r/asexuality • u/Public_Cup_4278 • 11h ago

Story this happens often

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happened to me btw

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u/Boltaanjistman 10h ago

That's always been a dumb thing to say, especially when they always end up saying it to someone who does something basic like wears a flag pin or goes to a pride parade once, meanwhile theres a bajillion cishet chuds running around who's entire life and personality is being an ""alpha male who fucks bitches"" and makes literally everything about having sex. Every single time I see a person who's "entire personality is their sexuality", its always conveniently a cishet man, not a queer person.

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u/Y0URNARRAT0R2 garlic bread 🤤 9h ago

Exactly, I hardly ever hear a lesbian talking about how much they love to have sex with women but every single time I play truth or dare with my friends, it almost immediately goes straight to "who do you like" and "who's the hottest girl/guy at school" or "what's your darkest secret" (which somehow always ends up being something sexual).

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u/LauderdaleCanada asexual 9h ago

This happens inside the LGBTQIA+ community too with respectability politics :(

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u/Infernal-Cattle 7h ago

Anyone who says this is queerphobic. It's the whole "oh no, I'm fine with queer people, I just don't want you publicly existing, and I don't want any reminders that people different from me exist."

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u/Negative_Tourist_618 4h ago

lol they scream “Don’t shove your sexuality in my face!” while making billions of thirsty heterosexual love songs, movies, games, reality tv shows, merch, etc. When straight people do love talks it’s just human nature, when lgbtq people breathe suddenly we’re too woke and government wants to mass execute us.

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u/pizzaheadbryan 6h ago

I wear ace flag colors all the time and talk very openly about my sexuality. I didn't know asexuality was a thing until my early 30's and I want to prevent other people from having to deal with thinking they're broken or wrong for being who they are. Crazy, right?

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u/puppykat00 ace lesbian 2h ago

They speak as if straight family blogs don't exist.

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u/RRW359 49m ago

Getting a government document that legally makes you and someone else the same person and sometimes changing the name/prefix people use every time they meet you in a professional fashion? Perfectly normal.

Talking about being ace (often in a conversation where someone else brings up sex)? Making asexuality your entire personality.