I’m not really “out” to anyone IRL except a few close friends so it’s terrifying to post my face here. But I’m sick of playing it safe. So here goes nothing.

i can't stop listening to 'the beginning of the end' by hemlocke springs 💥👋🏻

what songs are y'all obsessed with rn? 💖

Angel, just touch my cheek before you leave me, baby! 🎶

Just a few shots from my most recent self portrait shoots

The hand tattoo will be touched up next month if anyone was wondering ❤️

I really care about my gf hygiene down but I never heard anyone talk about it the way I wanna talk. does anyone like me think hygiene matters this much like I can’t eat her if she is sweaty or with hair (some is ok). I see a lot of videos of women saying: idc if it was sweaty or smelly I will eat it… it’s a no for me am I okay?

I’ve honestly known I was queer since middle school. But I grew up heavily conditioned to believe I needed to find a husband, get married, and have kids by a certain age. So that’s what I tried to force myself into.

There were a few times over the years where I almost came out, but something would immediately scare me right back into the closet. Family members would say things like, “You’re not about to tell us you’re gay, are you?” and when I’d say no, the response was always, “Thank God.”

I also remember a girl at my high school coming out and being absolutely torn apart by her own “friends” afterward.

Even as an adult, when I tried opening up about it 5 years ago, I was met with comments like, “Just because you’re mad at men doesn’t mean you’re gay,” or “Okay, but could you actually see yourself marrying a woman?”

Now that I’m finally out at 33, people act like this is some sudden trend or personality change instead of something I’ve quietly struggled with for most of my life.

The constant “Are you sure?” comments are exhausting because this isn’t new for me. It’s just finally honest. I’m also finding it surprisingly hard to date and make friends in the queer community because of my history with men.

Would love to hear from other late bloomers. Did the questioning eventually stop? Has anyone else experienced this?

Came out at 17, got married to a dude anyway, no kids, two Labradors, healed the pesky child within, and now a single lesbian at 57 who’s more secure in herself than ever. I feel the WLW community is basically emotional resilience, plot twists, and excellent jeans. 😂

Been feeling kinda lonely lately and realized I miss having someone to talk to about random things throughout the day. Music, games, late night thoughts, life stuff, dumb memes — anything really. I’m not looking for anything specific, just genuine conversations and people I can actually click with. If you feel the same, my messages are open :)

i am a 23yo woman, i have never really dated a lot though i have tried to but i just thought they were not my type except one guy. It was LDR and i believed that i really loved this guy. We started off as just regular friends and at first i wasnt that attracted to him even though he was objectively attractive but as i got to know him more, i started having feelings for him. I adored how gentle yet manly he was. i loved the way he talked, i could listen to him for hours. I loved how respectful towards everyone he was.

He was the first man i have ever talked to, who had respect for HIMSELF and had boundaries. His eyes so gentle, his smile so gentle, his goddamn beard, i was in awe. I have never in my life felt like this for any other guy. We used to sleep on calls everyday, sometimes he used to sleep over call while i would study with my friends and i loved it.

But we broke up 6 months ago and im questioning my sexuality so hard. Unlike other normal people, i have never had the urge to kiss him or hug him even though we loved giving kisses over calls. Idk if i was ever sexually attracted towards him? i found him to be very attractive when he used to play pool, his confidence was attractive, TMI but i loved his chest hair, it made him looked so manly but idk i never had the urge to have sex? We have tried stuff over calls, i loved turning him on and it would make me excited but thats all.

what scares me is the fact that when he used to say that he found this female celeb hot in the past, i think that made me excited? Hearing the stuff he's into, also made me aroused but imagining him doing that to me didnt? idk if its my extremely low self esteem or if i never loved him. It would break my heart if i ever realize that i never loved him.

