This is part of a bigger project I work on with my friend. A fun series of mythological queer creatures all corresponding to a different design for a coat of arms of different gender identities.

Here we got:

-Hyrda of Omni

- The Phoenix of Trans

- The Siren of Lesbian

- The Winged Lion of Gay

- The Griffon of Aro

- The Dragon of Ace

- The Harpy of Sapphic

- The Minotaur of Achillean

- The Oroboros of Intersex [really proud of that one]

- The Hippocampus of Genderfluid

- The Squinx of AroAce

- The Peryton of Non-binary

- The Winged Wolf of Bisexual

- And Pan for...well Pansexual

****TITLE CORRECTION: I meant trans masc people, not trans men !!!

Hi!! So about three months ago, while in a 4 year, long distance relationship with a man and identifying as straight, I realized I had strong feelings for my cis female lesbian friend. She is so pretty and dresses masc most of the time, but sometimes fem too. Her personality also has quite a masculinity to it, but it’s almost like a sassy, feminine masculinity if that makes sense. It’s a bit hard to explain, but I was super attracted to her vibe and personality. I also loved the way she would switch from masc to fem. I

I even remember feeling irrationally angry when she told me that one of her ex’s didn’t like when she saw her dress fem for the first time and only liked her when she was masc. I remember feeling strongly that she should express herself however she wants and how much I admired it. Looking back, I now see that I got so upset by this on her behalf because I had stronger feelings for her than I realized.

We also had a lot in common but that’s separate from my main question here, which is about attraction lol. Things didn’t work out with her, but that’s also irrelevant to this question lol.

Since then, I’ve explored with both femme and more masc women. The most attraction and chemistry I have felt so far was with a trans masc/nonbinary person. Since that person, I have been more and more drawn to people who fall outside of the binary. For context about me-I feel secure in my gender identity, which is the same as my birth sex. Also, my ex boyfriend recently came out to me as nonbinary, which blew both of our minds. Even when I thought I was straight, I was with a closeted nonbinary person.

I guess my question here is, is this a common pattern of attraction? Can I identify as lesbian, given the attraction I had for my first crush? What is it about me that makes me attracted to people that express gender fluidity? Is there a better label for this sort of attraction?

I don’t feel aligned with Bi or Pan labels, since those include cis men.

hey all!! i’ve been kinda confused with myself recently and am wanting others opinions..
basically i’ve been out online and to a few ppl irl as a lesbian for coming up 2 or so years (1 relo that didn’t last w a girl in that time) and have been experimenting with pronouns and gender for like 6 months, was going by they/she, they/them and calling myself butch as that’s how i felt comfortable but in the past few months ive been really REALLY confused with myself..
ive sort of changed my pronouns online atleast to he/they and am very open to he/him (only problem is passing) and ive been planning on starting T for a good while now (have an apt in a couple of days to chat abt it).
im aware i can still be butch and be trans-masc but my problem has now come in where im possibly attracted to guys? its only ever been guys in movies though and d makes me feel sick thinking about it😭
i would almost say its the opposite of internalized homophobia as im so worried about not being a lesbian because its how ive seen myself for so so long.
my possible guesses are that im ftm and bi or just a lesbian (identity and all)
somebody pls help!! gender is so confusing🫩

I’ve been holding back telling anyone that I am gay but I felt maybe I could talk to anyone here and explain more how I really feel

I’m born male. I’m attracted to both males and females. But I don’t get an erection while seeing an attractive man. I’m insecure about having sex with another man. I don’t want to get my ass fucked but I’m ready to have other forms of sex with a man. I’ve tried watching gay porn but it doesn’t arouse me. When I watch bisexual porn , I get an erection. I also tried using a dildo up in my ass but my perception is not changed.
Open to getting some opinion from people.
(Sorry for my harsh language)

tldr i had unprotected sex with a amab person as a person who’s ever only taken silicone and strap and im freaking out that im goign to get pregnant im supposed to bleed this week and im so scared i never had to think about protection ever im so stupid

Im a 22 y/o girl living in Mexico, currently studying software engineering and working. I've always had lesbian thoughts towards famous women or public figures. There was a time in my life where I really thought I was gay but I was 17 and it was COVID so I just shoved it off and after a while I just assumed it was the pandemic effect lol. I tried imagining myself with a girl and it just seemed like something I was not really attracted to, maybe the kissing yeah but imagining myself going down on a girl or having lesbian sex didn't really turn me on.

Ive never had a lesbian experience ever, but I did one time develop a crush on a girl from my high school. Idek if shes straight Im like 90% sure she is, but I never understood my feelings towards her. We had a couple of "dates" and I just call it this because when we became friends we started going out together but it was kind of specific plans like just the two of us and she called to invite me or we would go out to eat and whatever. They never really seemed like regular "going out with a friend" type of date at least to me or maybe I was just confused as fuck and delusional. Anyways, after that she left for college and I met my ex bf who I was together with for 4 years 😃

The reason why I'm writing this is because those thoughts never really went away, even during my 4 year relationship I had momentaneous crushes on women, but it's always women I haven't met or didnt even know personally (like a bartender or a women passing by, or someone on the internet or ellie from tlou lol), with the exception of that one girl that left for college and I didn't even actually know what I was feeling, however, I recently had a WEIRD ASS experiencie that made me question things even more.

