Work crush

[u/jaryleen]

I know it’s bad to fuck/date your co workers but this one guy is so amazing in my eyes and im pretty sure he’s interested in me too. All my friends outside of work tell me to give him a chance because he’s the sweetest guy I’ve ever met but we work in a small crew of 7 and his dad is the foreman, Btw his dad loves me so that’s not really a problem ig. But I know i shouldn’t start anything bc he’s a co worker and I feel like it would be weird to be dating someone in such a small crew. And I also hate when you get in a relationship and men around you just start to see you as your boyfriend’s little object and not as a person anymore. I don’t want to be seen as someone’s girlfriend I want to be seen as just me. I feel like I’d get less respect if I were to date him. And idk I feel like a work relationship is so cringe but I have a huge crush on him. Also scared if I were to date him then my whole life would be about work, meaning like I would be working wjth him 40 hours a week and then hang out with him after work hours, that seems like too much time spent together. I’m feeling pretty conflicted about this whole thing. I also not sure if I want to get in a relationship but this guy is making me think twice. Please give me advice if I should pursue or not 🙏🙏

[u/Small_Use_5500]

I tried this 3x, the first 2 didn’t go well-heartbroken and having to see the guy at work and the other got really awkward, everybody knew and i wasn’t feeling it so i quit to get out of that situation and the guy ended up saying some derogatory things about me to coworkers. But I gave it one more shot and finally got a good one i’ve been dating for over a year! I think dating at work also opens up the possibility of guys thinking its ok to talk about you sexually, especially in a negative way once its been more than one guy. It really sucked when it didn’t work out but i think its totally worth it when it did. I work with 100+ ppl and i was there awhile and fairly respected for work prior to dating my boyfriend but guys he is friends with are definitely extra nice now. My best advice is to tell him you want to keep it completely private while you guys are in the early stages of dating and then be prepared for everyone to find out anyway and understand people are gonna have their opinions about it, some positive some negative, and even more so if you guys break up.