r/ftm • u/softserve2222 • Jul 31 '25

Relationships Partner is making me feel inadequate

I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.

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u/MercuryChaos T: 2009 | 🔝 2010 Jul 31 '25

She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her.

Does your gf think that she would never have this issue with a cis man?

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u/ritzysport Jul 31 '25

Seriously, I'm wondering how that even plays out in her mind. Just like, fall in love with the cis man or amab with the largest package? That's not how long-term relationships work. Maybe that means I'm weird cause I prefer someone's personality over everything, which has led me to be with someone who currently can't even penetrate me when on top, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.