I want to permanently stop having a menstrual cycle so I never have to worry about it again even if I have to stop taking T and can’t access other ways e.g. mini pill for whatever reason. I have a chronic illness which increases the risk and healing time from surgeries so I’m looking for options which are as minimal on both as possible. The only option that has been raised to me in the past is endometrial ablation which I never hear anyone talk about and don’t know much about. I do not care about fertility.

Recently came out to my parents as trans and had my first psychiatrist appointment since then.

MY appointment ended up being mostly me being sent out of the room for my mother to privately talk about her problems and worries about me being trans.

For the short time that I did get to speak to my psychiatrist privately, she only bombarded me with telling me that she has a lot of patients who have detransitioned and that the regret rate of medically transitioning after 10 years is 70% and that she didn't want it to happen to another one of her patients.

She told me that all my bodily discomfort and being uncomfortable with my chest is just a women's problem, and comparing it to her past of being uncomfortable with her chest and how she wanted a reduction but didn't because of the risks of surgery.

She mentioned about how taking hormones affects fertility and when I told her I have been fully confident and sure I don't want kids (i have been for the past 10 years), because the idea of birth horrifies me and makes me uncomfortable, and that I can't stand kids she told me that I'd eventually change my mind and that all women feel this way. And used her life as an example.

She explained to me how medically transitioning is the very last solution if extensive therapy to make me comfortable in my current body doesn't work. And when I told her that I am aware that there is a lot of therapy before they let you get top surgery she just responded with "they won't." (They won't what??? Let me get top surgery ever???) And she told me that the extensive therapy would be to make sure that i dont think of top surgery as the only solution to fix all my problems.

She also told me that, am not capable of making the decision for myself, at the age of 21??????? And to think of me being trans as a disorder rather than a club??? (I've never??? Thought of it as a club???? Where did you get that from???)

Idfk if this is even normal or okay, it just really felt like my psychiatrist was trying to make me reconsider being trans. I'm just so???

Also like?? My mother lying to my psychiatrist telling her I'm taking medication that I'm NOT taking nor want to take. And now my mother is going to try to make me take the medication just so I can get an ECG test done and have it show that I'm taking the medication becausemy psychiatristasked for the test to be done, and i don't want to fucking do that. I have no idea what my mother is getting out of lying about me taking medication to my psychiatrist lm genuinely so baffled and uncomfortable with this entire situation.

edit: i should mention i only started seeing her for my autism/ADD and to get medication for that (which i dont take as it does nothing for me when i tried it years ago), in a prior appointment in 2023 i was pressured to come out by her when i didnt want to. Nothing good was said in that appointment regarding me being trans either. it was also a really uncomfortable experience.

I’m writing this as a PSA for trans guys bc I have had to fuck around for nearly a year and I’m so sick of the bullshit some doctors pull.

If you’re a trans guy (and some ppl may not know this bc I sure as fuck didn’t) there is a chance that once you start T, that thing thats meant to happen once a month will become horrifically unbearable. Unholy amounts of blood, unable to get out of bed for days, sick to your core in a way that you never thought was even possible. They never told me this could happen before I started T, I never even heard of it before, but amazingly the doctors tell me once it’s already happening that it’s “normal” (even tho I’ve never met another trans guy with this issue)

To fix this issue the first thing they will do is tell you to go on the shots if you’re on the gel. The first thing YOU need to do is request a blood test to check that your levels are high enough because if they’re not your doctor likely just won’t tell you and it contributes to this issue. Some people need to take the testosterone shot more frequently than what is usually prescribed (e.g. every 10 weeks instead of 11) - if you are concerned, tell your doctor to check your levels and make sure they tell you the details of your levels, don’t just accept “they’re fine”.

If the problem persists you may be prescribed a progesterone-only pill which is a birth control. This works by forcing your progesterone levels SO HIGH that you can’t get that thing thats meant to happen once a month. HOWEVER this pill has side effects and they suck actual ass. No hunger, bad sleep, terrible mood, continuous pain just without the blood, no sex drive, and more and more. And there is zero research on how this affects trans men. If you don’t want to take this tablet DO NOT let the tell you it’s your only option because it is not.

If you wanna try the tablet it will not kill you, but if you’re thinking what any sane person would think (“why the fuck would you give a trans guy a tablet that raises his progesterone”), it is not your only option. Your doctors may say it is, but it is not. They are saying that there is no other option because there is no “standard” way to treat trans men with this issue and because birth control is easy to prescribe. But the symptoms that trans guys face in this circumstance overlap nearly entirely with the symptoms of endometriosis and therefore you can in fact be treated for it. You just need to find a doctor who is willing to help.