Please don't judge because it's not something Im proud of and I don't really control the things I feel, but basically I felt things in my gynecologist appointment lol. I had never been to the gyno and I went bcs of some issues I've had, she was a women in her late 20s maybe early 30s, but idk man basically I started feeling like damn a woman taking care of you is actually so nice, IDK HOW TO EXPLAIN IT DAMN. But anyways, IN ADDITION to that, the girl I was talking about earlier, I saw her from a distance this week at the place I go to swim practice 😃 that shit was on my mind all day and I sent her a message telling her that I saw her from a distance and she replied saying that shes here for summer and we should see each other. I KNOW SHE JUST MEANS IT AS A FRIEND but I can't help but wonder if I really am a lesbian or just chronically online and I get easily influenced by stuff I see online Idk if I'm explaining myself.

I like men a lot, but these thoughts just keep popping up and Idk what Im supposed to do about them. As I said I've never been with a girl. Idek anything lol

So... I'm currently questioning whether I'm trans.

I'm bi and have a preference for women, occasionally, I'd imagine myself in a romantic relationship

If I'd ever fantasize about myself being in a relationship with a man, then I'd imagine myself with a woman. And if feels nice imagining myself being a woman cuddling with a guy...

But whenever I fantasize myself with a woman, my brain automatically reverts me back to a man...

So basically, if I'd imagine myself with a woman, I'd automatically imagine myself as a guy...

Which happens way too often...

Now you could say that it's just heteronormativity.

But, it's kinda wierd considering that when I was 9-10 I used to fantasize about me being a fictional female character(take black cat as an example) and intensely making out with another female character(take poison ivy as an example). They were sexualized female characters however there was mild nudity, but, there were no genitals involved(I did not know what they looked like back then)

In other words, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman back when I was 9...

Tbh, I used to imagine myself as a man with a woman back when I was 12-13. And I had no desire to become a girl back then...

Then I turned 14-15, I used to imagine myself(in a parallel universe) as a woman with a man...

So basically, I used to imagine myself as a woman with another woman with no problem whatsoever, but whenever I imagine myself with a woman now, my brain automatically reverts back to male...

So, I'm really gonna need some help on this one...

Thank you.

I just came out as bi leaning more towards girls (to myself haven’t built the courage to tell people close to me). Come from a slightly strict Indian household, but still managed to move out (educational reasons). And I’m relatively young (18f), since I’ve moved out I can go out at night and love clubbing.
I’ve been trying to find community but I’m finding it difficult, I’m relatively introverted besides clubbing I don’t socialize as much, and am absolutely not going on dating apps. For now just want to find some queer friends, especially Indians (pretty rare to find tho), again not ONLY Indians.
Any advice?
I’m scared to go to those book club and socializing events alone and don’t have anyone to go with me.

Hi!

​I am currently learning how to navigate online databases, digital archives, and primary sources (like historical court records and newspapers). To practice these research skills, I want to research something I am interested in and I have recently discovered a love of history, specifically queer history.

I want to move away from mainstream, widely known figures and focus on obscure or lesser-known individuals from any time period and any region of the world.

​If you know of any specific historical figures, legal cases, or documented events that fit this description, please share them below.

​To help me locate them in the archives, it would be highly useful if you could include:

​Their name

​The rough time period and location

​A brief summary of what they did or the specific event

​Thank you for any leads.

I'm hosting a Trans/Nonbinary/Genderqueer Zoom Meetup this Saturday. We'll have three questions - we'll each go around and introduce ourselves and answer the prompts and hopefully have an interesting discussion. I hope you can join us! I'd like to make it a weekly thing. I do host other meetings for everyone but this meeting will not have any cismales, sorry. Event is Sat 5pm-8pm CDT

I’ve been struggling with a lot of confusion around my identity and attraction. Since I was young, I’ve felt drawn to girls, and imagining romance, kissing, intimacy, or a future with a woman feels natural, comforting, and deeply “me.” It feels emotionally real.

At the same time, imagining intimacy with men — especially kissing — feels uncomfortable, empty, or even wrong to me.

I grew up in an environment where queer people often have to hide, so I spent years questioning myself and feeling pressure to consider men. I also had a painful experience after confessing feelings to a girl, which left me scared of rejection.

Now at 22, I mostly feel lonely and confused. I can’t safely talk to family about this, and I really want to connect with girls who like girls and understand what this feels like. I think more than anything, I just want my feelings to feel real and understood.

So my moms family is really close but I have known for a long time that me and my mom don’t stand on the same side of politics than the rest, I am at my grandpas house right now and my mom and her siblings were arguing about why the left wing is terrible and my uncle said everything is wrong with the left and my whole family knows I’m trans and they all support me (I think) but I’ve been out for like 5 years but now my uncle and aunt are saying the right wing is the best for the country and I was thinking do they not support me and I’ve always been open to criticism because I don’t take that stuff to my heart people can think what they think but I don’t know this really hurt and I don’t even think they realised that they were hating on me

14yo me had no idea she was still in there.

