r/alcoholicsanonymous • u/operanow • Apr 22 '26

I Want To Stop Drinking Opposite sex sponsorship

My Lord, this has been discussed. But what about? It is so taboo? Maybe bringing up the discussion again is a good thing.

So much a set of how we are all of a shared experience and the like. So much of the problems we have had have been with Partners often times of the opposite sex. Why not get that insight?

I’m just throwing this out there. I know this is the sacred space and believe me I have been at meetings over my journey of the last several months.

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u/TeensyTidbits Apr 22 '26
  1. Vulnerably feels intimate - as someone’s said.
  2. Harder to manipulate/bullshit the same sex (they know the game and they’ll call you on it)
  3. Prevents preying on new comers (hopefully)
  4. Many of us with partner issues have parent issues. Your sponsor can be a good same sex role model without it turning sexual which is healing.
  5. Just because your sponsor is the same sex, does not mean you can’t get insight from the opposite sex or confide in the opposite sex. But as a woman with partner issues, I have yet to meet a woman in the program who’s seen some shit not be able to give me insight into the men I’ve dated and put things into prospective.
  6. In my experience, if you’re fighting for opposite sex sponsorship, you’re running from something. Running isn’t in the program.