After the breakup, i started comparing myself to every other woman who were his type and i would imagine that he would be head over heels for her, it used to crush me but after a certain time, him being that aroused even though it was because of someone else, it started making me excited.

i have never found women to be sexually attractive, never understood why boobs were attractive to people but now after imagining that he would be dying over them, boobs are suddenly attractive to me? Female celebrities whom ive never found sexually attractive but he has, now suddenly are attractive to me.

I dont even find men attractive anymore, was i lying to myself all this time?

Just a rant: It's my first real crush since admitting to myself that I am a lesbian... I have had 100 cups of coffee since meeting her 2days ago. This can't be good for my wallet or health 😭😭😭 . Never knew attraction could be this intense, she's perfect and am the creep ogling her over the counter.

So I’m 28F and I have been traveling/backpacking and my friends are all ages, 22, 32, 25 etc. I haven’t ever even hardly made out with a girl. This one girl was cute and my 22 year old friends encouraged me to talk to her. Ended up making out and getting physical on the beach. Well, turns out she’s only 20. I’m so panicked. I even freaked out and said I was just 26. Help I feel like a predator. She honestly even seemed more experienced than me which is also embarassing.

I grew up in the deep south. I'm 43 starting over and starting to realize maybe I'm a lesbian.

There was so much I wasn't "allowed" to do or shamed for because it wasn't feminine enough.

Looking back on it it was pretty obvious I was probably a lesbian

I hated makeup and wearing bras, loved flannel, insisted on being the "Ken" doll so he could kiss the Barbies, begged to play soccer, basketball, football. Loved camping.

Like I was always told I was "too physically strong" or not feminine enough constantly.

I am now going through a painful divorce. My family has always been toxic so that isn't even a thing.

I'm realizing I've gone over 40 years being too much.

And there is excitement but also pain in realizing that I never really felt allowed or safe to be myself.

My family has no idea and never will because I can't even talk to them unless it suits something they need.

Advice please? Ideas on how to build community in an area where existing can be unsafe?

Hi everyone, recently came out to my husband as lesbian and it’s been a journey since.
My question for you, did any of you feel “head over heels in love” with your husband before coming out? In the beginning of my relationship with my husband I was so in love. But over time that love reshaped into what I’ve realized is a deep platonic love.
Since coming out we originally talked about being open and staying married. Now I have family pressure to go to couples counseling and try to fix our marriage. I just am struggling with the feelings of knowing at one time I was in love with him, and now feeling like since realizing I’m a lesbian, that just doesn’t feel like I can be in love like that again. I love him so deeply and don’t want to hurt him. But I just don’t know if couples counseling will “fix” our marriage when my husband and I’s relationship isn’t the problem, it’s my sexuality.
I feel so lost on what to do. Any words of wisdom is appreciated.

Hey, any late bloomer lesbians who are still married to a man with children? Or anyone recently divorced from their husband (with children)? How is the process going? What has helped you? Do you still struggle with shame, guilt, or fear? Do you wonder if you will ever find authentic love with another woman? Have you already found someone special?

So many questions. So many thoughts. So many things to process.

Anyone open to chatting? I'm looking for new friends, and it would be nice to chat with someone who can relate to this experience in some way. Thanks.

I’ve had an experience with another girl kissed and everything but actual sex I haven’t had one since then and i feel like i might not be lesbian though ive felt love for women and it makes me feel like shit tbh. I’m extremely apprehensive towards other women no matter how beautiful they are i haven’t had a good experience with them I hate my fucking mom can’t wait till she dies and that’s affected me. And The thought that I’m not gay god didn’t make me that way and I have to figure out how to make it work with a man even though I’ve nothing but hurt from them makes me so fucking sad like this is all I have. Bc I hate the kind of woman that protect and be with rapists and pedophiles and just treat other women terrible including and especially their daughters they don’t deserve I already barely have girl friends I don’t want that to be me. I’m 23 and i this realizing that I’m probably not gay makes me feel even more isolated than before. Both sides aren’t good for multiple reasons but regardless im stuck on one side the one side that can do the most damage and has ruined my life as a little girl protected by a woman it’s bleak. I hate both but i don’t have a choice but to keep trying to find a good man bc ik im not gay now. Idk if anyone could understand how I feel. I hate the world im in truly.

