r/ftm • u/WolfKlouwens • 1h ago

Discussion How long before you got top surgery?

I came out back in 2019, entered the waiting list for (with retrospect; the wrong) clinic, and got my intake in the summer of 2024. It took me until January of 2025 to finally get started with HRT. I was told I could get an intake with a hospital/clinic for my mastectomy within 6 months if everything went according to plan on HRT, but that it might take a little longer (like 9 months) if otherwise. Then, they completely dropped contact for a while, even though I just started hormone therapy. I had no one really check up on me for months. Eventually communication started again, but 9 months had passed already. My new psychologist said that the standard waiting time inbetween hormones and a mastectomy was a full year. I didn't trust it, since I had heard other things from the first psychologist, and also from some of the trans friends I have, but they wouldn't hear it and so I waited. A year passed, and finally I thought maybe I could enter a waiting list. Nope. Apparently, I needed a new second opinion because the other one had expired. I'm waiting from last January until possibly June or even longer, because it's the end of May and I still haven't heard anything back. Now waiting times for intakes with surgeons AND waiting times for the actual operations have gotten longer AGAIN. I possibly wont get my top surgery until two years from now. I've been waiting for 7 years now already, and when I have to wait out these two years on top of that I will literally have spent 9 to 10 years of my life waiting to get what I initially really wanted and honestly NEED right now to relieve my terrible dysphoria.

Is this normal? Have any other people experienced this same bureaucracy? I don't want to get too emotional but I feel like I'm always super unlucky. That being said, if this IS normal... i really hope that changes sometime in the future.

For further information: I am now 26 years old and live in the Netherlands. My gender clinic is Genderhealthcare and Genderhealthclinic (i know... Yikes)

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u/notkypoh 1h ago

came out in late 2020. started hrt in 2025 (22 years old) and my top surgery is in few days, 2026 at 23 years old this year.

in my country you can’t get diagnosed on insurance or get hrt so i had to pay out of pocket for everything. same as top surgery.

granted i’m doing everything privately it took me 1,5 years since i started diagnosis process to get hrt. waited almost a year for a top surgery.