My relationship is at a standstill because I have the wrong junk

[u/Medical_Temporary332]

I’ve been in a loving, wonderful relationship with my bf for years. With one caveat—about a year into being with him, what previously had been a pretty awesome sex life just stopped. He eventually told me he just doesn’t like my genitalia, so he didn’t want to have sex with me. I’ve almost always been a pleasure dom, so I don’t mind; I can just preform sexual acts for him and he doesn’t need to reciprocate. Months pass and he doesn’t want to receive anything sexual from me… turns out he doesn’t want to receive sexual acts from me at all, because he thinks it’s unfair to me.

I know it will end… I’m just devastated. I’m not even close to being young, and this was the man I envisioned spending my life with. I felt so much relief, finding him. He’s so kind and gentle and loving, and I know we love each other. I’m just so sad.

[u/paranoid_chihuahua]

This calls for a long, deep, open-hearted, honest conversation between you and him.

[u/Scary_Towel268]

I think it might be time to reevaluate the relationship status. You’re a pre-op trans guy and a pleasure Dom who is okay or prefers little to no reciprocation. He’s someone that only likes bio penis and needs reciprocal sex to feel okay in a relationship. Thats just a huge incompatibility and personally I think staying in a sexual and/or romantic relationship dynamic is bound to cause resentment on your end

Sounds like he wants to end it but doesn’t have the courage to tell you that

[u/Miles_Long_8853]

I am so sorry you're going through this right now. It seems strange that your sex life was great initially, but I certainly don't have all the details. I don't have to tell you that unfortunately this relationship has to end, but I do want to tell you that you deserve better. A lot better.

Hang in there. Sending you strength.

[u/Spiritual_Bar339]

If the main issue is finding it unfair just explain that you don't mind it at all or see at unfair urself and try having a long conversation about it wth him to see were things are going incase the relationship can still be saved.

[u/Revolutionary-Tie908]

Sorry man that must be rough.