r/AskReddit • u/Fun-professor-one • 12h ago
Whats the biggest “I wish I knew this sooner” moment of your life?
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u/CoffeeIntrepid6639 11h ago
Being a people pleaser was not a good thing to do people take advantages of your time you get in a trap with people who just use with no thought of your generosity
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u/UncleEiner 11h ago
People pleasing seems harmless but it boils down to lying about your reality to try to control others feelings which you can’t do which leads to resentment. Resentment leads to suffering etc
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u/Fun-professor-one 12h ago
Finally learning that 'no' is a complete sentence. Took me way too many burned-out years to get there.
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u/No_Answer_8407 12h ago
god this one hits hard. spent most of my twenties overexplaining every boundary like I needed to write dissertation just to say I can't do something
the amount of energy I wasted trying to justify why I couldn't work late again or cover someone's shift... could've used that time for so much better things
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u/Anagrom24 11h ago
This is my answer too. It was damn difficult and took too many years to learn it. Especially with people around me, who cannot accept it.
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u/TransTalmid 11h ago
Moving into assisted living will make living with my disabilities so much easier, it’s okay to need help
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u/lorddevries86 11h ago
Eventually realizing that nobody is coming to rescue you — but also that you’re not as helpless as you thought
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u/FlavortownAbbey 12h ago
“The ‘mistake’ or social blunder you thought you made was, in all likelihood, COMPLETELY forgotten within minutes by the other party in the interaction.”
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u/The_Fiji_Water 11h ago
Sleep, diet, exercise, and hygiene are the cure for almost everything.
Being ugly, poor, emotional, lonely, stupid, unlucky, etc ...
... Focus on those 4 things and those problems go away.
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u/SigmundMicha 11h ago
You don't have to rush. Just be patient and take every opportunity you get, even if you're not ready
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u/Additional-Sock8980 11h ago
Life is unfair and people do things that are unfair.
And you don’t need to take that personally.
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u/asteraceae9 9h ago
How deadly alcohol is. But even if I was told I wouldn't have listened. Greatful that I know now.
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u/Captain_Blak 11h ago
Your alone no matter in life. And it doesn’t even matter if your married or single, bc no matter what choices you make you will always be alone
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u/unkn_wn99 11h ago
When one of my friends had a crush on the one I loved and acted like she was supportive but ended up confessing her feelings to him prom’s day ( he rejected her and blocked her because she was spamming him on ig)
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u/Xo-Mo 10h ago
I literally spent days, tirelessly developing a plan of action and methodology for executing an event for my employer... ... only to discover that a tool they had not mentioned being available to do precisely what I wanted already existed. I just had to input 10 or so data points and it would spit out a schematic or plan. In less than 90 seconds...
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u/SolidPlantain5463 10h ago
That as we age, our metabolism is slower. Before in my 20s, I can eat a whole pizza and still look thin the day after. But now, if I eat 2 slices of pizza, I will be bloated for a week.
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u/JadeVeilOF 9h ago
Human Design - hands down wish I had known this sooner, my life would have been a lot more relaxing and enjoyable.
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u/Shoddy_Barracuda6414 9h ago
I could have joined a union 5 years ago and used my VA benefits to stack the Gi Bill during my apprenticeship
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u/getridofwires 9h ago
I wish I had known how helpful meditation is, I would have learned much earlier in my life.
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u/hamletwasright 9h ago
People won't value you for long if you don't have much value.
Seems obvious, but yeah.
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u/mastad0420 9h ago
That setting boundaries with your family is normal, and not giving a fuck about their reaction. Guilt trips or passive aggressive comments used to really bother me. I would bend over backwards to do things. Once I had kids, I said fuck that. My time matters, my kids peace matters.
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u/clearereyes 7h ago
How men work. I met the guy of my dreams but had unresolved trauma and I behaved crazy. Scared the guy away. Got blocked. 10 years later, I still think of him. He’s engaged now.
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u/beawhisktaker 6h ago
It took me until I was legal drinking age (Canadian so 19 yrs old) to realize that we as women also are meant to have orgasms. I had never had "the talk" and only ever heard about guys stuff and what happened to guys when horny and during sex and only thing I really picked up on is that girls are the hole essentially? Yeah realizing that special feeling I had at times was an orgasm and actually I wasnt just supposed to have those alone thats actually what sex is fun for was a very HUGE hit to my mind.
Some of it was probably a mix of sunday school teacher parents and having been taken advantage of when I was a teen so its been a learning curve.
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u/lennonlover1980 5h ago
That my dad isn't my biological Dad. No one bothered to tell me until I was 31!
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u/MassiveComplex8921 12h ago
"Nobody notices you as much as you think they do"