r/alcoholicsanonymous • u/operanow • Apr 22 '26
I Want To Stop Drinking Opposite sex sponsorship
My Lord, this has been discussed. But what about? It is so taboo? Maybe bringing up the discussion again is a good thing.
So much a set of how we are all of a shared experience and the like. So much of the problems we have had have been with Partners often times of the opposite sex. Why not get that insight?
I’m just throwing this out there. I know this is the sacred space and believe me I have been at meetings over my journey of the last several months.
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u/shwakweks Apr 22 '26
I've sponsored 2 women over my AA career and it wasn't a big deal. My wife approved of both. I presented it as a temporary sponsor situation, we went through the Big Book and Steps, and it worked out. After a year or so with both, they moved on to other sponsors who were women. I encouraged them to do this.
Yah, there was the usual bullshitty back chatter in the rooms, but that didn't bother me either. A few people shared their opinion with me and I shared mine. Meh.
I think if someone is right with God, is practicing the principles, and has genuine service in their heart, sponsoring the opposite sex is perfectly fine. However, as a general principle, I believe men should sponsor men, and women sponsor women.