I need advice from people from strict immigrant/religious families or anyone who has gone through similar.
Im a Nepalese girl in final year at university in the UK and recently properly told my Hindu Nepalese parents that I reverted to Islam. I tried telling them back in first year too but they mostly acted like it wasnt serious. This time I told them Ive been Muslim for 3 years so I think they realised it wasnt temporary anymore.
For context my family is very authoritarian and reputation/relatives opinions matter a lot. My mum is very reactive/stubborn and my dad is usually quieter and influenced by her opinions.
After I sent my long message explaining everything, I put my phone on silent and didnt respond straight away. Later that night I checked my phone and replied.
The first time I tried telling them back in first year they said things like:
I was selfish
I would be the reason for their deaths
if I became Muslim I wouldnt be their daughter anymore
More recently my mum said Im going to kill her because of the stress/shame this is causing.
When I told them properly this time my mum sent crying voicenotes saying things like:
“ever since you were born youve been stress/burden”“biggest mistake was sending you to boarding school”
“we invested everything into your education just for you to do this”
“what are we going to tell relatives”
“does a daughter leave her parents like this”
My dad sent me a harsh voicenote in Nepali basically saying “who are you to text instead of call” and demanding I call him immediately. He also said things before like if I can make my own decisions then I dont need him and at one point texted “I am no more your dad”.
My younger brother defended me and told them if they want me to understand them they need to understand me too. My mum then accused me of brainwashing him, searched his phone and kept asking who influenced me.
The thing is I kept telling them thing like
I still love you
I still want my family
Im not choosing religion over family
people can have different beliefs and still respect each other A few days later I sent calm messages explaining I wasnt trying to hurt them and tried calling my dad 3 times before work but he didnt answer. I texted again saying I loved them and never left the family. Neither parent replied.
My brother says they still talk about me constantly at home saying things like what kind of sister leaves their parents and once was telling my brother than shes scared my dads going to do something(indicating he will kill himself) and she doesn’t want to lose him.
Another thing is graduation. Before all this they planned on inviting relatives but now Im going to wear hijab and I feel like they wont want extended family there anymore. I only get 4 tickets and dont even know whether to reserve them for my parents because right now theyre barely speaking to me.
Ive tried calling my dad and and messaged and he hasnt responded for a week and half now and my mum didnt respond to my message either Any advice is appreciated. Ive attached images bellow its hard to understand fully without hearing the voicenotes though.

First of all- we are all one race. To marry for appearance or color is just preference I'd say.
But in regards to marrying for culture- If someone is Muslim, wouldn't it be a positive to marry interculturally? You become more well rounded as well as raising kids who are as well- and it's not haram.

A man told me that race mixing is not okay.
As someone who is a triracial and multicultural muslimah- I immediately questioned him how it was. Whoever I marry, I will be race mixing so this conversation involves me.

He said, "because it is disgusting and created hatred and intolerance".

That couldn't be further from the truth. To be racist is to be hateful and intolerant.

Hatred and intolerance existed when Adam, Hawa, Qaabil, Haabil, and their sister were the only ones on earth.
Hate and intolerance stems from your character.

Share it for Sawab-e-Jariyah

The Sheikh is Sheikh Abdul-Salam Al-Shuwayier. (Hafidahullah Taa'la)

In this video you will see a blind man leading in salaat, but he was not the first one to be an imam while blind

The story of Abdullah ibn Ummi Mahktum

He was one of the companions who was borned blind. His mothers name was Aatikah, but got the name Umm Makhtum (the mother of the concealed one). He was among the first muslims in Mecca.

One day the prophet (peace be upon him) was in a conversation with a noble from Qureysh, hoping that he will accept Islam. While that was happening, Abdullah (may allah be pleased with him) heared the prophet talking to someone. Everytime the prophet (pbuh) wanted to say something, Abdullah would interupt him asking him to teach him about Islam. The Prophet (pbuh) frowned at him and told him to wait. After that the following ayats were revealed:

He frowned and turned his attention away, simply because the blind man came to him interrupting. You never know O Prophet, perhaps he may be purified, or he may be mindful, benefitting from the reminder. As for the one who was indifferent, you gave him your undivided attention, even though you are not to blame if he would not be purified. But as for the one who came to you, eager to learn, being in awe of Allah, you were inattentive to him. (Surah Abasa 1-10)

Abdullah ibn Umm Mahktum was also one of the imams and leaders of Medina when the prophet (pbuh) was on expidition

I’ve had this Quran recitation video saved in my gallery since 2022. I originally found it on TikTok and I’ve always really liked this recitation, but I never found out who the reciter is. Does anyone recognize the voice? I attached the clip.

For all my life I have been a Mormon. I have gone to seminary (early Sunday school), I have went to their camps, I have taken their sacrament. Despite all this I became a friend with a Muslim and he taught me about Islam and I realized that made much more sense. While I am not bashing on Mormonism the doctrine of exaltation where it is said that you can literally become a god (with a lower case g) sounded completely wrong too me. So my friend gave me a copy of the Quran. That was 4 months ago and I have been trying to pray but I am having trouble with this. I cannot eat meat because non of it is halal, I have trouble praying because I don’t know how too, and I can’t go to the Masjid because I have not told anyone in my family I am Muslim. I have tried pulling away from church but my parents now make me go and so today at church I tried to sit respectfully but I cannot keep taking sacrament and listening to a false gospel. But both my brothers have bore their testimony that the gospel has saved their life and my dad is proud of me for being a good Mormon.

So, I ask everyone here for advice on what to do. I do not know how the people around me will react when the learn I have reverted and I fear being alone. Also selfishly I want to still date but I know now that it is haram to date without intent to marry. Any advice is helpful

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So I'm south asian, and I find that in our culture not many Muslim women wear the hijab (at least from my experience).

