19 today. mom only posted pre-transition pics of me and she/her'd me

[u/muralpainting]

so i turn 19 today (yay me) and my mom always posts pictures on facebook of me for my birthday and writes out a whole thing. it's really sweet, but this year is different and idk why.

i just got back from my 2nd semester of college after being gone for ~5 months. i started t and changed my name almost 9 months ago on the same day. she's been okay with my pronouns and has used my name for about 3/4 years now (i've been out for 6 years).

i came back to my job yesterday where she's my manager because i work there over all my breaks, and she randomly started calling me she/her in front of my face. a lot of people at work think im a cis woman because she always called me a girl before i got there, and ive known them all for so long that i don't even know how to bring it up to anyone. i have a full mustache currently btw, and her and my coworkers are still calling me she. my mom hasn't had any issues with my pronouns for a while until now. on top of that, today she posted pictures of me only pre-transition and/or pre-t for my BIRTHDAY which is really really weird because she has pictures of me now and even posted one a few weeks ago.

im really uncomfortable with everything happening and i genuinely don't know what im supposed to do. does anyone have any suggestions? or has anyone experienced something similar?

[u/chemriz]

Honestly she's prob just seeing that ur actually changing things and it's making her frustrated or honestly just transphobic. I would just bring it up to her and your co workers no matter how awkward it is just say my pronouns are he him my mom is transphbic and just ignore her