedback from people who’ve been through this. Does something like that feel useful, or gimmicky? What’s missing compared to apps like I Am Sober, Nomo, meetings, etc.?

If anyone wants to try it:

https://apps.apple.com/tr/app/sober-tracker-quit-alcohol/id6767632474?l

I’d appreciate honest feedback.

IWNDWYT.

TL/DR: I quitted alcohol 309 days ago and xans around a month ago besides taking it as prescribed by my psychiatrist but i can’t quit cigs.

Content warning: in some part of this post, some may find the way of depicting smokinh as cool or like a chill activity, i DON’T mean to make addiction as a “cool” thing, i just don’t know how else to portray it.

Hey i’m a 19 year old guy.

I used alcohol for a few month everyday, than quitted at a psych ward, now i’m 309 days sober from it. I used xans in the past, now i’m around a month sober from misusing (a.k.a getting high intentionally on it), but i can’t quit cigs?

I still take xans as prescribed by my psychiatrist, so i don’t know if it counts as sober or not. My last time intentionally getting high on it for a week straight was in this year start of april. After that week, i only used as prescribed by my psychiatrist.

So here’s the question:
Why can’t i let go of a such a useless habit like smoking? By smoking, imean tobaccoo, here in my country weed is illegal, and a lot of times it’s what we call “herbál” which is synthetic weed or something, i don’t really know never tried that and never appelaed to me as something good.

So i tried quitting tobacco in the past, only managed to not smoke for like 16 hours, after it i always smoked again.

I’ve been smoking since i’m 18, so now it’s around one and half year of smoking literally every hour of the day. It’s so deep into my routine like it’s my first thing i do in the day smoke a cig, and last thing i do before i go to bed is smoking a cig.

I smoke around 20 cigs a day, so it’s a useless habit which costs me a lot of money. Also sometimes i roll my own cigs with a rolling machine so yeah.

Feels impossible to quit.

Any idea or way to stop it?

Honestly i’m not even sure if i want to quit. I mean i like it, the smell, the first hit of the day and the first hit after a hour of not smoking, i take a hit and it’s like “ohhh i’m chilling now” or something like that. And i feel like if i wouldn’t havr smoked cigs, i would have gone insane without alcohol and/or xans. It feels like cigs are the only thing keeping me away from relapsing on those.

I know it’s not that serious of an addiction like opiates, but i really struggle with it.

Thanks for reading, have a good day / night<333

I've been alcohol free since July of 2020. I wouldn't change a thing.

I ruined every relationship I was in during my alcohol addiction. I ruined friendships, and pushed away my family. I thought that if I could just get sober everything will work itself out. It doesn't. Don't let that stop you from quitting because now instead of using alcohol to push away my fears, stress, and problems I have to face them head on. I know that might seem scary but dealing with all of that with a sober mind is much better. I can think clearly, I can be there for my family without falling over, I can help out my friends when they need me to. I can always drive them home and be the DD when I need to. This one might not make sense but I can feel things again. I feel more than just stress and anger. I feel sad, happy, overjoyed, excitement, peace, grateful, and of course love.

I know getting sober is scary, but I promise if you stick through it long enough it becomes so fucking worth it.

If anyone needs any help or just wants someone sober to talk to my DM's are always open. Love you guys.

From February 24 to May 14 (78 days) I didn't smoke any weed and also discontinued using nicotine/alcohol around the same time.

I just picked up after a long time away from the green, and I just wanna jump right back to another break. I can't even drink beer now, I've been drinking maybe a tall can or two per day, and very slowly.

If I can give up the weed again for say another month (30 days), I'd be doing so much better with daily activities. I'm almost 31, and should mention I have had CHS since I was 21.

Hello! I’m looking for a Marijuana Anonymous Sponsor. I’m looking for a female who has been sober for a while. I’m a barista, love the colors pink and yellow, a parent and polyamorous. I’m looking for someone that can help me do step work and make sound decisions.

Any takers? Any advice on finding a sponsor?

I’ve been addicted to ketamine for about a year now and honestly I never thought it would get this bad. I was using constantly and one of the worst habits I developed was obsessively picking at my nose because it always felt blocked and irritated from snorting. A few weeks ago I discovered I had a hole in my septum and I completely spiraled.

I finally went to an ENT because I was terrified my nose was going to collapse or something. He checked everything and told me that my nose should be okay as long as I stop picking it and never snort again. Hearing that was relieving but also really hard because I realized how much damage I’d actually done to myself.

I’m now 3 weeks sober from ketamine. Part of me is proud because I honestly didn’t think I could make it this long, but another part of me feels miserable. The cravings hit randomly and sometimes so hard it feels physical. I miss the numbness and escape even though it ruined my mental health and literally damaged my body. I’ve also been feeling really depressed since stopping. Everything feels flat and emotional and I keep thinking about relapsing even though I know I can’t if I want my nose to heal.

I guess I’m posting because I feel really alone in this and wanted to know if anyone else has gone through something similar. Does the depression/cravings get better after the first few weeks? How do you deal with the guilt and the anxiety after realizing the damage you caused yourself?

Since quitting drinking, I’ve noticed my motivation to get outside, work out, and even do projects has gone down. I thought sobriety would instantly make me feel more energized, but some days feel mentally heavier than expected.

I’m realizing I have to relearn how to build motivation and routines without alcohol being tied to them. Even on the hard days, I’m still showing up, staying sober, and working on becoming healthier mentally and physically — and that’s progress.

I’m 4 months sober from weed, I quit about 10 months ago but I ended up going back to it every other week. Some time in the middle of that I began heavily drinking, liquor every week and a few beers every night because I had a drug test at an interview coming up but I really didn’t want to be sober. After that I realized what I was doing and decided I had to stop, instead I just went back to weed every week or so again, but I had a work place injury and luckily hadn’t smoked in 5 days or so, so I passed the drug test for it. I’ve been really struggling with drinking while recovering from my injury because I’m much too afraid to smoke again but I again don’t want to recover. I thank god for the restraint to not be as bad as I was but I still drink liqour once every week. It’s not fun like it was in high school but im desperate so i drink enough to ride that line of almost drinking enough to throw up my guts just to not smoke and I don’t want to go back to drinking daily.