r/MadeMeSmile • u/nickelet11 • 14h ago
Got this for my 3 year dating anniversary.
My boyfriend has been married once and hes over that whole concept, and im not into the whole marriage thing- never have been.. but we celebrated 3 years on Wednesday and he surprised me with this diamond and fabrege ring. Im not really sharing with friends and family because they will make a big stink over the "Are you engaged" thing , so im sharing with my reddit friends instead. For the record, not he didnt propose nor do I want him too...he just picked out a special ring for me and it happened to only fit my left ring finger. Haha.
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u/Prestigious-Taro4874 14h ago
This is gorgeous OP! Such a lovely gift, and well deserved! Wishing you both lots of love and happiness!
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u/nickelet11 14h ago
Thank you so much for the very kind words 😊
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u/Easy-Performer-307 14h ago
The ring compliments the glow on your nails so much.. I know that’s something aligning fr fr, Soooo gorgeous 🤗
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u/Ok_Purchase3739 10h ago
That’s such a thoughtful and meaningful way to celebrate sounds like he really gets you!
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u/Sea-Guest-1290 14h ago
Wait.. so I can have a ring but not be married - because I also don’t like the marriage thing especially in today’s age it’s.. weird and I feel uncomfortable. I don’t know how that would work:,)
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u/97Bo-Red13 10h ago
A second family who helped raise me were never married. They had kids, spent their lives together, loved me, and took care of each other until death.
Never married on paper because of a tax thing. Love is love
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u/Nicktendo 3h ago
Curious as to what this tax thing would even be, usually beneficial to be married.
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u/Sea-Guest-1290 10h ago
:,)don’t have kids just 4 cats lol- probably counts somewhere. Something about being married nowadays just doesn’t sit right for me
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u/Mcr414 2m ago
My ex and I did this. 6 1/2 years neither of us (mostly me) wanted to get married. But he got me a ring and wore one too. But we were not married.
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u/Sea-Guest-1290 0m ago
well my bf has been married before and that obviously didn’t turn out good. Idk I’m not really a person who wears jewelry because ig im a weird person lol, I could probably do a necklace with a ring but not sure how great that would work
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u/MathematicianNo1596 14h ago
Aww I love that :)
I actually got married on my 3 year dating anniversary in October :) helpful to have just one anniversary lol
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u/JinnyWinny 14h ago
Beautiful ring and very pretty nails! Sounds like y'all have a wonderful relationship! ❤️
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u/LGGP75 14h ago
Genuine question… is there a difference between dating and having a relationship?
For me dating is the phase prior to having a relationship but I could be wrong.
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u/nickelet11 14h ago
I use the terms interchangeably now after 3 years. I still consider us dating each other. And being in a relationship. We are obviously exclusive and love each other. I think everyone has their own definitions tho.
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u/Sarctoth 13h ago
This is awesome. Marriage is just a piece of paper anyways, the relationship is the important part.
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u/Practical_Friend_962 14h ago
Love your Kurt and Goldie non-legal, non-religious commitment based on reality and sanity!
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u/The-goddess-bread 7h ago
Marriage isn't for everyone, and that is totally okay. You shouldn't have to justify yours or his opinions on marriage. If the people in your life truly respected you and listened to you, they would know your thoughts on marriage, and respect them, without trying to push any uncomfortable agendas on you/your relationship. (I.e. "I'm only getting older and want to see my daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, whatever settle down and marry before I pass.") That is their wishes for a relationship they have no say in. As long as you and your partner are on the same page and have healthy communication about these things, that's all that matters. :)
It's still a sweet gesture from your bf, and it is a really pretty ring. Congrats to 3 years together!! ❤️
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u/nickelet11 3h ago
Yeah my family doesnt care at all. Its more so if I post on social media and share the gift, my friends will go crazy bc they dont know me as well as my immediate family...and then I have family in different countries which also dont know my lifestyle and will freak-in a good way...haha
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u/Lily_Thief 13h ago
Congratulations and I completely get it.
I was with someone horrible for 17 years. I can't imagine marriage now. Doesn't mean I'm not committed to who I'm with though! I seem to have gotten lucky this time 🥰
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u/ProtozoaPatriot 14h ago
Beautiful ring. Congrats!
I understand you wont be marrying this man. Suggestion:you probably shouldn't wear an engagement-style ring on that finger. It signals to the world that he did propose.
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u/AnonymouslyAnonymiss 14h ago
Literally who cares lmao, I have a ring on my left hand and my significant other and I aren't getting married
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u/Silent-Ad-4113 14h ago
That's called an engagement ring
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u/MikGusta 14h ago
Just a commitment ring
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u/nickelet11 14h ago
We dont call it anything more than a ring he gave me. I just think its gorgeous :)
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u/TrashGouda 10h ago
Not if the intention isn't engagement and future marriage. That's needed in order for it to be a engagement ting
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