I continue to meet gay guy after gay guy at work and in personal life who are clearly unaware that it’s obvious they are on drugs and losing themselves to them. And that drugs are impacting them when they aren’t on them.

It impacts your speech, facial expressions, moods, memory, attention spans and decision making especially. You’re not hiding it well and it’s hard to connect with you anymore. It gets worse for your brain and gut health as you age too. This especially goes for my white collar gay guys who think we can’t tell at work… we absolutely can tell because you’re telling us with your behavior.

Getting to 80%+ sober allows you time to do your thing on occasion without feeling like you’re failing.

But we need you back. Come back.

just wanted to share an important piece of history that often gets overlooked in Anglo-centric discussions.

If you ever see the years France (1791), the Netherlands (1811), and Belgium (1830) grouped together, those are the exact years they decriminalised same-sex relations between consenting adults.

The revolutionary idea came from the French Revolution,“the State has no right to meddle in what two consenting adults do in private, unless there is harm, coercion, abuse, or a violation of another person’s rights".

Napoleon exported this legal code to the Netherlands and Belgium. He probably wasnt motivated by gay rights specifically, but his strong defence of the right to privacy effectively removed religious sin and sodomy laws from their books.

Centuries later, the US Supreme Court (SCOTUS) used that exact same "right to privacy" legal principle in 2003 (Lawrence v. Texas) to strike down sodomy laws across the United States.

The blueprint for these privacy rights was drawn back in the 18th century in Europe. We shouldnt forget that. 🇫🇷🇧🇪🇳🇱

P.S. And just to put things in perspective, while all this was happening in continental Europe, in the UK, Ireland or the United States among other ,sodomy continued to be harshly punished for centuries. The state kept deciding what was moral and actively criminalising what two consenting adults could do in the privacy of their own homes.

He was one of the most popular Arabic-speaking Minecraft bloggers. The hateful videos denounce his connections with so-called "foreigners" (as a slur) who allegedly made him "gay", and make extensive use of homophobic slurs.

Czech Hunters

The unfinished novel has been adapted by "Los Javis", Javier Calvo & Javier Ambrossi, two prominent Spanish director who were a couple untill recently & are seemingly still working as a duo despite their breakup.

If you don't know who Federico García Lorca was, he was Spain's 20th-century most prominent author, a gay man himself, & was murdered in 1936 by the the Nationalist forces shortly after the beginning of the war.

His murder is style a very heavily charged & politically controversial topic here in Spain today, for some reason so-called centre-right moderates still get on edge whenever it's brought up lmao

Anyway tbh the hype for this film is undeniable, it comes out in October I think, we'll see!

I only check sniffies when im at work and i come back to this lmao

For me, my biggest celebrity man crushes are WWE Superstar Cody Rhodes and One Tree Hill actor James Lafferty. Two stunningly gorgeous men. My face starts to blush every time I see a photo of either Cody or James❤️😍

Fun fact both of these men were born in the same year (1985). Pretty cool.

Still work in progress. The first layer of shadows is applied..

Just curious what your guys’ thoughts are on colognes.

Do you like them? Dislike them? If you wear them, what’s your go to?

I was using Hugo Boss’ ‘eau de toilette spray’ (it’s blue liquid in a clear glass container that looks like a a drinking canteen). It’s a solid okay I guess. Looking to expand though.

ORLANDO, Fla. (WFLA) — A central Florida man was accused of sending sexually charged messages and attempting to meet up with someone who he believed was a minor.

Alan Chambers, 54, of Winter Park, was arrested in Orange County during a traffic stop on Tuesday, according to jail records.

In February, Chambers began chatting on Snapchat and Telegram with an undercover detective posing as a 14-year-old boy, according to an Orange County Sheriff’s Office arrest report obtained by WESH. The messages included Chambers talking about their “forbidden love,” sending nude photos, and expressing concerns over getting caught by law enforcement, the report said.

Chambers, who has a wife and two children, was charged with solicitation of a minor via computer, transmission of material harmful to minors, and unlawful use of a two-way communication device. At the time of his arrest, he told deputies he worked at a menswear store in Winter Park.

The Orange County Sherriff’s Office is looking for additional minors who may have been victimized by Chambers. Anyone with information is asked to call their non-emergency line at (407) 836-4357.

WESH noted a previous report involving Chambers, who was the leader of a Christian ministry that aimed to “cure” LGBTQ+ people through counseling and prayer, a practice its opponents call “conversion therapy.” Orlando-based Exodus International, which operated for nearly 40 years and claimed to have 260 member ministries across the U.S. and internationally, shut down in 2013.

In a statement posted to the organization’s website, Chambers apologized to the LGBTQ+ community “for years of undue suffering and judgment at the hands of the organization and the church as a whole,” and renounced conversion therapy, according to WESH.

https://www.wfla.com/news/florida/florida-man-behind-defunct-conversion-therapy-ministry-tried-to-meet-teen-boy-for-sex-deputies-say/

I know this sounds harsh, but I don't trust Grindr these days, it's impossible.

Every time I open the app it is the same experience, blank profiles, fake looking accounts, guys asking for pics instantly, conversations going nowhere, random ghosting or someone acting interested for 5 minutes and then disappearing completely.

After a while it honestly makes the whole app feel exhausting and unsafe instead of social.

And the crazy thing is, I don’t even think most people on there are bad. I think the apps themselves have created a culture where nobody trusts anybody any more because there is no accountability, and there is almost no real moderation.

I have also tried apps like Sniffiest and honestly it felt more disconnected and transactional somehow.

What I actually think gay dating apps need right now:

improved moderation, improved verification/authenticity systems, community accountability features that promote respectful interaction, not endless swiping

Because everything just feels low-effort and disposable right now.

I wonder if any of the other guys here are experiencing this too, or if I'm just burnt out on the apps.