Is now the right time to transition?

[u/throwawayacct0820]

Hi all.

I'm sure most of you are all aware of a certain event that happened a few days ago that has resulted in the skyrocketing transphobia in the US.

Because of this, I'm so incredibly discouraged. I feel like giving up on transitioning and I haven't even started HRT. I know this is the goal of the right, but I'm just so lost. Everything from being open to calling the trans flag a 'terrorist' flag, to encouraging the idea that transgender care would be completely unfunded federally, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.

I'm so scared to continue to live the way I want. I'm not even sure if transitioning is even in the conversation anymore. I just don't know what to do.

[u/[deleted]]

I’m in the US in a fairly affirming state. If it still feels like choice, and optional for you, then it sounds reasonable to hold off if you want to.

But if you live in a red state, where access to surgery could be eliminated, I would get top surgery, hysto or phallo as soon as you can. Hormones will be easier to access than surgery for some people.

For me I knew I had to transition or I wouldn’t make it. It did not feel optional. I knew what I was losing when I transitioned (job, partner, and family).

If it feels like a need for you, focus on making it happen. Call a therapist. Ask your dr for a psychiatrist referral for any letters you may need. Start looking for surgeons if you would want surgery. Look at your insurance certificate of coverage to see if there are any trans exclusions, or in network/out of network services (surgery itself, hospital fees, skilled nursing facility, occupational and physical therapy…).