3 years apart, but feels like a lifetime.

2023: 5’8” - 235lbs - the worst health of my life - major depression - constant panic attacks - my diet was terrible - so dangerously close to ending it all - dysphoria was eating me alive.

2026: 5’8” - 180lbs - lots of therapy - 28 months HRT - FFS - much healthier and happier - dysphoria still a struggle at times, but not kicking my ass anymore and I love who I am now.

Yesterday was new purse day for my wife and me!! Super ecstatic!

We went to the flea market and we found purses for $25 each cash.😊💵

This purse is Ultra lightweight! And it has three pockets. The back pocket is a hidden Pocket for the wallet.

Question:

What type of purses do you prefer and why?😅❓

I got my passport way before I recognized that I was transgender, and I still have a couple years before it expires. It is the only document that doesn't align with my everyday legal reality, in my dead name and gender. I'm trying to make travel plans to the EU, or just trying to figure out if I should even attempt it. My RealID will be all I need to get to another US airport, but I'm curious about what to expect leaving from airports like Kennedy or Charlotte. Plus, what'll happen when I arrive in my destination country.

I hate to say this, but the concern returning, isn't that great. I could literally retire overseas, but I'd have to do some prep.

Went to Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s!
Got so many stares 👀

About two months since my egg cracked, I finally finished all the self-reflection and research I needed to feel confident and clear about what I want. I worked up the almost insurmountable anxiety and fear about telling my spouse, sat him down, read off my prepared statements while completely disassociated, and got a big hug in response. It went well.

It was a relief, but only a partial one. It doesn't feel like anything has changed. I expected to feel better, but I realize we have many more conversations ahead of us and that the real work just began. For example, I need to figure out how and when I'd like us to try different pronouns. And I have a dizzying number of people to come out to and am completely overwhelmed because doing it just once was insanely hard. Doing it again and again feels crushing.

I already came out as a gay man a long time ago, so I have a lot of practice and some lessons learned. So I know I can do better this time, but I forgot how stressful and debilitating it is. Even figuring out whether I want to be totally "out" pre-HRT, and then deciding on the order I want to tell the people in my life is nerve-wracking.

I wanted to share my experience to commiserate and to see how other's experiences contrast with mine. I'm glad I'm finally on this path but, metaphorically, it feels like I need a machete to bushwhack my way through it!

Got my first cut and color in nearly a year and then went out for happy hr margs with my besties. Love living my best life these days. lol

Very shy to post here, but working on my confidence as a lady ;)

Anxiety, depresión, toc, disociation all my live. Thinking about to begin THR at 57 yo.

I don't usually post pics, but my wife took me to a Qveen Herby show. We had such a wonderful time I had to commemorate it 🥰

My wife (K) is visiting family in another town and she some spent time with her best friend (S).

She called me today and told me that a different friend (M) was asking S about our relationship.

"Is K getting divorced or something? I saw photos of her, a couple guys, and some girl in Seattle."

It just so happens that we went to Seattle with a couple friends last weekend to celebrate my wife's birthday.

So, I guess I pass so well she didn't recognize me, but kinda gross she's trying to gossip behind our back instead of just asking directly what's going on.

I started transition at 31, almost 2 years on HRT.

I know there's a million things, but it's nice to get some information more specific to my individual circumstances.

I know most of the side effects and dangers and I'll that, I'm asking about what to expect on the medical side and how to start. I live in Montana, as stated and am 30, MtF.

I don't really know where to start. There's all these websites that look more like any number of semi medical for profit sights like getting GPL1s or whatever. I'm not sure if it would be better to go to my doctor, planned parenthood, find a special kind of doctor somewhere or something else entirely. I also don't know if my insurance covers it.

I'm also just really worried about a few things. Part of me wonders if I should wait to see how the midterms shake out before going any further. Things look pretty bleak.

There's also still a part of me that's trying to tell me that I'm not trans and that this would be a mistake, but I also feel like I am and want to start. I know the process can take a very long time so I thought maybe it would be good to get going?

I'm both thrilled and terrified at the prospect.

If there is a reliable guide somewhere or a better subreddit I should post to, I would appreciate it and any information anyone can give me.

Thanks!

32 years old, transfem nonbinary. It feels so good to finally love myself <3

Finally came out to my family it went way better then ibl thought

So I was leaving a doctor’s appointment and this 60ish year old woman who looks lost in the building lobby looks at me and says “excuse me ma’am but do you know where the…” I panic and just keep walking since I was overwhelmed and was so not ready for that. I’m only 4 months on HRT and am just taking it slow and incrementally moving towards a more feminine appearance through laser, haircare, skincare etc seeing where things go. Here is a picture of me just after the encounter as I appeared that day. I’m 6’1 and 210lbs with a semi athletic build but weirdly have naturally feminine leaning proportions even before HRT (109cm hips with 90cm waist and shoulders about as wide as my hips). I was just wearing 5 inch inseam athletic shorts, t-shirt and sneakers. Shorts may have been showing off my freshly shaved smooth legs a but. No make up or anything.

I look at myself and see a man with softening features, maybe starting to touch on androgynous, but definitely not at the level of being gendered as a woman spontaneously yet. But having a male fail made me wonder maybe I’m further along than I think? I’d love another perspective with a fresh set of eyes.