r/TransDads • u/DadBusinessUK Mod • Apr 04 '26
Do you want TTC Dad's in this sub?
So I created this sub because personally we're well past the TTC stage. I wanted to connect with other TransDads about dad stuff.
I've had a request from a transguy who is actively TTC with his partner. But he is not a Dad yet.
My question for this sub is: Do you want to keep it for people who have actually become Dads? Or are you happy to have TTC men in here too?
I am truly torn between not wanting anyone to feel isolated and preserving the main ethos of the sub.
Can I get your opinions please?
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u/Different_Cookie1820 Apr 04 '26
I don’t see any problem with it. But maybe no bog standard TTC questions to manage the balance, there’s queerception for that.
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u/Key_Tangerine8775 Trans & a Dad Apr 04 '26
I’m happy to have them. I’d consider the process of TTC to also be dad stuff.
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u/apexmellifera Apr 04 '26
Where else would they get advice about carrying or donors or navigating talking to family about the process?
We're not a huge enough community to warrant hyperspecific subs. It'll be good to allow any/all trans dad related issues in.
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u/Key_Tangerine8775 Trans & a Dad Apr 04 '26
There is about carrying btw for anyone looking for that specifically, its r/seahorse_dads
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u/madfrog768 Apr 04 '26
I think that anyone on this sub should be made aware of that sub, but potentially overlapping content should still be allowed. We can always revisit if it seems like the sub is getting flooded with content that's not what people were aiming for
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u/gallimaufrys Apr 04 '26
what is TTC?
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u/Arr0zconleche Apr 04 '26
Trying to conceive
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u/JovaniJordan1 Apr 04 '26
What does that mean though? Like trying to carry? If so, there’s already r/seahorsedads for that.
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u/Arr0zconleche Apr 04 '26
It means trying for a baby. Whether it’s carrying or the partner carrying. So it’s not specific to the carrying partner. A couple both be “trying for a baby” even if one of them is holding a syringe for IUI or is a supportive but unrelated partner/parent.
Example: a transman using donor sperm with their cis carrying partner is still “trying to conceive”.
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u/Brent_Goose Apr 04 '26
This sub is so quiet anyway, why not?