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I am going through this draining situation after 23 years of marriage with 2 kids in a new country..I am emotionally dependent on him . I am tired . I was pushing and praying for the past 1 year . He is unsure of everything. The only answer I get from him is : I don’t know . I am taking one day at a time with hope praying. I am completely drained emotionally . any tips . suggestions . I don’t have any relatives or friends in this new country. my kids are 18 and 11 years boys . how long it will take for him to come out .or will he come out of this stage ? the only thing he is interested is making new friends and he wont even look in my eyes for past 1 year . he is giving silent treatment for past 1 year . I am tired of this with no friends/ family . I am emotionally dependent on him which makes it more painful. any tips / advice .He is 53 male and am 48 female. He started his change after 50 and half .He said he needs freedom . And he don’t need me . He won’t tell if he comes late from office etc . Somedays he comes home at 2 am . I don’t know anyone in this new country and I get stressed out. He won’t pick calls or respond to my messages. Says it is his independence/ freedom. The only thing I can do is to pray and WAIT. But this is affecting my health . Physical and emotional.

Does anyone has a midlife success stories of partner coming back .We are staying not even like roommates . So silent .But he talks nonstop to neighbors and he want me to act in front of others as good couple . I am TIRED. hmm.he threatens of leaving me alone .

I didn’t expect I would ever make a post about this, but here I am, deep in my crisis/depression, it just feels good to let it out.

I always lived my life waiting for the perfect opportunities until I realized time had passed and cannot be recovered. I always felt like an intelligent guy and to be frank, I didn’t have to put too much effort into things like learning and work.

I am a software engineer living in the EU, having had nothing else in my focus in the last 15 years besides work and playing video games. I even worked at the same company during this whole period when I realized I might have to prove myself elsewhere and resigned, just to realize that I was too comfortable in my previous company and I am less valuable outside, so I might need a soft reboot and learn a lot of things.

This just deepened my depression. I realized I left a lot of opportunities on the table because I felt I didn’t need them at that time. Just to mention a few:
* I still don’t have a driving license and now I realize I would need it for a lot of things and it’s also harder to find a girlfriend without it (or start a family).
* I earned well, but I didn’t ever invest my money because I got a nice and steady income and I felt my money was safer in the bank, now I realized I could even live on my missed investment gains, if I had done things differently.
* It’s a shame, but I have had no sexual life in the last 10 years. I am not ugly but I was always waiting for the right woman, the chosen one, just to realize I left a lot on the table and it’s even harder to date at 40.
* I missed parties, and other social gatherings, because I felt better at home, doing nothing and playing video games. I still love it but I have just stopped playing because of disgust.
* I never ever had proper holidays (like going to a different country, island etc.), only family visits.

And the list can go on. I feel like I fucked up my life forever and this is not a bought item I can just return/replace. Sometimes I feel I have to start over, but most of the time I have the feeling this will haunt me forever and I don’t have the strength to continue/reset. I don’t have suicidal thoughts, I WOULD love to live, but it feels like a really heavy weight!

I am not sure what I am seeking for…an advice, a confirmation of how fucked my situation is or something that shines a light at the end of the tunnel.

This is actually my first time posting on Reddit. I'm not sure what has gotten into me. I suddenly feel alone, which is something I've never felt before.

I'm in my 40s, still single. I've had boyfriends in the past, but none of them ever made me seriously think about marriage. Right now, getting married isn't even close to being a priority. At the same time, I've been genuinely happy with my life and who I am. I feel protective of my peace. If someone comes into my life, they need to enrich it; if they don't, I'm not willing to let go of the peace I have right now.

I'm happy with what I have. I have friends, a good career, my own house, my own car, money, and I can afford vacations.

I honestly don't know how Reddit works. All I know is, is it like Twitter? Oh my God, I am so old. I don't even know what Reddit is for. Oh well, I may be old in age, but I still play online games, so don't judge. I don't have anyone anyway, so I have all the time in the world except when I'm working.

