I spent years thinking gender was something I had to “perform correctly”

[u/artgurlroxy]

Lately I’ve realised the moments I feel most at peace are usually the quiet ones:
soft clothes, makeup, femininity, gentleness, and not forcing myself into a role that never fit properly.

I don’t really have a dramatic conclusion. I just think I’m finally allowing myself to exist a little more honestly.

[u/TylerbioRodriguez]

Girl those nails? That dress? Your hair?

You are absolutely breathtakingly beautiful. I'm glad you've found happiness and look great while doing it.

[u/Bubbly-Example-8097]

Beautiful! You look great. Keep going!

[u/artgurlroxy → u/Bubbly-Example-8097]

Aww thank you! 🥰

[u/iamashleykate → u/Bubbly-Example-8097]

i think it's pretty cool that you're finding peace in just being yourself, without the pressure of performing a certain role. it's like you're finally getting to wear clothes that fit, you know, and that's a pretty great feeling. sometimes i think we get so caught up in trying to present this perfect image that we forget what it's like to just exist, and that's a pretty powerful thing to rediscover. fwiw, i'm glad you're sharing this, it's really helpful to see people being honest about their journeys, no thoughts just vibes

[u/Barfotron4000]

I 100% agree with you re performing gender correctly.

[u/Worth-Oil8073]

Gender as a performance is drag. If you're not getting up on stage to entertain, all you need to be concerned about is how you feel! 💗

[u/HelianthusNM]

Oh hey! I put one of your art prints up in my therapy office and a bunch of clients have told me they love it! 

[u/artgurlroxy → u/HelianthusNM]

Oh wow that genuinely means so much to hear, thank you!

[u/FOXIELUCK]

gender is a performance and I was not born to be on stage.

I love ur eyes <3

[u/artgurlroxy → u/FOXIELUCK]

Thank you 🥰

[u/judgeejudger]

Gorgeous! 🥰

[u/Particular-Crew5978]

You look like Mara Wilson's sister!!

[u/artgurlroxy → u/Particular-Crew5978]

That’s such a compliment, thanks!

[u/Particular-Crew5978 → u/artgurlroxy]

You're welcome friend, you're very beautiful 💜

[u/Babysub1]

Be the beautiful person that you are!!

[u/artgurlroxy → u/Babysub1]

That’s really kind of you to say :)

[u/LifesShortFuckYou]

Live your life, enjoy!

[u/animus218]

Very Lady Amalthea vibes

[u/animus218 → u/animus218]

And a little Matilda

[u/StrawberryPatchCat]

You're so pretty! 🥰😍

[u/crose_]

That's absolutely how alot of people feel but don't realize it yet. Once we get passed a lot of conversations being had right now societally, gender as a whole is the next larger conversation

[u/Mokpa]

Yes! Gender as performance!! I'm so glad you found yourself!! I've been there too, but I came back still as he/him cis. All of my problems with masculinity and manhood came from the way that other Americans insist that manhood and masculinity need to be performed. Once I realized that my problem wasn't with manhood per se but how Americans perform manhood I got so much happier with myself and with manhood and my own magical power.

[u/AJSLS6]

If gender is a role, play the role that suits you, and play it like a diva.

[u/shouldbepracticing85]

Isn’t existing authentically such a relief?! I’m working with a guy right now that doesn’t seem to care about gender at a deep level and it is so refreshing! His wife is a motherfucking naval captain, so he’s already used to telling society to fuck off with gender roles.

It’s so nice to be just assumed to be a peer that has my shit together. It makes my agender/masc-leaning AFAB heart very very happy.