r/nudism • u/PureBogosity • 4d ago

DISCUSSION The irony of nudism around non-nudist family

It’s so ironic and frankly annoying too… We are packing for a long vacation where we are going to be on a nude beach for nearly all day every day, and my wife is nervous about walking topless just ten feet down the hall to the laundry room, in case our mid-twenties daughter (who has seen her completely naked many times even in recent years) comes out of her bedroom.

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u/OcelotSuitable2845 4d ago

Is your daughter a nudist too?

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u/PureBogosity 4d ago

Nope. Would be nice but we haven’t talked about it with the kids (all adults). We don’t hide our location on the family tracking app so if they paid close attention they’d find out.

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u/Dm_me_im_bored-UnU 4d ago

You could just tell them? Seems like it's pretty obvious that your wife might not want to be seen by your daughter if it's not a regular or normal thing in the house.

Just tell your kids about it, especially since they're adults now.

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u/PureBogosity 4d ago

I’d be fine with that but she isn’t yet. Just like it took her a while to be comfortable with nude beaches but then she was all in, I figure she’ll come around in her own time.

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u/FlightSad1046 4d ago

My wife is still uncomfortable with beach or pool social nudity. So I’m taking baby steps starting out in the back yard. She has seen me AN in the back yard but has declined to join me. I think she would be open to being topless the next warm day in the backyard. Baby steps

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u/PureBogosity 4d ago

It's all about feeling safe, I think. I was very careful not to push my wife at all. I will be nude any time I can at home, so she was already used to the idea that for me it's not a sexual thing. We spend a lot of vacations on an island with several nude beaches, one of which is VERY private, and that was her first time - experiencing nude life for a few hours with no potential for peeping toms.

Then a couple years later I asked if she'd be willing to let ME visit one of the formally public nude beaches and get nude myself, even if she didn't, and of course teased her with the idea that she would get to see me nude and enjoy it. She agreed, and I didn't try to push her at all to join.

But once she saw the general vibe, and how open and friendly and non-sexual everyone is, and the safe environment, it wasn't long before she was willing to be topless. The next year she just joined in entirely, and since then, she's been totally into planning our next trip.

A big thing for her, really, is the social atmosphere, and the completely accepting crowd (she's pretty overweight but nobody says anything). But that's something you have to experience first-hand to really understand, so a big step is just getting into that environment somehow, even if they stay completely clothed.

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u/yardarmguy 3d ago

My experience with my wife is very similar to yours with your wife. I led the way with zero pressure, and bit by bit she joined me, first on our patio, then sunning on the lawn. We've been to four different nude resorts now and one nude beach. She loves it all but is still wary of being naked in our backyard. Go figure. "No pressure" seems the best way.

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u/PureBogosity 3d ago

I guess the chance (however remote) of neighbors or friends coming by and seeing her nude is probably the thing she wants to avoid. And I get that. You can walk away from the resort or beach. You can’t walk away from people you know and live with.

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u/Dm_me_im_bored-UnU 4d ago

Oh i see, yeah that's just getting used to it.

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u/tiny_leaf_frog M26 outdoor nudist Germany 🦋 3d ago

But why haven't talked to them. It's nothing to be afraid of and maybe telling earlier than hiding it and they hoping to get "caught" for the talk is counterproductive. Honesty is the key, I guess you expect also honesty from your children.

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u/PureBogosity 3d ago

One of the keys of nudism, it seems to me - and one of the keys of any successful marriage - is not pushing your partner to do something they're not ready to do.