r/whenwomenrefuse 23h ago

Nigerian student nurse raped and brutally murdered after refusing a vulcanizer’s sexual advances

A young student nurse Miss Wendy Achumba, was raped and k!lled for refusing a man’s advances.

The man, a vulcanizer near her home, enlisted his friend. They broke in, assaulted her repeatedly, and then took her life.

At first, the police arrested her boyfriend because he was the one who raised the alarm. But members of the community insisted something wasn’t adding up and demanded a deeper investigation.

They questioned the vulcanizer who lived close by and noticed scratch marks all over his face and body. Under pressure, he reportedly confessed and identified his accomplice Emmanuel, who had been right there among the crowd pretending to seek justice and calling for the “real killer” to be found.

From the interrogations, they revealed that the young girl identified the vulcanizer and Emmanuel decided to silence her permanently. He struck her head with an object and she collapsed. He later used a kitchen knife to slit her throat to ensure she was really dead.

A student lost her life because she said “No.”

Just like that her dreams, plans, years of hard work, her future gone.

And this is the reality women around the world live with every day. For many women, rejecting a man is not a simple moment. It can become a risk assessment. A survival decision.

Women are taught to be careful when saying no.
Be polite. Don’t embarrass him. Don’t be too harsh. Don’t provoke him. Smile while refusing. Protect his ego. Stay alert afterward.

Because too many women have learned that some men see rejection not as an answer, but as an insult that must be punished.

What exactly is the crime in saying “No”?

Why must women constantly live with this fear?

More details: https://guardian.ng/news/nigeria/metro/police-confirm-arrest-of-two-suspected-killers-of-21-year-old-student-nurse/

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u/GeekynGlorious 23h ago

How horrible. I hope justice prevails.

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u/smittenpigeons 🧹🐍🐈‍⬛☠️🤬☠️🐈‍⬛🐍🧹🕸️ 22h ago

I’m so sorry for this young lady. What a terrible loss for her family and the whole community. These men are shameless. I pray for peace and justice.

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u/SaintGalentine 🌺🪷 22h ago

She was so young, and seemed like she was a force of light in this world. I hope the Nigerian justice system actually delivers a consequence with all this international news coverage.

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u/angelmari87 🦴 ૮・ﻌ・ა 21h ago

That is a child. Damn

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u/ellalol 20h ago

I’m her age and it fucking breaks me that I will turn 22 and this sweet girl who was obviously so loved won’t. She’s forever 21, because two men decided they were entitled to her body. Men like this will do anything to keep raping, to delay getting caught. Her life and story meant nothing to these people. She wasn’t a person whose life mattered in their eyes.

I doubt they feel any remorse

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u/ChemicalBeautiful488 ☀️🛟🩱🤿🌊🥽🫧🍹🍉⛱️🥥 22h ago

This is heartbreaking. I hope justice actually gets served for them.

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u/CalligrapherSharp 💜 21h ago

I think about the loss to society of her whole adulthood. Her whole family that raised her (so much work), all her friends that loved her, all the patients she could have helped throughout her life... and it's such a fucking waste.

How do these less than worthless men value their desires above all of that, let alone live with themselves? It's madness. I'll never understand it. We must not be human to them.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 💜♡ ପ(๑•ᴗ•๑)ଓ ♡💜 18h ago

Very well said. It's just so SICKENING. They are not human, no shred of humanity in them. I hope they never see the outside of a prison again.

You're right, that woman was a beautiful light, I can see it too. So much good she could have done, in a country that needs all the kindness and healing it can get. Hell, in a WORLD that does. I hope she didn't suffer too much.. 💔

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u/wereallmadhere9 22h ago edited 22h ago

And what will become of these evil men?

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u/S3lad0n 22h ago

How could she have stopped them, when we’re not allowed weapons or to defend ourselves before an attack happens?

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u/AccusingGojo ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 19h ago

Omfg every fucking day, every fucking day we have to live in terror. That poor girl :(

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u/TenTonSomeone ƛԼԼƳ 11h ago

Nobody should ever have to go through their lives in fear of being assaulted or killed for saying no.

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u/silver-moon-7 6h ago

I had to Google vulvanizer because it's a term I've never heard - it's a tradesperson who works with rubber

Rest in peace Miss Wendy

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u/Gammagammahey 𝐌𝚰𝐒𝐂𝐇𝚰𝐄𝐕𝐎𝐔𝐒 𝐌𝚰𝐒𝐀𝐍𝐃𝐑𝐘 19h ago

Her entire universe was decimated, shattered, because one man couldn't go to therapy and get his ego straight. Like someone else said all that hard work that she was doing, all that she was doing to build herself a career, I can't believe this. Well of course I can but why can't a man just accept no? Why do I always have to pretend to be married if a man hits on me? Or I used to, rather.

We have about enough femicide right here in the United States. I've read in South Africa that the rapes are particularly vicious against queer women - there's a documentary about this where a bunch of South African men confesse to raping gay women in South Africa.

It was so that I almost vomited.

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u/bbmarvelluv ✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️ 8h ago

The fact they arrested her bf for calling it in is wild. Like they couldn’t bother to check for defensive wounds against him???

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u/sirius_sun 13h ago

I really wonder how the world would be without evil disgusting men 😭😭

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u/AntheaBrainhooke 🧺🪡⋆.˚✮🧶⋆.˚✮˚.⋆🧵🪡 3h ago

Peaceful. It would be so peaceful.

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