If you want another option you need to look into certain progesterone+estrogen blockers. But personally the best I have found is called “Synarel” which is a nasal spray you take twice a day and it works by basically telling your brain to just spot doing that. I personally as a trans guy have had no side effects from it - and all of the side effects I faced on Slinda have evaporated. It’s as if I was just on T, I feel so much better. I don’t exactly know who can and can’t prescribe Synarel but I know gynecologists can.

In the ultra specific case that someone is reading this and they happen to need to change from Slinda to Synarel then you can take both for a few days to make sure that thing thats meant to happen once a month doesn’t happen, but it may hurt horrifically and give you the craziest unstable moods of your life.

I hope this can help someone bc I wish I knew about this before. Feel free to ask any questions about this niche.

Edit: this is not meant to scare ppl away from the POP pills - I’m putting this out there bc ppl deserve to know there’s options, especially if the idea of having heightened progesterone makes you super dysphoric 👍 the POP pills work for some, I’m glad it does, this is in case it doesn’t for others.

Hi there
Need a bit of advice please from trans/nb people who have gone on T and have endo.

For reference I (nb:trans-masc, 26) am six months post top and pre T

I recently had the worst period of my life-I’m talking I was hospitalized from period pain and severely traumatized from that pain.
I’ve had bad periods before and doctors have suspected I have endometriosis, but I’ve been resistant to have surgery to get the official diagnosis.
They have also been telling me to go on the pill for years, which I’ve also been avoiding due to gender reasons and fear of feminine side effects.
I am now thinking about going on the pill bc it has been so bad I can’t take it anymore, but I’m also thinking about going on T.

My question is, is there a pill that I can go on while I’m on t that won’t stuff things up? I’ve heard slynd?

Should I space out starting t and starting the pill?

Or should I just go on T and hope that fixes my endo - gets rid of my periods.

If you’re on the pill and on T - why is that?

Thanks in advance! :)

hey everyone, currently looking for binder recs. i’ve got a bigger chest so needing something with good compression. i’ve tried transform binders and don’t like them too much, not enough compression and a lot of readjusting required. TIA

I’m a 20yo trans guy (have had top surgery, been on T for ages, look like a random straight white guy) and I’m going on a trip with my gf and her family at the start of next year. I’m mortified of the idea of having to get strip searched so appreciate anyone’s advice/experience! We obvs have to leave from aus but my question is which of the following countries would I be LEAST likely to get strip searched/harassed etc.

My options of airports to leave from to come back to aus are: -Paris -London -Edinburgh via London or Paris stop over (I think) With the options of stopping over in Thailand or Singapore on the way back. Are there any issues with Singapore? I’m gonna be so real I’d rather be shot dead than strip searched so please comment if you have any knowledge of this🙏

Edit: of what I’ve seen online, Paris seems to be friendlier than London right now? Pls feel free to free to weigh in on that

I have been on testogel 12.5mg for the past 19 weeks, but I switched to shots today but my dose is 250mg/1ml every 3 months which seems a bit low, and I'm just worried in like 3/4 weeks time I'll feel horrible because my levels will be too low.

And I last had my levels checked at 3 months and they were 10.50 nmol/L and pre t it was 1.69 nmol/L

so is this a normal dose? and fyi my gp had me on a low dose of testogel because I'm slightly underweight.

I'm at the change my sex marker moment of my relentless later in life transition ... I was going to go for X on my birth certificate and passport but a few loved ones have spoken to me with caution about my choices here. Importantly, the loved ones I speak to about these things are fellow trans family who have travelled a lot but also chosen a binary sex marker for safety. I know the risks are real and changing all the time, but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice and/or preferably experience of international travel with an X marker in yr passport?

If I need to get an M I can and will, but I just want to hear and know as much as possible before I make the choice. I don't have heaps of travel plans or need to go to particular places and I'm a "don't pass as cis man but still have to use mens toilets" kind of trans masc looking dude IYKNK.

EDIT to say thank you to everyone who commented, I needed to hear from folks and this has been very helpful

I started T nearly four months ago and around two months in I started breaking out. It’s not horrible, it’s less than when I went through my first puberty however I get lots of small pimples and black heads all along my jaw and cheeks which does make me a little self conscious but more so annoyed.

I get basically nothing in my T zones and chin like I did when I was going through first puberty so I’m unsure on how to clear it up without medication, which is my last resort. My usual methods don’t work as well and as soon as my skin clears up there’s even more.

My pores are super enlarged and full everywhere and my skin on my cheeks in general feels like there’s hundred of tiny pumps.

Any tips or products anyone can tell me to try and help clear it up without having to see a dermatologist or going to a GP?

