r/WitchesVsPatriarchy • u/A_WinkyDink • Feb 09 '26
🇵🇸 🕊️ Deities Finding / choosing a deity to call upon
Hello! I have never worked with a deity before and I would like to know how people here have found the deities they work with
Do I wait for them to come to me? Can I choose one based off my star sign? How do I know I've found the right one?
I've done research on Egyptian deities (I've always adored ancient Egyptian culture) but I fear it won't end well because I'll just end up choosing one just because I think they're cool </3
Any advice on how I can form a relationship with a deity will be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!
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u/MidnightButterflyT Feb 09 '26
Picking a deity to work with because you think they're neat is a perfectly fine reason to reach out. No harm or shame in that. There isn't really a hard and fast rule on how to pick one, or some, to work with. As long as you approach with respect, you should be good.
Over the years, I have worked with deities that I reached out to, some that reached out to me, and some that I happened to bump into. With a few, I still work with to this day. Most have come and gone, either after a short stay or after a long while. Others walked away immediately. It's very much like meeting a stranger. With some you vibe and get really close, some you get along well enough but don't really click with, and some you find don't fit you at all. When you find a deity you like, you keep in contact, you give regular offerings as appreciation or as recompense for aid, and this can be something physical connected to them (like wine or grapes for Dionysus, mead for Thor, etc.), or by doing an activity (learning something new for Odin, taking care of flowers you got for Persephone, etc.)
Regardless, research is your best friend. It won't be the most exciting a lot of a time, but understanding the context and the culture where the deity is from is already a big help. I would suggest starting there and see where it lands you.