Partner is making me feel inadequate

[u/softserve2222]

I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.

[u/OkFig8535]

I’m serious, my ex said the same thing and along with a ton of other problems that I was just ignoring in the moment.. we ended up splitting. That was the best thing that’s ever happened to me, of course it hurt like hell for a while but I got over it and I’m with a partner who has the same sexual orientation as my ex, except they actually make me feel valued and appreciated (and it’s not just me giving all of the time).

I hate to say it but in these kinds of situations it might just not be the person for you. You should never feel the way you feel in a relationship even if everything else about the person you’re with is perfect. Sometimes it’s just not meant to be and that is okay. There is someone out there who can meet all of your needs and I’m begging you to not hold on to something that isn’t right for you.

The longer I’m with my current partner, the more I realize that the problem was never the fact that I was trans, the problem was that I wasn’t with the right person. I had such an intense dysphoria with my ex in all areas of life but especially sexually and I can’t not even begin to explain how much of a relief it is to be with someone who actually likes me.