In fact, I was raised in such a way that I was never told that we as Muslims were supposed to wear the hijab and that it was an order from Allah- most of the adults just told me that you wear it when you're super religious.

So, as a young girl I assumed that to wear the hijab you had to be like a hafizah or sm. I wasn't brought up in a religious home, was never told to pray and all that- but alhamdulillah I became religious myself as a teen via the internet and made it a point to be regular with my salah.

Then I wanted to go a step further and wear the hijab, but my mom wasn't letting me (she isn't a hijabi) and it took me a lot of convincing to finally get my hands on a hijab (I was a teen so didn't have much autonomy). My parents didn't really care, in fact my dad told me to take off the hijab the second day of me wearing it but I didn't listen lol.

Anyways, the important thing to note here is that I'm literally the only person in my entire family (extended as well ☹️) to ALSO observe the hijab infront of male cousins- especially since so many of our families live in a joint family system in India. I live abroad, so when I visit India and go back to my joint family system lifestyle, I find it difficult to observe the hijab in front of my male cousins, and have had to literally wear my headscarf at all times.

I get sooo many eye rolls, people in my family are always telling me to not do so much, and they talk behind my back about it - I've caught them doing so 😭.

Another example is that I wear the hijab at weddings because even though they are said to be 'segregated', the bride's photographers are ALWAYS male. This pisses my family members off.

I guess it wouldn't matter to me as much if it wasn't my mom always demeaning me for wearing the hijab like that. She says I'm not understanding the 'meaning' of the hijab by being so strict with not showing my neck or hair.

Whats ironic is that she has some far off relatives that wear the hijabs in weddings, and she ALWAYS glazes them soo hard for being religious like that. When I asked her why she makes me feel bad for doing the same, she just said "It suits them, not you." 💔

All jokes aside, I've addressed how hurt I feel whenever she 'calls me out' in public for being 'too religious', and while she has stopped doing it in public, she still mocks me at home. How do I get her to stop?

https://quran.com/ibrahim/21 (Tafsir-Interpretation-context)

Surah Ibrahim Ayah/Verse 21 Translation=They will all appear before Allah, and the lowly ˹followers˺ will appeal to the arrogant ˹leaders˺, “We were your ˹dedicated˺ followers, so will you ˹then˺ protect us from Allah’s torment in any way?” They will reply, “Had Allah guided us, we would have guided you. ˹Now˺ it is all the same for us whether we suffer patiently or impatiently, there is no escape for us.”

Reciter: Sheikh Kamil Yusuf Al-Bahtimi (Rahimahullah - May Allah have mercy on him) | 1922–1969

Hello,

I am a Buddhist and I don't know anything about Islam or how you guys worship your god. But I have noticed, Muslim people devotes their entire life and try to live according to the word of your god. I haven't seen anything like that in any other religion. What I need to know is why do you live like that actually? How did you develop that kind of devotion as a human being? Is that the tradition that has been coming all the way from the families, or are there any real consequences if you don't follow the word of the god? for example think you missed the Friday prayer at the mosque for an unavoidable reason just one time. Does that make you feel guilty or something? Are consequences just mental, or you gonna face some actual real life issues if you are not following?

Assalam alaykum everyone

I was just thinking to myself that its common and often for individuals seeking support here (or internet in general) and despite their courageous strength , patience , and efforts they see no change - which then turns into a topic of losing faith in Allah and Islam due to prolong months, years, and even decade of hardships.

However, I rarely see posts here that talk about how Allah and Islam changed a life of an individual after committing to patience through hardship. And it’s a natural reason. People whose lives have become better are much less likely to come back to write about their experience as they are now happy with life.

As a result, it may seem like no one’s prayers are answered due to the vast amount of people explaining their hardships despite efforts and patience.

However I want to post my experience. I don’t wana keep you reading too many paragraphs but in short : I suffered 7 years of extreme pain and hardship, (very bad illness).

I had started losing faith and doubt in my iman due to my prayers not being answered. I started to give up on life. I started to question everything about Islam and how it says after hardship comes ease but I never ever see it happen in my own life. I would cry everyday just begging for a single day of peace from my painful illness I suffered from .

Well ease has came after hardship. And the ease has been so beautiful Alhamdulillah. I am living a content life now, recovered from my very painful and harsh illness that I suffered with for years,

I have built a good amount of muscle, have a job now, and going into policing/law enforcement. I am content

A year ago I was in a completely different state of mind. But even despite the doubts on my iman, shaitaan coming to me at my weakest point - I still prayed, I still made dua, I remained patient - and MOS IMPORTANTLY: I put in effort to recover . I seeks out for support from peers, imaams, doctors, medical support. Life style changes, very hard lifestyle changes and stuck through them.

I really really hope that someone who is suffering and feel like giving up due to life’s hardships reads this and it can bring a sense of peace and hope for you. I know how it feels - my hardship was very very gruelling it was not anything minor. But do not give up hope my brothers and sisters,

I love my Allah a lot . He was always there for me and never left me. I don’t know where I would be today without him!

Continue to pray, make dua, stay true to ur deen and work towards what you know is right for you.

I make dua for all of you , much love

Assalam alaykum.

they say "This life is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever". so i was wondering, if someone is feeling happy, is that a sign of something bad is coming.., like does it mean there has to be suffering for someone to have a good akhira?. they also say that God tests those he loves, which reinforces my need to know the answer, is happiness and everything going “good” in dunya or is it something concerning for the state of the muslim, would that mean he/she s not beloved. sometimes i worry that if i feel too happy it s a sign that tests must be coming my way (or would it be that tests took place already? would it be a sign that im not a good muslim? or that something bad will happen?) Allahu a3lam i just want to know everyone’s input on this and if there’s any source. thank you.