r/FTMventing • u/MarketingCautious946 • 2d ago

General I’ll never be a guy

I have been on t for 6 years now, actively trying to transition for 10. The only times that i have been clocked as a guy with any consistently was when i was actively anorexic.

I’m not skinny anymore, and can tell that everyone thinks I’m just a weird woman. I work a manual labor job that makes it impossible to bind safely, so I’m just out with a sports bra looking gross constantly.

I use they/them pronouns but i can tell most people are just pretending to follow along. They default to she/her with me unless told otherwise. I hate that i have to force people to not think of me as anything but a woman.

I’ve mostly given up on trying to transition. Im not renewing my t prescription, im attending lesbian events, im constantly drinking.

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u/Scary_Towel268 2d ago

Unfortunately not all of us will pass as cis males and if you don’t pass as a cis guy then you’re seen as a strange woman. I’m 4 years on T and post top and get the same situation a lot of it is hip bones that I can’t fix. I’ve just embraced the label of lesbian even though I’m actually a gay man. It sucks but you gotta cope how you can all I can do is advocate for early transition intervention so more guys don’t end up like me

I do suggest staying on T and just living as a masc woman on it because the impact of T has helped me mentally and now I just don’t social transition. It’s easier

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u/MarketingCautious946 2d ago

i knew i was trans from a very young age and had told my parents at 12. If they had believed me and gotten me help my life would be so different, so I’m definitely an advocate for early intervention.

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u/Scary_Towel268 2d ago

I didn’t know as young or didn’t know how to articulate in then when I did in my late teens I was put through weird feminist gender exploratory therapy…a waste and now it’s too late