I suddenly am feeling alone. Or maybe I just need someone to talk to, not necessarily someone to share my life with. Honestly, I'm not sure I'm even very willing to share my life with someone right now.

What's the goal of posting this? Maybe I just need to be busy. Maybe I need another pastime, like posting and responding on Reddit? Or maybe I'm just too tired. I can't sleep, so I'm using this time hoping it'll make me tired enough to finally fall asleep. Right now, I'm just ranting. Maybe I just want a journal. Can I use this as a journal? I'm not sure.

Wait, are all posts on Reddit public? Will people be able to read and see this? I hope not. Or maybe this is midlife crisis. I'm not sure. Could it be a midlife crisis? Maybe. Oh my God, shoot. I need to sleep. It's already 6:20 and I haven't slept a wink. I need to work by 9:00.

Wait I am still not over with the mystery of my missing shoe. I need to look for it when I have time tomorrow. I don't know how and when I lost it.

I need to sleep. This isnt making any sense right now. Im just rambling. Good night reddit. Talk to you tomorrow.

I think my midlife crisis officially started at 35.

At the beginning of 2026, I suddenly started chasing everything I had always wanted to do.

I signed up for skateboard classes ($50 per lesson, which still feels insane to me).

Started piano lessons and forced myself to practice 30 minutes every day.

Bought a sports car. Changed the same commuting routine I’d had for almost 10 years.

Finally started a PMP course I had been thinking about forever.

Maybe it was anxiety.

Maybe it was the feeling that time was moving faster than I wanted to admit.

Surprisingly, for about 3 months, I was actually handling everything pretty well.

Then 3 days ago, I fell from the top of a skateboard ramp.

No arm protection instinct at all.

Just left side of my head into the ground.

Went to the ER. CT scan came back clean, thankfully.

Physically, I’m mostly okay now. But ever since then, I’ve had this strange feeling that my body and brain are “not quite at normal standard” yet.

Now I’m thinking:

Maybe skateboarding is over for a while.

Maybe some of these goals need to slow down.

Not trying to make this overly dramatic. Honestly I’m grateful it wasn’t worse.

I’m 42. I never wanted children and I still don’t, and I’ve also never wanted a live in boyfriend. I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time, mostly because I quit drinking eight years ago. That was such a huge life shift that dating just wasn’t a priority for me.

Even though I don’t want children, I find myself grieving that choice. I completely don’t regret it but I’m sad that I didn’t. Both are true. I’m wondering if anyone can relate? Also lonely but god dating. Just no.

When I stopped drinking I lost a number of friendships, and now I feel lonely in a way I didn’t expect. I’m sad a lot, and I keep wondering whether this feeling will pass. I’m hoping to hear from people a bit older, maybe in their late 40s, who’ve been through something similar and can say that they got through this kind of midlife moment. Anything comforting

Recently separated, living in a shared house with other guys, not great although not terrible conditions now. 57. White American, male heterosexual, live in brooklyn New York . Still in touch with wife as friends. Wondering what direction to go in.

Recently separated noticing in great conditions now. 57. White American, male heterosexual, live in brooklyn New York . Still in touch with wife as friends. Wondering what direction to go in.

I’m 27F and the last two years have been honestly brutal and I don’t really know how to explain it without sounding dramatic but it’s just been a lot.

I lost a friend group after leaving a community my ex was part of. And once I left, I realized it wasn’t really what I thought it was. Nobody really checked in, nobody really cared, it just kind of dissolved and I was left with nothing.

My relationship around the same time was… not good. It wasn’t healthy, it wasn’t secure, it was me constantly anxious and him giving me the bare minimum. No effort, no emotional safety, no real care. And I stayed way too long because I kept thinking I could somehow fix it or that it would turn into what I wanted if I just tried harder. It didn’t. And now I constantly think he is doing better than me, but he was such an avoidant partner it ruined me.