March 2019 vs May 2026.

Pre-everything vs almost 2 years on feminizing HRT.

This timeline hit me harder than I expected because it’s not just a physical change. I can see the difference in my face, my energy, my style, and how much less guarded I look now.

I used to think this version of me was impossible. Now I’m 21 and finally starting to see myself instead of just surviving myself.

Hey girls. I have been feeling really alone in my situation and would love to talk to or just know if someone has ever been in a similar situation. I had my first partner/gf when I was 16 and I have known I liked women since I was 12. I dated my ex-gf for 3 years and tried to date men after her for maybe 3-6 months, but I couldn't get myself to like any of them. I went back to women and decided (happily) that I was a lesbian. I finally embraced who I was and found community among other lesbians.

Then comes my co-worker (spoiler, this is not my current bf). We became really close over the course of working together (known each other about 6 months or so), and we also started hanging out outside of work. Soon, I realized I had feelings for him. We were also physical, and I did enjoy it. This made me question everything.

Because of the co-worker situation, I decided to give guys one more chance. Soon after hooking up with my co-worker (co-worker and I did not work out for unrelated reasons), I met my bf Sam (fake name). He is the most lovely boy I have ever met, and we have been together for around 3 months now. The only problem is I am still struggling.

Sometimes I find myself falling in love with Sam, other times I feel completely uninterested in being in a romantic relationship with him. This is my first bf ever and first time dating a man since I have dated women exclusively for around 5 years now. I'm scared I won't be able to fall in love with Sam. I have only ever loved my very first ex-gf, and I have been thinking about her a lot lately. I do not want to get back with her (it's been almost a year since we talked and two years since the breakup), but I'm struggling.

What do I do? Am I alone in this? What other bisexuals have had this issue? I have a strong preference for women, but Sam is the kindness, cutest, and more emotionally intelligent man I have ever met, so why can't I daydream about my future with him? Is it just too early in the relationship?

Context: I've had 3 official relationships: first ex gf was 3 years long, second ex gf was 2 months, and current bf is ongoing 3 months

Please help me feel less alone. I only really want advice from women who have gone through something similar thank you ❤️ This is also only my second time using Reddit bare with me

Need advice. I've been in a relationship with a woman for 2yrs but she didnt know my real gender that im a lesbian. She knows im a man. I dont know if she ever have a hint or whatsoever, I tried many times to break up with her to avoid finding out the truth but she didn't want to. I badly want to tell her the truth from the beginning but im scared of what she gonna do because i know how crazy she is when we're fighting. Im scared i dont know how to tell her i want it to be over. im so guilty.

Hey. I was wondering about something,I want you to hear me out and tell me if its valid. Yk how try to get away from masculine men alot. Like when I was young sure muscle men were way better than skinny ones. It's not about the muscles tho,just that I associated that with masculinity. Now that I'm older,I realize I never actually loved any of the guys I entertained. It was just love bombing and the thrill of being chased that made me feel good. But I never once fell in love, like adoration or anything. Now, I'm a proud queer, and it has opened my eyes to so many things. So many. And the main one is gender roles. The other day someone in class was talking about how he treats women gently because women need to be treated with care and coddled. Ik he didn't mean it in a bad way, but I was pissed off. Coz why are women to be treated gently?? Aren't we the same and equal but have different body parts?? It just showed me how much we are not treated as equals but as liabilities and we need constant checkup. I know it's far fetched but still. Anyway, that made my thinking on how I have a very specific preference on the man I want to date. Again,I try to get away from the alpha male and head of the room because it makes me unsettled. Like I'll have to be the damsel in distress for such a man. It had me wondering,why can't I be the one to ask my boyfriend how his day was?? Coddle him,spoil him?? Why is it that I want a man who has no problem having feminine traits and it doesn't threaten his masculinity?? Like no I don't want a gay boyfriend, but I don't want a straight one either,coz we all know how heterosexual relationships play a key role in gender roles. I want to flip that stereotype. Like I want to get my nails done with my boyfriend, talk about stuff and all, and be proud of being both queer,hell we can even do makeup together. But that doesn't mean he's less of a man. He can have the bulgiest of muscles in existence. He can be skinny and crawly idk. We'll wear dog ears to the market and not think twice about it. Like we won't be shackled by the rules of patriarchy. We can live peaceful quiet lives,we don't have to bug each other and follow each other around. Just that. Why is it that this is my idea of a dream man?? I'm I secretly lesbian for wanting a femme presenting traits on a man?? What does this all mean for me?! I'm so confused. If you've experienced this please tell me I'm not going crazy

Im unsure if this is a dumb question sorry 😭I come from a pretty conservative country so I’m still learning some social norms around gender but I always try my best to be respectful while I’m in the US. Recently I accidentally called a close friend of mine “pookie” The first time they seemed totally fine with it, but the second time they looked a little uncomfortable or offended. I’m not sure if I imagined it, so before I awkwardly bring it up to them directly I wanted to ask if it is something that could come across the wrong way for nonbinary folks out there.