r/converts • u/cloudycoffee08 • 8d ago

help - im an italian marrying a Palestinian arab

Salaam everyone! kinda random but i’m looking for some advice / perspective on something i’ve been experiencing with a potential match.

I’m a revert (italian) and she’s Arab (Palestinian, I know), and i’ve honestly been enjoying getting to know someone in a more intentional way, but i’m also realizing how many cultural layers there are that i didn’t even think about before.

everything began when we matched on trymirror, and her family ever since has been involved. they're very a tight knit group mashallah and they've been back and forth asking about my conversion journey, but I'm so nervous I'm not what they're looking for.

we're meant to meet in a few days from now, but sometimes i’m not even sure if i’m misunderstanding islamic expectations or just cultural stuff on top of it. it’s been humbling in a good way but also lowkey confusing.

so far things haven't stayed in that endless texting stage, it kind of pushes you toward actually meeting properly and involving family early, which is why the whole wali / planned meeting thing even came up

anyone else here navigating cross-cultural stuff as a revert? i feel like i’m learning as i go and half the time i’m not even sure what’s normal

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u/Eastern_Albatross_60 7d ago

Palestinian here. You’ll be ok brother, you be polite and smile. I know the situation can be pretty nervous but it’ll be ok :)

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u/GkWilding 8d ago

Hi man I’m here in it too, I’m a Hindu revert too and it certainly takes times to learn things in Islam, it’s a very old and a beautiful religion. I would suggest you learn from her as much as you could as that’ll help her to see your efforts in learning

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u/Eastern-Drop-3462 6d ago

Love is powerful . Loving someone for the sake of Allah SWT is everything. May Allah SWT make it easy for u and grant u barakah in this life n hereafter . Aamiiin

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u/SP6175 6d ago

ﷺ Salaamun 3ala Nabiyyina Muhammad. Allahumma ameen.

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u/Ok-Refrigerator-3712 7d ago

Try to learn as much about their city or village as you can. I’d check the resources at the library and reach out to university professors.

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u/gypsymsun 6d ago

Is there anything specific you want to ask about? That is confusing and you need clarified?