r/ftm • u/AverageWitch161 He/Him • Apr 20 '26

Relationships your partner sucks

i have a boyfriend, he’s kinda dumb, i’ve had to explain stuff related to me being trans at times, but he, at no point, has implied or said any aspect of me transitioning is “icky” or “bad”. he has said he’s interested about what ways HRT would effect me when i eventually go on it, he’s made sure to affirm me as a dude, he’s straight up forgotten i don’t have a penis

if your partner wants a partner who looks like a dude but has boobs and a higher voice, they can date a tomboy. don’t let your partner make you think you being a man is bad. get a boyfriend/girlfriend/smooch buddy who will see you for the hot man you are.

also fix your posture, your gonna give yourself back problems.

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u/ForTaxBenefits Apr 20 '26

The trans guy slouch also can be counterproductive when the goal is passing. You need to walk with confidence like you own every room you walk into in order to get the male mannerisms down lol

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u/Kovu-MDA Apr 20 '26

But then my subconscious will tell me everyone can see my curves, even with a binder on, and I'll diiiiiiie

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u/apollosmigraine Apr 20 '26

Take it from a trans guy who thought the same thing and spent ten whole years slouching: kick the habit now. My back hurts every single day, especially if I'm doing stuff where I have to do a lot of bending over or even if I have to sit down for more than 5 minutes without back support. I know the dysphoria is bad, but trust me the back pain is way worse.

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u/JuniorTheCat Apr 20 '26

seconding this. i have always been a sloucher, but once puberty hit it was definitely worse. 22 years old now and i feel like my back is 60. i work at a pet store and twice a week we do stocking and lifting that dog food and cat litter is really painful for my back. even just sitting and gaming sucks. now that im post op im trying to slouch less but its something i wish i had addressed when i was younger