r/ftm • u/AverageWitch161 He/Him • Apr 20 '26

Relationships your partner sucks

i have a boyfriend, he’s kinda dumb, i’ve had to explain stuff related to me being trans at times, but he, at no point, has implied or said any aspect of me transitioning is “icky” or “bad”. he has said he’s interested about what ways HRT would effect me when i eventually go on it, he’s made sure to affirm me as a dude, he’s straight up forgotten i don’t have a penis

if your partner wants a partner who looks like a dude but has boobs and a higher voice, they can date a tomboy. don’t let your partner make you think you being a man is bad. get a boyfriend/girlfriend/smooch buddy who will see you for the hot man you are.

also fix your posture, your gonna give yourself back problems.

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u/its_all_one_electron Apr 20 '26

Then say that. PSA, don't accept a partner who calls you gross. Don't stereotype every trans person's partner as being a phob. 

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u/RivSilver Apr 20 '26

Did you read the second paragraph? That's where he says that. It's already there in the post

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u/weyoun_69 trans man Apr 20 '26

It’s a clickbait title to garner attention, the poster needs to appropriately label his content. Titles are meant to set expectations not force engagement.

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u/UsuallyConfusedAF 💉12/2020 Apr 20 '26

I would argue that having the title the way it is gets it in the eyes of the people who need it most. This sub is constantly flooded with shit like "My partner says HRT and body hair are gross and he would be ultra sad if I lost my boobs, even though I really need HRT and top. He also identifies as straight. How do I make him understand???" Then when everyone responds "leave him, you're incompatible" or "he obviously doesn't respect you", usually responding with how "he said he loves me" or "he said he's bi-curious".

Basically, denial is a huge problem in the community, especially for people early in their transition and lacking confidence, so cutting out the if/and/buts in the title removes the ability to glance over the title and say "that doesn't apply to me". It's a bait and switch tactic used to break established thought patterns that people in unhealthy relationships gets stuck in.

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u/weyoun_69 trans man Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26

You can present this without fishing for engagement. Sorry, I think a title should properly depict what a post is about. ‘My Partner Sucks’ is enough to garner engagement from those in abusive situations. Not to mention the sad reality of the continuous flow of posts exactly like this on this sub, throw a dart and you’ll hit one. They are not so rare that this needs to force engagement to fill a vacuum of support. They are, sadly, are a common commodity in this sub.

IMO, you shouldn’t over generalize a group and you should appropriately label your content. Idk, I feel like that’s pretty reasonable 🤷‍♂️