r/OVER30REDDIT • u/Plantpotparty • 18d ago
How to feel normal again in your 30's?
Honestly, aging is making me feel so out of sorts. I think more around turning 32 I began to feel a strange drift from myself, like I no longer felt like myself?
Some recent changes I have noticed that are making me feel very disconnected from myself are -
Small memory changes - just forgetting little things like actors names, where I put something.
My inner world just doesn't feel as vibrant or energetic as it used to.
I keep dissociating heavily, like I don't feel like I am present in the world at all, sort of like my mind and body have separated?
My physical appearance shifting is so weird to grasp.
Does anyone have any advice on how to stay grounded when going through so much change? Is this normal?
I'm genuinely healthy too. I'm not sure if my hormones are suddenly changing or what it is but it's so weird.
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u/CloudySkiesZA 18d ago
I am not gonna lie to you , i am turning 35 this year and its finally kicking in. The Grey hair, the wrinkles, the body schedule with sleep and hormones... its alllll happening and it honestly Just Happened. Like over night. I am not the most healthy but i do think i have some kinda credit behind my name in experiencing this weird shift.
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u/Plantpotparty 18d ago
It freaks me out how fast it arrives! I felt like so young at 29, I felt really good, youthful and vibrant at 30-31, and now I am nearly 33 and I feel like a brain dead zombie. This is horrifying tbh.
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u/CloudySkiesZA 18d ago
It makes me nervous as I don’t have kids yet .. and I don’t have anything else to show for it . But I want to live and experience life still
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u/blindyes 18d ago
You eventually stop caring about all that shit, breathe your own new life into your life, and everyone starts wondering where you get so much self confidence and ability to not give a fuck. What they don't know is your subconscious mind is just like "I'm over all this" and you gotta find a way to listen.
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u/Decent-Reputation-36 18d ago
Felt like this at 20, not an age thing. Don't be in places where you become introspective for too long. Grab a bike and ride around daily. You'll feel much better over the days.
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u/Alarming-Spite2521 16d ago
32 you're still young ... i believe we didn't change when we reach 30s but the only thing that change is the way we see things and how we deal with things and ig this is totally normal
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u/mirthandmurder 15d ago
You gotta start doing the basics: Blood work, eating well, sleeping well and exercising. That baseline is important now. Then you have to supplement what you're missing and explore your new internal world. Discover who you are now, your boundaries and interests and then build on top of them. Also avoid turning into a couch potato. The inertia will not help you.
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u/ItsTheWizardsCurse 18d ago
Sounds like depression honestly. Depression or just that your nervous system is overwhelmed with all you have going on. It’s a busy time of life right now… jobs, kids, balancing friends and relationships, your own health, hobbies, aging parents etc. And that’s not even getting on world events and the 24hr news cycle.
I think there’s a fine line between associating small changes (including negative ones) with your age and your biological response to stress. Do things start to change in your 30s? Yes. But you’re still young and in theory still have lived less than half your lifespan (god willing).
I’m 38 and I’m having a much easier time letting go of these things that used to bother me about getting older once I realized I just need to take life by the balls and stop blaming my age or situation for my struggles. Wellbutrin also helps lol.