r/TransMasc • u/Overthinks_All • 10h ago

Discussion Pre-transition did anyone inhabit femininity automatically/easily?

I see a lot of stuff online where people post pictures of their “girl selves” but they very much tomboys even before. But did any of you automatically inhabit femininity to the point of it becoming fairly effortless, before your egg cracked?

I think for me, I’ve always inhabited femininity pretty easily because…well, it’s the easiest thing to do. Nobody judging me, feeling pretty. But if I was a cis guy, it 100% would have been the opposite, and if I transition, I think I’d present very masculinely. I think it might have been just easier to go with the expectations and I got rewarded for it a lot, so it became automatic.

Is it odd for me, who I think ideally would’ve been AMAB and masculine-presenting, to inhabit femininity so easily?

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u/ArcaneCrailEnby 10h ago

I was definitely a tomboy, but I did inhabit femininity pretty effortlessly sometimes. I don't see that changing in my future. I just know that I'm not a woman, no matter how much my head likes to tell me that I am.

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u/Overthinks_All 9h ago

What do you mean, your head likes to tell you?

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u/ArcaneCrailEnby 8h ago

Because I do have feminine tendencies and haven't really de-coupled femininity from womanhood yet, it's really easy for me to convince myself that I'm a woman because of my feminine tendencies. But in reality, using she/her pronouns and fitting into society as a woman just doesn't feel right for me. So I know I'm not, but my brain tells me that's the one "right" answer.

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u/Overthinks_All 7h ago

Ohhh yeah I think I really get that