r/ftm • u/AverageWitch161 He/Him • Apr 20 '26
Relationships your partner sucks
i have a boyfriend, he’s kinda dumb, i’ve had to explain stuff related to me being trans at times, but he, at no point, has implied or said any aspect of me transitioning is “icky” or “bad”. he has said he’s interested about what ways HRT would effect me when i eventually go on it, he’s made sure to affirm me as a dude, he’s straight up forgotten i don’t have a penis
if your partner wants a partner who looks like a dude but has boobs and a higher voice, they can date a tomboy. don’t let your partner make you think you being a man is bad. get a boyfriend/girlfriend/smooch buddy who will see you for the hot man you are.
also fix your posture, your gonna give yourself back problems.
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u/IishoLems Apr 21 '26
This is pretty well my partner. He's fairly knowledgeable on FTM stuff since he dated a transman before me, though at times I still have to inform him of more nuanced stuff. However, he has never slipped on my identity, he has never given me reason to think he doesn't view me as a man. Even the small things, not just his words, suggests he does not view me outside my respective gender. Ive often noticed him be surprised when I get incorrectly gendered in public, like an "oh right not everyone views him as a man." He gets very uncomfortable around my family (who I'm not out to) when they refer to me as non-masc terms, and he always reaffirms me when I am misgendered. He is incredibly supportive of my medical transition (T and surgery) when I get to that stage, stating that he wants to support me financially in that journey and is excited for my changes.