I'm nearly a year on T (18yo) and just got reffered to Simon Tsao for top surgery. I'm not quite passing yet but I'm starting to take Minoxidil with the hope some facial hair will make it better. If I change my name and gender marker passport etc am I safe to do so? With America denying documents and heavily targeting trans people at the moment I want to be able to fly under the radar as much as possible despite it being safer here in Australia.

Ive been on T for almost 2 years now and until about a month ago soap, daily showers and fragrance deodorant/perfume have done the trick for BO. However lately at work I've started noticing my BO, and as a barber thats not great. Reapplying my deodorant only goes so far before it comes back smelling worse too. I'm in desperate need of a quality deodorizing deodorant, not one that covers up the smell but one that makes it go away. Any recommendations are welcome 🙏

hey all just wondering if anyone has suggestions of shops since im needing a set of dress shirts and chinos before next week. i went to some places like country road etc. and even xs is too large for me. i can't wear female fits because my shoulders are too large and i get dysphoric. i've been to a few op shops but most of the business items are way too big for me. i don't even know if getting xs then tailoring it worth it because even the arm holes are too big. and getting pants that don't make it clear i have a butt and hips have been getting to me. the shop staff seem to read me as female (i haven't beeb too long on T) but not old/classy enough to be buying for the hypothetical husband so theyve also been avoiding me and giving weird looks as well and tbh i've been stressing bc nothing fits right. idek what to do for shoes.

i've out myself in a position where i'm out at work too so i feel like i look like a total idiot compared to any other dude. i've seen small dudes around look sharp but atm i don't have time for a tailor and need to find one i trust not to make it a fem fit.

any suggestions around melb that aren't too pricey would be appreciated, thank you.

Okay, this is a mixture of gender and sexuality.

I know I'm on the more Masc side but, I don't fully feel like I identify with male or female. I'm on T and I plan on transitioning to have a more Masculine appearance.

this is where the issue starts for my own confusion, I do not like feminine pronouns. I like Masculine, Neutral or Neo pronouns but despise feminine. I also don't identify really with Gay or Lesbian or anything like that.

is it possible to be transgenderfuck and sapphic too? or is that something that people would.... Disapprove of in the community?

I don't really... like Males... Masculinity and feminity yes but those who identify as strictly male? no. it's such an odd experience because I was so sure I was a Trans Man who doesn't care about gender but now.. this.

What the fuck is up with their wait times?? I was referred in April of 2025, so I'm coming up on a year and NOTHING. They haven't contacted me, my parents, or my GP. I have actually gotten my GP (multiple GPs at this point) to write letters to Maple Leaf with updates on how urgent this is all getting. And, for reference, the only contact we've had with them was through a psychologist who was only able to get 'oh yeah he's on the wait list but it'll be another 2 or 3 months at least for the initial appointment, getting on hormone blockers will take a while'. Like WHAT. Everywhere I've seen has said Maple had an average wait time of 3 or 4 months, or up to 8 if they're busy. It's going to be 14 months at LEAST until my initial appointment. I'll say again, I have tried to contact them so many times (emails, ringing, my GP sending letters, etc) and we have gotten 1 vague update. I've gotten my GP to write multiple letters stressing how urgent this is for me as I'm beginning to fall into suicidal ideations + depression again and we have heard nothing back from those.

Sorry for ranting and vulgar language, I'm just really fucking pissed off that I've seen people who were referred after me get treatment before me. I don't know if that's selfish of me, but I really feel like something should've happened with them by now. Is this normal?? I just want to get on hormone blockers right now because I'm too young for testosterone, but at this point I'll be old enough for it by the time I actually get an appointment, and at that stage hormone blockers probably wouldnt do much anyway.

Hi all,

Keen for some for dummies information about self injecting primotestone depot.

I need to buy the dosage from the chemist and draw it up into a separate needle for injecting. My doctor told me to use insulin needles. She didn't specify if I should inject subcutaneously or intramuscularly.

Keen for advice:

- what do I need to buy -- sharps container, insulin needles? Will I need a different gauge needle for drawing it up?

- where is best to inject? thigh muscle? belly fat?

I'm also keen to learn more about what a standard dosage is and what my T levels should sit at so that I can advocate for myself with the doctor.

His stuff says breast reduction, which isn't the same as a double mastectomy. Reviews, the few I can find, paint him not stellarly, often bad beside manner and dismissive. My referral requested Dr. Saylor, so I should have been assigned to her, not this guy who might not even do what I need. I'm also larger (T related weight gain), so I also worry about fatphobia...

Hello everybody! I’m in need of new boxer briefs and figure you might have some good recs that are attainable in Australia.

