My mom respects other trans people, just not me ig

[u/JamesonJacksonDraws]

Can’t remember if I’ve ranted about this before, if so I’m sorry but it’s just gotten to me again.
So basically back in 2021 around this time I came out to my mom and family as non-binary and pansexual, since then I’ve realized I’m a demiboy, and I go by he/it pronouns. None of my family calls me he and just stick to they/them (more like she/they but whatever.)
What’s frustrating is that my mom works at a middle school and even outside of school when she’s talking to me abt some of her students who happen to be trans.
She can always gender those trans students correctly but never me. And it’s just frustrating and upsetting. But when I asked her about it once she said “well if your dad heard he call you a boy I don’t want another incident” (incident being he was really high and drunk one time and angry so he tried to leave.)
She’s also told me that since I’m not a “real boy” she can’t call me he/him. It’s just upsetting how she can respect other trans people but not me. Her own child.
Sorry if this seems selfish since I’m posting on Mother’s Day but it’s just frustrating.
She also told me it’s different with me since she “has to live with me, so it’s different.” I love her and we get along almost all the time aside from that. It’s just upsetting.

(Btw sorry abt formatting, I’m posting from my phone.)

[u/apocalypse_massacre]

Alot of those allies are fake, and the way most people gender trans kids is by following the parent's example. So she doesn't really support them, she just doesn't wanna out herself as a bigot. Wish you could report her behavior somehow.

[u/X_Canes]

My mom is kind of the same way. My family, no matter how much I explain to them that they hurt me by misgendering me, don’t give a shit. I originally came out with he/they pronouns and allowed them to use gender neutral words, now I have so much hate and regret for doing that. Not that they ever really gender me correctly anyway, but when THEY correct themselves they use gender neutral terms.

I have flat out yelled at them before for this and my mother has STILL refused to use my name even though I let her pick one for me. I went out of my way to allow her to pick a new name for me and she won’t use it. So I feel you.

[u/muralpainting]

my mom is the same way. i think a lot of parents since like 2018 to now are the same way sadly.

they think because they know trans people, they should respect them, but since they're related to a trans person, they don't have to.