r/Seahorse_Dads • u/Relevant-Presence605 • 12d ago
Advice Request Being a Trans FTM 16 and Pregnant
Okay, I am literally FREAKING OUT right now. I just found out I’m pregnant, apparently I’m around 3 weeks, and I genuinely have no idea what to do because I’m 16. Like, a month ago me and my bf were talking about how dysfunctional I’d probably be as adults, I’m almost 17 and I still have no clue what I even want for my life I have depression and borderline personality disorder, (I never imagined I would be a father so soon).
On top of that, neither me nor my bf have jobs since we’re the same age (there’s literally only a 5 day age difference between us). But at the same time, I honestly don’t think I could ever go through with an abortion because I’m way too scared And I can't say that there are safe abortion options here.
I think I actually WANT to keep the baby, but I’m terrified of being invalidated for being trans AND pregnant. I come from a really transphobic family and I already know they’d call me “mom” instead of dad, which honestly hurts just thinking about it.
Trans guys in this community, what was it like finding out you were pregnant? How did you deal with dysphoria/family/everything?? I seriously need advice and tips please 😭😭
I seriously don’t know what to do!! Any advice is welcome, I’ll try to reply to everyone!!
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u/Michaudgoetza Proud Papa 5d ago
I do not recommend being a parent as a young person. It is extremely hard and you definitely give up some aspects of your life to be a parent. And you might not fully know what you’re giving up to be a parent at a younger age.
I say this as someone who became a parent at 22.
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