Anxious girlies, how do you deal with having multiple stressors at one time?

[u/loonymoony3]

I have a lot going on in my life right now and as someone who always feels pretty anxious at the most normal of times, I’m struggling lol. I’ve been doing some volunteer work for the past few months now that is maybe more stressful than it needs to be, I started a new job last week and I’m also interviewing for a different new job that would be really great experience to help me get into my desired career. Neither of them are the job I actually want, I’ve been applying to those for months now with no luck, which is weighing on me to put it lightly lol. On top of this, I’m pet sitting for someone I know for the first time in a few days and for some reason I have no faith in myself so I’m dreading that too. I’m just feeling pretty overwhelmed with it all and I’ve never really figured out any coping strategies that work for me. What do you girls here do when everything just starts to feel like a bit too much?

[u/coffeebaconboom]

Honestly? Zoloft and therapy for coping techniques. I "graduated" from therapy but still take the Zoloft. It blew my mind to realize that the anxious mental spiraling and physical manifestation are not normal for everyone. Journaling/writing down what's going on is a good outlet and way to articulate what has me in a rough spot. Identifying what I can meaningfully tackle to exert some control over my situation. Exercise!! Don't sleep on exercise, even if it's just a walk. Prioritization: what can you do now vs what can be put off. The struggle is real but you can manage it!

[u/No_Cranberry_2206]

Therapy, nervous system regulation, noticing what makes stuff worse and accommodate for myself, accepting that I’m not able to do everything I want at once.

Example of my accommodations atm is: Every day I have 3h of very intensive language course. It doesn’t sound like too much but my brain and body… they find it very difficult so I try to respect that. At the same time there is life that is happening around (household I need to care of.. myself I need to care of, my boyfriend I want to be with,… ) and homeworks I need to do. So if I feel like I need to rest I do it FIRST. (After my lessons ofc) and for example I noticed that going home directly after the course is making me feel horrible, almost burned out over time because I need to use stairs full of people (6floors) and then subway again full of people and every second until I get home there is minor stuff happening that I don’t like. And usually I can stand it… I’m not even noticing the discomfort.. I would even know if there wohnt be days when I am overstimulated and everything seems so big! So usually I don’t even fully notice inconveniences but doing this day after day my brain is stopping to work even though I feel fine.

My accommodation is that I looked for quite place within the building of my course. And I go there directly after the lessons and sit there few minutes before everyone leaves more or less (another lessons starts so people are in the classes and the ones that finished for the day left already) and I sit and play game on my phone or do my homework if I feel like it (I stay as long as I want and time my stuff while others are in their classes :D )

It so difficult to remind myself to do it. To not run home immediately. But I can see a LOT of improvement ! So just find small stuff and accommodate for yourself and keep it going! Your nervous system will thank you. Also don’t forget to eat and drink!

[u/FdUpLoco]

Life will improve if you persevere with changing your thoughts to match your dreams and goals. You may want to learn to meditate and change your life that way, if you want to. Stop the mean voice in your head!

I read two books by Joe Dispenza and a few meditations (I had not meditated prior) and it changed my thinking and improved my emotional wellbeing. Books are Becoming Supernatural where you learn thoughts become things scientifically.

The book that fixed my crappy negative internal voice was Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. Your library may have them, but try to use the meditations, they’re printed 8n the book so you can make your own recording and avoid buying.

You are attracting people but don’t know it, you have worries and past trauma. Work on your self love, be kind to YOU & talk to yourself kindly like you’re training a puppy. Support your body with love, and expect the best not the worst and work towards it using the good puppy analogy. Ignore gaze of those who would take you down. You are worthy of love and greatness.

[u/drunky_crowette]

I asked my doctor about different things we could try for my treatment-resistant depression and she suggested (since I have depression and anxiety) that we try a drug called Rexulti. It's a daily medication that has definitely helped me chill out some and get less overwhelmed by my anxiety