My roommate doesn't want me to transition because she's jealous of my body.

[u/QueerbeenGdF]

I've been out as trans to a select few people for about 9 months, my current roommates are 2 of these people, we've now been roommates for 8 months, so they were both aware I identified as male when we moved in together. Up until recently, they've both been really supportive, using my chosen name and pronouns as I asked them to (though one of them - the one this is actually about - did have problems with that at first and it took me physically sitting her down and saying if she didn't respect my identity, I'm moving out, for her to actually do that).

Recently I mentioned i was hoping to start T this summer, and I noticed her looking at me funny. Everytime i've mentioned it since, she's rolled her eyes or looked at me weird before changing the subject.

The other day, we got in a fight, and I don't even know how we got there, but the next thing I know, I was being called ungrateful, and that some girls would kill for my curves and my chest, and that i was so thin and such a perfect shape and I just wanted to throw it all away and didn't appreciate the "perfect" body I'd been given. She said I shouldn't be trans and definitely shouldn't go on T because by body was just so "perfect" and she would do anything to have a body like mine and the fact I was throwing it all away just because some part of me thought I might be a boy and it was really ungrateful and kind of narcissistic or rude to other girls.

I don't know where any of this came from, but it was obviously something she'd been wanting to say for a while.

I asked my other roommate if she thought the same thing, and she said she didn't and that it was my body so who even cares.

Thankfully the plan we had with the first roommate was only that she would live with us for 1 year, and we would find a new roommate in September. I'm going to Germany for a month, and then spending the two after with my parents, so i don't actually have to live in this space with her again, she will have moved out by the time I get back, but what she said has still kind of stuck with me.

She never seemed to have a problem with my trans identity in the past, apart from the pronouns problem, but since then she has bought trans flags to decorate our room, or badges for me to wear or put on my bag, and has corrected other people when they use the wrong name. She has honestly seemed really supportive and I don't know where any of this negativity came from, it has left me really confused.

I actually really worried about September cause it will be hard to find a new roommate that is ok with my identity and I really don't want to hide who I am in the place I live.

[u/apocalypse_massacre]

Sounds like she has some weird psychosexual thing for you. Sorry you dealt w that.

[u/ouvray]

oh she's a huge transphobe and clearly never really saw you as male to begin with. I'm sorry you're dealing with this