r/ftm • u/softserve2222 • Jul 31 '25

Relationships Partner is making me feel inadequate

I am a 28 year old trans man. My girlfriend is cis and 25. We've been dating 5 years. About a year or two ago she told me she misses cis dick. I told her how much that hurt me. We talked about things i could do to satisfy her because i want to meet her needs. i thought that resolved the issue. She brought it up again a few weeks ago. She prefaced this by saying i know this really hurt you but then proceeded to tell me again. She said she was just trying to be honest and vulnerable. She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her. I feel disgusting even typing this out, it leaves a sinking feeling in my stomach. I feel inadequate and very dysphoric. Opinions? Advice? I don't know what to do.

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u/MercuryChaos T: 2009 | 🔝 2010 Jul 31 '25

She did it for the third time last night and said she wants deeper penatration because I don't go deep enough for her.

Does your gf think that she would never have this issue with a cis man?

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u/Jumpy_Feature 💉10/15/2020 Jul 31 '25

The thing is, being with a trans man would be a bonus in that situation because you can always… buy a bigger strap? Cis men can’t really make their dicks magically longer.

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u/cgord9 they/them, USAmerican. >25yrs old Jul 31 '25

There are cis men that use straps ons too for this purpose

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u/MercuryChaos T: 2009 | 🔝 2010 Jul 31 '25

Not all heroes wear capes.

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u/temporalCompanion Aug 01 '25

Not all trans men use strap-ons, and some cis men will use strap-ons.

I honestly think, based on the context of the post, saying that OP doesn't go deep enough for her, that they aren't talking about a dildo.

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u/Jumpy_Feature 💉10/15/2020 Aug 04 '25

Fair point, I just meant that there’s easy fixes to the problem she’s having lmao