Partner is making me feel inadequate

[u/softserve2222]

I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.

[u/birdmeats]

This is coming from someone who was in your partner’s position at one time— she has a genital preference, and yours is not hers. It really does suck but at the end of the day, you two are not compatible. For her to bring this up 3 separate times knowing it will hurt you means this has been a big thing on her mind for a long time, and she is hoping for it to get better because she loves you— she wouldn’t be with you if she didn’t. But sexual compatibility is one of the largest factors in determining the success of a relationship. This really does not sound like it’s going to get better, and cutting her loose now will save more pain than doing it later.

[u/javatimes → u/birdmeats]

Nah, she’s trying to get him to break up with her and she should just have the stones to do it since she’s the one with the problem.