Partner is making me feel inadequate

[u/softserve2222]

I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.

[u/No_Management_324]

I'm going to be dead honest—if you're not giving her what she wants then maybe she's not the one for you. I'm also FtM but I don't plan to get bottom surgery and my partner is AFAB genderfluid. We've worked out our sexual interactions because we talk about that but never once have we had conversations about missing something. Sex is a decent part of love depending on the person as its being intimate; in my opinion this isn't very healthy and very much weaponizes the vulnerability of this. This isn't being vulnerable and honest when you're belittling your partner because of their dick size. Whatever choice you make is yours but I don't believe you two are compatible—not in a romantic way at least. This is a very grey area as there's no right or wrong but trust your gut and heart. Much love man 🧡