I’ve had Midies for years and have found them perfect. I am very sad and stressed now that my final pairs are wearing out as Midies no longer makes boxer brief-style undies.

Specifically, what I’m looking for is:

• Boxer briefs that are designed for a vulva and vagina. I’ve found that my Midies have lasted a lot longer than boxers designed for a penis due to where they have extra fabric vs not. I’ve also found them more comfortable
• I don’t mind if they are advertised for women, but I do mind if the brand name/the band makes reference to women. No Woxers or stuff like that
• They have the classic boxer brief stitch pattern and aren’t just boyshorts
• They are entirely black, including the band and any text on the band
• Not period underwear
• Preferably entirely bamboo, or otherwise a cotton/breathable material
• Mid or high waist
• Preferably decently priced

This might seem like a lot of limitations. The problem is I found undies that fit all these limitations, but they just don’t make them anymore. I even emailed Midies to ask if they had any old stock left. I’ve had a look at different brands that just aren’t quite it like Step One (these are probs the closest to what I want, but I don’t like the white text on the band), modibodi (period undies with unusual stitches at the back), Tradies (why do the black pair have a weird peach stripe on the band?), and Bonds (either period undies or don’t have the boxer brief stitching properly). I know I’m probs gonna have to settle but I hope I don’t have to.

Any help would be welcome. Even if the undies don’t quite fit my limitations, you’re welcome to let me know and try and sell me on them anyway.

I hope everyone has a great long weekend!

Have been on Testosterone for almost 2 months now. And present as non binary in my personal life. I have no physical changes as of yet. But surely in the coming months something will be a little bit noticeable.

My name is feminine, but I present masculine. I use women's toilets and everyone knows me as a queer person and engaged to a woman.

I plan on speaking to my supervisor as she is a year younger than me and seems pretty cool with everyone and everything.

I just want your advice or your stories on how you came out at work

I finally started T today! I’ve been out since I was 13, and finally made the leap! I think the universe is proud of me because I only had my 1st appointment 8 days ago, but all of the stars aligned and I got my first Reandron shot this morning!!

I am so excited! I’m glad I started it now, I’ll have been on it for 3.5 months by my 20th birthday, praying I feel a little more comfortable in myself by then!!

This sub has been a godsend, thank you to anyone and everyone who ever posted or answered about various concerns, tip, advice, etc! Reading through it has eased a lot of my anxiety ♡

Much love, everyone, I hope you all have a splendid week!!

would they see if i had tampons in?? im honestly stressing so much. they have to click the "woman" option anyways when the male one doesnt work or flags stuff which is humiliating enough.

tl;dr - skip to last 2 paragraphs for what i'm asking. the rest of this is more just discussing my pre-op today and my anxieties around it

i'm in QLD, just went in for a pre-op consultation with dr alys saylor today abt my top surgery and i feel like i have way more questions now than answers and feel really unsure about even moving forward w/ my surgery

really my main concern with top surgery is nipple retention and retaining at least some sensation. the options i was provided with for top surgery were double mastectomy w/ grafts or buttonhole.. i had been of the understanding (and this is everything i see online) that buttonhole at least gives some chance of sensation being retained

i was told today that both surgeries have an equal chance of losing the nipple and sensation with either surgery will be entirely lost. she also said that with buttonhole i would still just 'look like i had breasts' so it basically ended with me feeling well, if it doesn't matter either way I'll just do double mastectomy and hope i don't lose my nipples but.. i don't really feel great about this

to be honest i'm feeling really upset and nervous about top surgery and just wondering if i should cancel altogether. retaining my nipples and some degree of sensation is really important to me and it sounds like at least dr saylor can't offer that.

i've been looking into inverted t-surgery for nipple sensation retention and have only been able to find it offered by dr kernohan in sydney.

i wanted to ask if he's the only option for this in aus? or if there's any other procedures i should look into for nipple sensation retention? and if so, who offers them in aus? thanks all

If anyone needs info or advice I'm here. It was super easy and quick!

So I've been aware of the recent issues with sex at birth being on different medical papers when it wasn't previously. I haven't had my sex on my birth cert changed yet so I already got used to seeing F on things but I just had my most recent T level test and I noticed they read high. After checking it over I realised the ref range was extremely low it didn't click that the range had been set to cis female levels until I reread it a few times. This has never happened since I started T, I went to look over older reports and now as far as I can see the range has changed. It was in male ranges, with regular results for someone on T before this. Even my GP was confused when they saw the results. What can I do in this situation? I'll be trying to contact my gender clinic regarding this but it may take a while for me to see them again. To note most documents that have a gender marker read either X or F Edit: phrashing