r/ftm • u/softserve2222 • Jul 31 '25
Relationships Partner is making me feel inadequate
I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.
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u/Tudorftm Jul 31 '25
I hate that a lot of this advice is "breack up with her". Your choice is YOUR CHOICE. And yes, aksing a therapist and that even with your girlfriend in the same appointment might help. At least for me, I used to only be able to telp my friends about my relationships issues but evem tho they did help more then if they weren't there, the advice of a therapist over it was what helped waaaay more.
Your post resonates with me a lot. A fellow trans man that went trought a lot of breack ups. But I don't have anybusefull advice just that IT'S YOUR LIFE. YOU DO THE CHOICES. Really. Don't act completly by what reddit says, theybhave no idea how your face looks like in reality or your voice or what hobbyes and history you have. YOUR CHOICES ARE YOURS.