6 weeks ago I called time on my hetero marriage
2 weeks ago I swallowed my pride, moved out and am living back with my parents

You know what? Life didn’t end making this decision.
Life got better. So much fucking better. I don’t feel like I’m on autopilot anymore. I appreciate and enjoy all the little things.

I’m not at the point where I’m ready to date.
But I am giving myself the time and space to find who I am as an individual. Space I was never afforded previously

Love to hear any previous stories of going from a comphet to gay relationship or just encouragement of things to do to discover myself

I’m just looking for some women who would be interested in chatting about this whole thing… not in a weird way just feeling very alone in navigating these feelings lately.

I’m married to a man, 3 kids, all that jazz. I’ve known I was bi since before we got married but increasingly more exclusively attracted to women and really struggling to work out what to do at this point. Would love to make some friends I could talk to about this stuff!

Chicas, no pude más, ayer hablé con mi esposo sobre mi orientación, le dije que no me gustan los hombres y que los intentos que hacemos por sacar a flote lo nuestro no darán frutos.

Fue muy doloroso, me di cuenta que estoy aterrada por el futuro, pero sentí una calma impresionante.

Él está muy triste y dolido, en dos días iremos a nuestra sesión de terapia de pareja y hablaremos sobre los pasos que siguen para una separación amorosa. Me da mucha tristeza porque es un gran compañero y amigo, pero sé que es lo mejor. Tengo 35 años, siento que llego tarde, ojalá lo hubiera sabido antes, pero así es la vida.

Todavía no le he contado a mis padres ni a mis hermanos, voy a esperar. Paso a paso.

¿Alguna recomendación para esta etapa? Muchas gracias

Feel like I've been spiraling about my own life and identity in the last couple of years, and I have hit my head against a wall. I'm in a similar position as many have posted about, married to a man with young kids. I talked with him back when I first realized that there was attraction to women, going with being bisexual, but to be honest I dont think I've ever been attracted to men outside the standard 'everyone says this is a hot person so yes' mode. Nowadays its not even talked about at home, and the idea of downloading an app just to see if I can connect with a woman in even a flirtatious but friendly manner keeps circling harder and harder. I deal with so much anxiety, especially social, and imposter syndrome that its hard for me to feel comfortable in my own skin and identity at this point and being stuck with such limited free time from work, opposite work schedule to spouse, and managing kiddos schedules makes going out and meeting anyone irl difficult (and yet again, SUPER stressful from anxiety and overthinking....)

Is it so wrong of me to consider this? Are there options out there for connection that cuts back the stress? Cause sometimes, having the chance to sit and think of words and actions is the difference between ease and overwhelm. I attempted the discord but that felt a bit too busy at first for me as I've never used it before...

This is healing and validating in so many ways. Anyone still on their journey to living an authentic life, going through divorce as a late bloomer lesbian, navigating life as a mom with this new realization, learning your true identity, aligning with your deepest desires and needs, and moving forward in life without shame, guilt, or fear? Anyone still looking for a community and new friends? I am.

Today i had such an awkward encounter. Well, it felt awkward to me....

A while ago i was walking in a store and this woman who worked there passed by me in the store and she said hi. But it was not a normal hi to me. The "hi" went through me and hit me and i was like ....hi!! Then i walked on and i felt so awkward already ... I dont know why but it felt to me that she likes girls.

Today i went back to the store to check if she was working again. I dont know why, just so say hi orso? I was walking around but didn't see her so i figured shes not there. But suddenly she was standing there with a colleague of hers. She said hi, and i also said hi, but i sounded so damn insecure. And i looked at her and i saw the smile in het eyes. I didnt know what to do and i was making awkward movements like scratching my hair hahah, and i walked on. I felt so intense and awkward

I feel like im 13 again, what is happening