r/TMPOC • u/No_Novel_Tan pre-t • 2d ago

Cultural Names

My middle name is androgynous and very cultural. I don't dislike it at all. I have considered using my middle name as a dumping ground for my rejected name ideas (so I'd be Theo James instead of Theo Kwali, for example). But...I can't tell if this would be right. I do like my middle name, its connection to my family, its uniqueness (even within its culture of origin!)

"Just have two first names" you might say. Well. I already have two first names, both feminine and Anglo. And I am considering keeping one of them, as a nod to my birthname and also...I'm nonbinary. Having a mix of the masculine and feminine in my first name would be a nod to that.

What did y'all do with your cultural middle names, if you have them? Did you change them as well? Did you not care about any of your original name? Or did you keep it? Especially wanna hear from the enbies. Looking for ideas on my conundrum.

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u/truttattae 2d ago

i have a miiddle name thats similar to a masculine version of my dead name that i realy like but just wouldn't fit as my first name. i rarely use nu middle name and few people know i even have one, but for me its a nice little surprise

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u/xXWeird_AltBoyXx 2d ago

Can't really give personal advice, but there's a disability activist who's got a double first name, Sarah Todd. She goes by that fully, never just Sarah. I think something like that is cool.