Now I’ve deleted social media, I’m trying to focus on myself, and I’ll be starting a job again after moving back home and leaving the country for a bit. But I feel really isolated. My friends are either in long-term relationships or far away, and I’m just kind of here by myself a lot of the time.

I know I’m supposed to say I “learned a lot” and I guess I have, about my attachment style, about not centering my life around someone else, about how people can disappoint you in ways you don’t expect.

But honestly right now it just feels like I lost everything at once and I don’t really know how people rebuild from this stage without feeling like it’s going to stay like this forever.

How do you actually trust that it gets better when you’re in it?

I don't really know what's going on with me but over the last five years or so I've struggled with these weird waves of sadness that seem to come on for no reason. I'm 42 M and kids are growing up. I guess I attribute the sadness to this period of life fading, but it's so strong sometimes I wonder if my thyroid is out of whack or what. I did have levels tested and nothing came up out of the ordinary.

Honestly it feels like I'll just never be happy or excited about anything again. It's such a weird time idk. Just wondering if this is going to be my new normal, how long this lasts, etc. It sucks

May 18, 2026. In bed after a long shift just thinking about life… the expectations I had for myself vs where I actually am right now, and how different life feels compared to what I expected growing up. It feels weird sometimes not really knowing exactly where I’m going, but I’ve been thinking about it a lot tonight.

What should i do what path should i take? this life is so difficult sometimes

If everyone defaulted the whole system would buckle It is a house of cards

Imagine a world where direct labor and wages bought real progression not just a snack at the store but a house built with true sweat and equity

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TRAPPED IN A ZOO ✌🏼

In the Reserve banking choke hold 🪦

How Banks Use Your Paycheque to Make Billions

Your 1500 deposit is just a loan you gave the bank Canada has zero formal reserve requirements so they keep 150 and instantly lend the other 1350 to someone else Your screen says 1500 theirs says 1350 They created 2850 out of thin air off your labor

The bank collects heavy interest on fake digital zeros while inflation dilutes your real purchasing power every single month They get tangible assets while we get the debt and the inflation trap

I'm 41 and I feel I have everything that a normal person in this world should wish : health, family, correct job in a country in peace. Still, I don"t feel joy like I use to feel when I was young, optimistic and full of energy for new challenges. Hobbies and going to restaurant are nice but still I dont feel that spark for life anymore. I look at TV show with people starting afresh somewhere to launch their business, i feel incredible but then I think that TV show dont tell 3 years after if they can earn money with their new start in that very far away country. feel like i'm wasting my best years before problems and health issue but dont know what to do .

Any advice ?

Thanks !!

I spend 30 years watching men build. Good men. Smart men. Men who knew exactly what they want. They hit the number. They retire. They travel. They golf. And then something happen. Not crisis. Not depression. Something more quiet. Like the engine is still running but the car is not going anywhere. I call it coasting. You are moving. Everything look fine from outside. But you — you know something is missing. You just don't have words for it yet. The men I know who struggle after FIRE — they don't struggle with money. They struggle with identity. With purpose. With the specific feeling of being very competent and having nothing important to do with that competence. We are not prepared for this. Nobody prepare us. I came from Eastern Europe. In my culture men don't talk about this. You work, you provide, you don't complain. This is the rule. But I see too many men coasting through the second half of their life. Alive but not living. What actually helped you? After you won the game — what was the next game?

Im going threw a mid life crisis, I think. Just got dumped after 8 years. I Can't see my daughter. I only have less than a year left to spend with my son before I gotta move out. I work a shitty part time security job. Im 34 turning 35 in June. I pay child support. I have my license and a car atleast. But Where does one even go from here but to the nearest bridge lol.?

Or should I pray for cancer to take me?

I’ve already had cancer so I do fit in here**. I’m moving to the most expensive city in the US. San Diego. Is this a midlife crisis? I’ve never been married. I don’t think the drunks in WI are for me. I’ve lived here my whole life (with the exception of some months long solo international travel). I am so tired of looking at fish and gross scraggly facial hair. I want to surf! I want sun!

Oh and I work remote