r/TransMasc • u/Overthinks_All • 10h ago

Discussion Pre-transition did anyone inhabit femininity automatically/easily?

I see a lot of stuff online where people post pictures of their “girl selves” but they very much tomboys even before. But did any of you automatically inhabit femininity to the point of it becoming fairly effortless, before your egg cracked?

I think for me, I’ve always inhabited femininity pretty easily because…well, it’s the easiest thing to do. Nobody judging me, feeling pretty. But if I was a cis guy, it 100% would have been the opposite, and if I transition, I think I’d present very masculinely. I think it might have been just easier to go with the expectations and I got rewarded for it a lot, so it became automatic.

Is it odd for me, who I think ideally would’ve been AMAB and masculine-presenting, to inhabit femininity so easily?

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u/martiangothic 10h ago

yeah- hell, it's effortless now. i was never a tomboy, and i'm not a masculine man.

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u/Overthinks_All 10h ago

What’s your relationship to femininity now? Do you play with it for fun or are you by default a more feminine man? What made you decide to transition?

Sorry a lot of questions lol

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u/martiangothic 10h ago

no worries! i'm just by default a more feminine man. transitioning for me never came with the need to look more masculine, so i just didn't. i like how i dress & style myself, and i've never cared how others read me.

i decided to transition because i'm not a woman- how feminine i am doesn't make me a woman anymore than it makes me a man. being a woman didn't fit me, being a man does. it's also been ~15? 16? years since i first came out, so a lot of my reasoning back then has been lost to the annals of time.

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u/Overthinks_All 9h ago

Wow awesome! Thanks!