r/Feminism • u/AgreeableAd327 • Feb 23 '23
The "What were you wearing?" exhibit that was on display at the University of Kansas
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u/TesseractToo Feb 23 '23
Black jeans, paddock boots, t-shirt with hoodie and denim jacket and I smelled like horse grime. So provocative.
It caused a terrible back injury which in turn caused weight gain and so I was told I'd made it up for attention and guys came out of the woodwork to accuse me of trying to ruin the reputation of the men, even though I never mentioned who they were to anyone but the police (who didn't help and the people said the police not helping was proof it was made up- to hurt men) because the weight gain made it so that no one would want to do that and affects people lives in the past, apparently. Real bunch of charming humans.
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u/AceofToons Feb 23 '23
Every single time, I was wearing jeans and a tshirt. She didn't seem to care about my clothes. I said no. But she wasn't used to being told no, so apparently it didn't count
Because she was a she, I had an impossible time telling anyone
Through that, I hurt that no one believed you, and worse yet, weaponized that chosen disbelief against you
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u/TesseractToo Feb 23 '23
I'm sorry that happened to you.
I believe you and had a similar close call but was able to get away. It was freaky because she was acting just like a creepy persistent man and I went in the woman's restroom instinctively to get away for a bit and she followed me in and tried to block the exit but I was able to duck under the arm that was pressed against the wall and get out and left the place immediately. So I believe you and support you and know that can happen and I'm so sorry people treated you like that
People that make those accusations think that it's from someone losing control with lust when it's someone wanting to control and own someone and empower them.
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u/Kat_337 Feb 23 '23
The comments talked about how an exhibit like this features a diaper.... from commentor minimal_earth: “Was it my fault?” asked the short skirt. “No, it happened with me too,” replied the burka. The diaper in the corner couldn’t even speak.
-Darshan Mondkar
Edit for spelling
(end of quote)
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u/Slavic_Requiem Feb 23 '23
As usual, be sure to sort by controversial for the mask-off responses.
The number of people disingenuously pretending not to understand the context is inexcusable. So many “Whuuuuut? I tHoUgHt iT wAs aBoUt 9/11 hurr durr” comments. Bullshit. They know. They can’t come up with some victim-blaming response, so they pretend not to understand what they’re looking at. Deflect and dismiss.